How to stop loving him

ending your realtionship - How to end it up
@alexigne (903)
Philippines
March 22, 2008 3:49am CST
How will you end a relationship that is for long... you've been trying to end it up but as long as you want to finish that relationship... you cannot ... You know that you love him but it is forbidden for so many reason... and that reason is reasonable to end your relationship but still you can't scape..Did you understand me???
6 responses
@aowaow (1517)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 08
I know how hard your feeling is. I had been there too.
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@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
22 Mar 08
thanks... you understand
• India
24 Mar 08
You say the relationship was for long and you love him still, and if he too really loves you then I advice you not to break up.It would be better if you tell us why is it forbidden, then you might get better suggestions.Is it forbidden cause he is married??...then do you think if he loves you he'll be happy with his wife??...is it so that you were lovers but then he got married and now you need to break up....if this is your reason, if you break up it wont help you.Neither you'll be happy nor him nor his wife.....instead let him speak to his wife. If this isn't the reason then is it forbidden because of anything related to caste or any such stuff???...then too, I advice don't break up.Whatever the problem is try speak to him openly .Don't hide anything.let him know what the problem is and if he too feels the same then it's left to you both. And if both decide to end up and You want to forget things then,join some classes that you'll enjoy...like music ,dance or anything new that you've not known.Hang out with friends ,go shopping .....you'll enjoy.Best way is to be with kids,......play ...watch cartoon channels, you'll feel better.For sometime ,be away from the present place you are living....visit some other nice place.. If you wanna forget him forever ,then you make yourself hate him.....slowly you'll forget him...for this you need to keep recalling any of those bitter moments with him(day you fought or any thing else) Before you take any decision please please think as many times as possible because you shouldn't regret it later.
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
By the way i have a beautiful 1 and 9 months daughter... i am married but i break up with my daughter's father so i am single already...
@the_ruler (1446)
• Turkey
22 Mar 08
we can't understand you if you don't share the reason why it is forbidden. If you really love him,and if you think it is going very well with him than none of the excuses would be reasonable to end this precious relationship. maybe its your family, maybe his, maybe the society. I don't know what your situation is but as long as you say "I love him" I can't advise you to end this relationship and to forget it. So, you should consider it very carefully. You should talk to your partner about your concern (not to end the relationship) and if you both agree you cannot overcome that "reason", then it is your choice. I hope you both will be strong enough to keep this up.
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
22 Mar 08
i really want to end it up but i can't because as you say i love him... but i need to put it to an end... really... i try to focused here on the site and anything that will make me busy... i think it would help that i have no time for him... but still it is not enough
• Philippines
22 Mar 08
Alexigne, I know that you are confuse right now but I think you know the answer to your situation. Think about this, you can first start by weighing things out. If you stay with him, will you be happy? will you be able to rest assure that with your relationship, no other people are hurt? Does he love you the same way? That in spite of the reasons that justify that your relationship should end, is he willing to fight for it too? If the answer is YES, then you can stay with him. If one of the reason or all of it will be answered by NO i think you should start putting up walls now. It is better to be hurt now, than suffer the consequences in the future. But there will be exceptions, if all is answered by NO and you want to still stay with him, just be ready for all the things that will arise unexpectedbly in the relationship. Stay strong.
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
22 Mar 08
I stay away from him... the problem is he use to be there i can't refuse when he was there specially when i need a friend beside me... it's all yes but i don't want to remain to be like this, to be with him...
@lonely_f16 (2147)
• Philippines
22 Mar 08
stop thinking about him. Time heals all wounds.
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
22 Mar 08
the problem is... he is there beside me whatever i do... but i need ot stay away from him
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
22 Mar 08
you just have to let go of him, what ever has a beginning must have an end. you have to shift your attention to something else, just give it time and you will get over it. just become addicted to something else that will better you life.