Do you hate birthdays?

Philippines
March 17, 2008 9:57pm CST
Hi. My birthday is coming up and I'll be turning 27 this 26th of March. I'm not used on celebrating my birthday. I just sleep and pretend its an ordinary day. It's not that I'm alone. I have a family, a big family of 6 actually. But I feel it's not important to celebrate my birthday. I think it's a waste of time and money. Plus, I feel my friends would not come and I will feel lonelier. Do you also hate celebrating your birthday?
9 responses
• United States
18 Mar 08
I do either you are looking foward to it and it is a big let down or you are not and it still is. After you turn a certain age nobody cares that it is your b-day anymore. you know once your over 11
• United States
19 Mar 08
that makes me a little bit sad. I think that you should do something extra special for yourself. Everyone need do indulge in themselves every once and a while. It sound like it might be good for you a whole day just for you maybe a spa day or just a day at home on the couch with all of your favorite things.
• Philippines
18 Mar 08
Wow, thank you for all your insights! I'm trying to change my mood and feel good about my birthday.:) I already tried to understand myself and knew where this was coming from but the feelings of loneliness is always there. It started when i was young like 9 yrs old and my parents completely forgotten about my birthday. It made me really sad because my other siblings always had theirs celebrated and I don't know why mine wasn't. Since i was really young then and i didn't understand what's going on and i just kept the sadness inside and doesn't look forward to any birthday at all. And year after year it's always like that, mine wasn't celebrated and forgotten but the others had theirs. Anyways, when i was mature enough to understand i came up with possible reason why it wasn't celebrated. 1. March is a not really a good month for money.. wrong timing.. This is when my parents tend to pay all the fees in school and it's a lot and no money left to celebrate. 2. I guess i wasn't really asking for a celebration. I checked my siblings and noticed that months before they already had plans for their birthday and asked my parents this and that. Since i was the eldest, i felt i was being heroic for not asking because i don't want additional burden for my parents. But i guess not to the point that they will literally forget about it. I was just waiting and hoping they would remember without me reminding. But that didn't happen sad to say. Guess those are just the reasons I can think of. And after years of not celebrating i just accepted the fact that probably its not worth celebrating or i should really remind them or I'll just plan for my own. Since I'm so used on not celebrating it and i just don't bother anymore. I wasn't really planning anything again for always. But my boyfriend which will be his first time to have my birthday (we will be celebrating our one year this april, yehey!) was so worried about what gift to give, how can we celebrate my birthday and stuff that it made me think of celebrating. Probably now is the best time to spend one..:) Hmmm...
@kakayu (57)
• China
18 Mar 08
lol,i think it's no need for you to think that way.You see,there're several festivals that everyone celebrates,but there's only one belong to you.You're the only you in this world,so think of it in a positive way,just cheer for it,which was yours once a year.When everyone comes to you all for a same intent,that is:wish you a happy birthday,and good life for you and yours.
• Philippines
18 Mar 08
wow thats a good way of thinking.. :) i like that.. :) it was really ok for me to celebrate my other siblings birthday.. literally spending for them.. but i find it hard to celebrate my own.. funny.. coz im the bread winner in the family and im the eldest.. i feel its one way of saving money! :) i also have other issues other than that.. probably on the next post.. :) ill be sleeping now.. :) thanks for your insight! :)
@kakayu (57)
• China
18 Mar 08
thank you all.i really appriciate that.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
29 Mar 08
i dont really hate birthdays... i look forward to it most especially if i am not the one celebrating. he he sometimes though if i am the one celebrating.. i dont like it coming cause that would mean i am another year older. :(
• Nepal
19 Mar 08
I think birthday celebration is not a bad idea but the celebration is in your style, gathering with all relatives, friends or go the church, temple etc. It's not necessary to treat as a party for birthday you can go for another way to celebrate.
• United States
29 Mar 08
Today is my birthday. In the past I would go out with family and friends and celebrate me. Right now I don't have any plans as of yet, but I am sure my friends have something planned. I could take it or leave it. I hate being broke on my birthday or any other day. If I had money to go out I would be happy, but due to my financial situation I just can't get happy.
@manya_pearl (1901)
• Singapore
18 Mar 08
I dont hate my birthday, but hate with treat my friends... sometimes i dont have money to treat them in restaurant, or have a party with big chocolate cake.. or treat them watching in cinema... and being older... ahahahah but i'm happy because i still alive... ahaha
• United States
18 Mar 08
I don't hate celebrating my birthday, but I do tend to treat it as if it were just another day. I take the time to celebrate my kid's birthdays and with five kids, I normally don't have the energy to try to celebrate mine. I normally have the day off from all work, including house work. And when we can afford it, my husband takes me out to dinner. Other than that, I don't celebrate.
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
18 Mar 08
my birthdays are simple because i am not interested in making a big deal. but i think birthdays should be spent with people u r close with and just hang out together and have fun, no matter what u do, whether with close friends or family members. birthdays dont bother me, i always want to celebrate another day alive on earth by doing something different and exciting. my birthday is like my Happy New Year, the new year of my one year older age. i either go out to dinner with someone or go to a movie or just hang out somewhere...whatever comes up usually...just have fun and celebrate another year alive, hoping the new year is a better one than the last year.
• United States
18 Mar 08
I feel birthdays should be about you. I mean what other day of the year is especially yours. Take pride in turning one year older and wiser. Have fun, party a little.