Dealing with an Emotional Partner

United States
March 16, 2008 10:36pm CST
How do you cope with an emotional partner? By emotional I mean someone who is dealing with depression/anxiety/stress on different levels every day. Preferrably without medication because of the damage it can do to the body. Outside of constant support and love and trying not to react to emotional outbursts, what other way can a person cope and help another cope? There seems to be so many people nowadays not knowing how to cope with life. What would you do to help that type of person?
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@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
18 Mar 08
Oh man you need to ask my poor husband that. He has to deal with my mood swings all the time. But I need my time alone in order to sort out my issues. Once I have the time alone and feel more sorted, I am more balanced!
• United States
20 Mar 08
Time definitely helps. What do you do if it is constant. There will times when my hubby is down for days, even a week or longer. It gets really nerve wracking when it occurs for such an extended amount of time. Every little thing I do or say is scrutinized and picked apart. Really irritating!
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
20 Mar 08
I am really sorry, I can understand your frustration. Not that it helped me much but some people it may, has he had counseling?
• United States
20 Mar 08
No counseling yet. He is too stubborn for that right now. I do believe something must have happened long ago for him to be going through this. I am definitely trying to be more understanding and not take it personally. Thanks for your concern. I will talk to him about it.
• United States
17 Mar 08
It sounds like your talking about me. LOL But I have one thing that works best for me. Just leave me alone till I get my head straight. I am taking my meds for these reasons as well. but when I don't have them and go off the wagon so to speak. I notice everyone just leaves me alone. I also find it works best for me this way. Who knows what works for that person better than them.
• United States
17 Mar 08
LOL. Each person does deal with depression/anxiety/stress differently. It can be so tiring to have to watch everything being said and done around an emotional partner. I myself like to be left all alone so I can "get over it". You made valid points. Thanks for the response!
@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
17 Mar 08
to be honest the best things you can do for these types of people is to lift them up and to always be there for them. never threaten to leave and never call them crazy. they need to know that they are loved no matter what mood they are in and the other person needs to be intune with their mood for that day to see what needs to be done. most of the time these people have gone through some trauma in their past and feel very down on themselves and really need to be uplifted by that special someone, even when that someone is almost at their wits in. God bless
• United States
17 Mar 08
Well written comment! It does makes sense as to why they may act the way they do. Support and love needs to be constant, as well as prayer in dealing with the emotions. Thanks for the response and may God bless you too!
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
17 Mar 08
I had a n emotional partner and he always cry whenever we have an argument and i dont want that because he is showing weakness to me
@aowaow (1517)
• Indonesia
17 Mar 08
The only way to make a hole in a rock is by long years of raindrops. What we need here? Patience. Those emotional person can be "tamed" with the passionate spouse. You can see a relationship can be maintaining longer is because there is always a passionate person who always be the receptor side. They did not strike for what he/she is nagging about. To listen to. This kind will respect kindly, because they are always feel "un-secure" inside them. And they found that calm person is the right type for them. Calm doesn't mean silent forever, but calm is knowing the right timing. When they are in emotional state, what we do is try to be very careful in making the steps, try to read every signal from that person. The more he/she shouts out, the better he/she will become, but we need to know when to be in silence, when to talk with the correct statement. So, plant them a security is the key to make them feel safe about you. Then, they will respect you more than you can ever imagine.
@draco666 (174)
• United States
17 Mar 08
While everything is relative, I am in a similar situation and its not easy. First I asked what I wanted out of the relationship, then if a can mental take the extra stress, and last can I help my self well enough to help them. After that I had my anwser on what to do to help out.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
17 Mar 08
i think its is ensitive issue. it is always hard to handle those people. its more difficult when you are more close with them.Only care, love and undersatnding are the way. without medicine i think councelling can make it easier.
@nengs10 (3188)
• Philippines
17 Mar 08
Such individuals really need ample rest and bonding with their loved ones to cope with their emotional outburst. This case will actually lead to something worse if just left unsolved. As a partner, one should be very patient and understanding. It really entails a lot of sacrifice.