At what age should a person leaves his/her parent?

@goergineo (1498)
Jordan
March 23, 2008 7:38pm CST
I wonder what is the best age at which a person must become independent from his parents and get out of home? What do you think of a person that spends all his/her life in parent's home? do you think that a bad thing and why?
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@tessah (6617)
• United States
24 Mar 08
i dont think theres anything necessarilly "wrong" with staying at home with yer family. i also dont think theres a set age as to when to leave. ive been taking care of myself since i was 15 ( paying rent at home, as well as all my other expenses) and moved out at 16. then wound up moving in with my mother & father in law with my husband to take care of them when they reached the point of not being able to themselves. even if they hadnt been ill.. having three generations living under one roof all together in harmony, is a very nice thought. if people are close and get along well, i see no reason why to split up to live in seperate homes.
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@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
24 Mar 08
I totaly agree.
@mbs730 (2147)
• Canada
24 Mar 08
Ugh okay. Here it goes. UNLESS the adult child is unemployed, incapable of being independent or something, I think he or she must be out on his or her own by 30. I would WANT my child to live an independent life! I mean how would the child cope once I am gone? Thats one thing. Besides, my brother in law is afraid of life, he is a workaholic, 37 and living at home. Now my mother in law is a piece of work and INSIST that he stays there because for one she is afraid he'll blow all of the savings that she and my late FIL set up for him (not to mention he makes a six figure income a year!!!), she won't let him leave the house until he is married but he isn't interested or is just plain afraid to make a change in his life like that. And lets face facts. If I was single, I would find it odd that a capable 37 year old man is living with his mother.. that also would be a thing against adult children living at home past the age of 30. But thats just my opinion.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
24 Mar 08
I lke this one, actually this is a professional answer.
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
25 Mar 08
Well very good question how ever this is just my oppion on the question.. I personally think once a person turns 18 and they are considered as an adult.. They should be out on there own.. With a job supporting them selfs... A parent already has enough to do with paying there own bills they don't need to support an adult.. For say this 18 year old has a job and still living at home should at least pitch in for food and other things.. However that most isn't the case.. So yes 18 would be a good start to move out and get out on your own and learn how to live life that way.. It just shows they are responsible enough to do so... But I do know some people that are in there 40's still living with mom and dad... Not to mention with jobs....
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
25 Mar 08
I agree in some parts. you are right, if a person depends on his/herself at 18 that will facilate alot of issues for him in the future. but to get out of home at that age. I dont know if an 18-year old can handle all the problems that he/ she faces at this age.
• Philippines
25 Mar 08
Here in the Philippines, family ties is very strong. Even at age 18, they are still living with their parent sometimes even with their own family. This only shows the strong family ties of Filipinos, but it should have some limitations. In my own opinion, if the children living with their parent has already a job, they must contribute to the family's expenditure.
@emarie (5442)
• United States
24 Mar 08
There shouldn't be a real set age since it all depends on the circumstances and maturity of the individual. Take my family for instance. my sister went to college after HS and moved out and on to another state. My other sister went to school locally and stayed with my parents (which she's still there now) me after HS i just moved in with my other sister and after about 2 years moved into a place of my own (i call that baby steps). some people are ready, some need to be pushed. some just aren't ready enough for the real world and in a way it can be the parents fault in not preparing them. some just find it easier to live at home. when i met my husband he was living with his parents again. he had moved out several times, moved states came back got married, got divorced and moved back in with his parents till he could earn enough to move again. in some situations it can be BAD, especially if the child acts like a child. they can be independent and still live at home as an adult. they pay partially for rent/cable/water/electricity/gas/etc, do their own lanudry and help with house work. that would be a situation where living at home would be alright. THEN take those who just sponge off their parents and don't do anything. in that situation it is a bad thing.
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@danzer (2723)
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
As soon as he is married, an individual must leave his parents and cleave unto his wife. It's not good for married couples staying with their parents. A lot of trouble had been observed with situation of married couples staying in the house of their parents. There is no definite age, I guess. It's not bad to stay home and help your parents if you're not married!
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@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
24 Mar 08
For you, marriage is the start point in you life. well that seems fair cause the life of another person is gonna begin. seems convincing to me. Thanks
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@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
24 Mar 08
My baby girl is 17. We have told her she can live here the rest of her life if she chooses to stay single. After all.. she is our baby. I think it all depends on the family themselves. If they are close knit, I see no reason that the families can not stay together. I lived with my husband, his parents, grandparents, nieces, nephews, SIL and BIL all in one house at the same time until we could get on our feet. If an adult child is still living at home, they should be paying part of the bills and help take care of their aging parents.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
24 Mar 08
That is a real family. Thanks dear
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
I dont think theres an age to leave your parents.. In my case I dont want to leave them even if I have a family already I want o be with my parents and take care of them as long as I can.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
24 Mar 08
good for you. shows how you are faithful to your parents