Should my wife go to work after having a baby?

@after80 (110)
China
March 22, 2008 7:43pm CST
My wife is 25 years old ,and she have a medicine bachelor .After graduated she find a job not reward so good. I wonder if she is pregnant ,should I let her work? And what about after she born a baby ?
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9 responses
@teison2 (5921)
• Norway
23 Mar 08
Should you let her work? Well - I'd say that is not something you van decide. It is your wife that is the boss of her life. If she wants to work and feel up to working i think she should. After the baby is born you need to figure out what will be the best for your family. Here one of the parents stay home for nearly the first whole year (paid leave) Then most kids are enrolled in kindergarden and both parents work. Hope you'll find a good solution that works well for you if you do have a kid
@Loen210 (1540)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Great response!
• Canada
24 Mar 08
I'm with you there. No one decides on anothers life. You can suggest whether you agree or not.
@mememama (3076)
• United States
25 Mar 08
"should I let her work?"-does she need your permission? If she wants to work, she can. If she doesn't, you need to go through your finances and figure out how to make it in life on one income.
@Krisss (1231)
• Australia
23 Mar 08
What does she want to do? It after all her body, her giving birth and her having to leave the infant? Who would care for the baby if she returns to work?
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
24 Mar 08
It all depends on what she wants to do. She may be working even though pregnant, because you need the money and it all depends on whether she wants to nurse the baby. After that, there is is there day care or a nursery or a babysitter to look after the baby, whether the cost of hiring will wipe out most of the money make by her working. I think you should discuss it with her. She might be able to work until near delivery but if her health is not that good, I would suggest you try to persuade her to stop work if she knows she is pregnant. It should not matter on the degree she has and she should not be obligated to work and even if she does not, her medical background will be a benefit in raising the child. She will know what to do if the child gets seriously ill.
@lily3753 (388)
• China
23 Mar 08
I think your wife can work when she is pregnant,but if your baby is born ,your wife can take care of your baby iat home.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
24 Mar 08
I think she is the only one that can give you an answer. if she is tired being pregnant, she would say that she cant work. if not, she knows that she can work. after pregnancy, I dont know, i think you should wait till that moment. cause the taken decisions may change that time. I really wish you the best luck and life.
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
23 Mar 08
There is nothing wrong with working while pregnant. As long as she is not doing any heavy lifting she will be fine. As far as working aafter havng the baby that is not a problem either most jobs will allow her to have maternity leave for a perioud of time and then she will be allowed back to work. With both of you working together you will be able to take care of the bills and the babies needs.
@emarie (5442)
• United States
23 Mar 08
if she is pregnant, let her tell you. most fields allow you to work while pregnant. if she's in a medical profession then it shouldn't be too bad. for the last few months of the pregnancy she should take it easy and for about 2-3 months after the child is born. if she wants to work, then you should find a solution to let her work.
• United States
23 Mar 08
I think its great that you care and worry about your wife. I also think though that this is your wife's decision, you should talk to her about it and just support her with whatever she decides