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I'd been on that relationship before. Same as you the difference is two girls. His ex and his bestfriend. Its painful because you can feel the guy you've with is avoiding you. And there were some changes. Its so different. Sweetness was totally gone. My advice to you is just dont pressure him. Give him a space and time to think. Your partner is on the stage of doubt. Just try not to call him. Just move on with your life. And if one day he will call or want to talk to you. OR you coincidentally meet. Then prepare yourself of what will his decision.

I basically believe that we go into relationships to be happy. If for whatever reason you can't take what's happening and its making you feel miserable, then I think you should jump ship. Don't wait until you're so deep that you'll drown. I believe life's too short to be spent in sadness, so I'd rather spend it with someone who's happy and willing to be with me and I with her... anyway, that's just my take on it...

You might want to interrogate him. Start asking him questions, if he does not give you straight answers, go to his friends and family and see what is going on, if they do not give you straight answers, then you might want to rethink this relationship. I know that you love him, but if he is hurting you, in any way, be it emotional or physical, you might want to think about ending it for the good of your sanity. What you could do too is ask him out on some dates, go to a movie, or dinner, or something. Talk to him. Communication. Let him know how you feel. Let him know how this makes you feel, and see what his reaction is. Relationships are never easy. I should know, I am in one, and I have to work tooth and nail to make it work (or course, sadly, I am the one doing most of the work), but I love my man, and I will do anything for him. I talk to him as much as possible, but if I sense that something strange is going on, I will bring it up, just to let him know that I know something is not right.

It is hard to tell at this time until you get to talk to him about this. He must have been “distant” as you said cause he got confused by the return of his ex girl friend. Maybe he was just trying to re assess his feelings for both you and his ex. Tell him its been worrying you and that he should at least consider this feelings if he cares about you.

Hi nakita, it's me.. is he the guy you mentioned on one of my discussions? anways, if you feel the "distant" thing he is displaying, then it could be true. You know us girls, our instinct is always most of the time true. I've been in that kind of situation before and it really hurt my feelings. But there's only one way to find out, and that is to ask him, go see him in person, since he doesn't answer phone calls, ask him if there's something wrong or if he has a personal problem. Tell him how you feel about the situation, say it all with affection, you know in a still-sweet tone.lol As for the "other" girl..hmm, well, I say fight for your man! Don't let anyone take him away from you girl! :-)

oo yeah my bf keeps in touch with 1 or 2 of his ex's and all i did was tell him i dnt like it and he dnt really tlk to em as much now...

I think you are really in jeopardy. i have seen similar thing in case of a guy who once proposed to me. i just declined him seeing that he is still very much in touch and good connection with his ex. it is just the bad thing I guess. Why is he spoiling your emotions when he has kept contact and good terms with his ex? I think he want the fruit of both world which is not at all positive.Talk with him clearly if he really wants to continue or not.

I believe that the best thing for you to do is to talk to him about this. Easy for me to say, because I'm not in your position. But in all honesty, I understand what you feel. If I were in your place, I would probably feel exactly the same way you do. The last thing I would ever want to hear is for the love of my life to tell me that he doesn't love me anymore! But you really have to face it, if that was the case. You have to know. It would be unfair for you to keep feeling this uncertainty and trying to hang on to something that isn't there anymore. That would make your life really miserable. Be strong and be firm. Who knows, maybe he's just going through a certain phase.... maybe he has a problem or maybe there is something that's bothering him. Whatever it is, the best thing for you is to talk about this. Good luck and I wish you the best.

I wouldn't say anything just yet. I would give him his space. He might all of a sudden feel torn. I would eventually talk to him about his feelings. It may hurt hearing it and if I were you I would try to prepare yourself for the worst, but at least if he is having second thoughts about your relationship or about his ex then you know right away instead of waiting and then finding out when it is too late or when the situation is so much more worse. I would also answer his phone if she calls or call her myself but that is just my way of finding out information if he isn't willing to speak up or let me know what is going on.

I know it hurts and is hard if you want to be with someone, but you cannot have a one-sided relationship. If he is affected that much by his ex and being more distant/separating himself, he may not be interested in you anymore -- his loss. You wouldn't want to stick around in a relationship like that! It might be hard at first but talk it over with him and stress that you want him to be honest, then take it from there. If the relationship ends, it's better to do it sooner than to let it drag on.

Sometimes the best thing to do is back away from the relationship yourself. I know it may hurt at first, but if he really cares about you he will realize what is going on, and if he doesn't then it will be easier for you to move on with your life, and maybe not as painful as it would be if you try to make it work and he winds up stringing you along.