Get married VS. Live together

China
March 24, 2008 9:13pm CST
Do you think that marrige is the grave of a relationship? I kind of agree with that.However, most of my friends choose to get married in the end,and then quarrels,fights... well, these make believe living together is a better choice than getting married. So, what do you think?
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• India
25 Mar 08
I dont think marriage is grave of a relationship, it has more profits. If so in love, a living together and a marriage wud be just the same, except the titles. But if love fails, a live-in has nothing to give, but the same emotional pain, you would get even though married and divorced. But at least you have court and legal securities in a marriage.
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• United States
25 Mar 08
I think even the best relationships will have fights but you should live together before you get married.
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@aleth13 (45)
• Guam
25 Mar 08
first of all, i think you have to ask yourself first what exactly does "marriage" mean to you. doesn't living together means marriage as well in some degree? do you need to have the regular ceremony with all the witnesses and the papers to consider it "marriage"?
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@amrishkj (297)
• India
13 Jul 08
I dont get you people. I mean you start talking about fight even before getting married. What is a marriage and who would you marry. Will you think before marrying that you would want to fight. I definitely did not think so. And you need to give space to your partner in life and remember you take wows during marriage to live amicably then why fight. You are tying up two lives and cant you respect the others feelings or decisions. I dont get the whole concept of the westners. Even before they get married they think of quarrels and fight.
• India
23 Apr 08
well.....there is always the two sides of the same coin.yes nowadays we do see that our marriage institution is becoming stale and marriages are now being dissolved in the courts which is really a very sad affair.but the truth is that in our indian society our ideology is mainly to get married and have a family and i also personally feel that it is always better to get married than have a live in relationships.
@miller1978 (1104)
• United States
25 Mar 08
For me it's about personal choice. I had been married in the past and that ended very badly. It last for 4 1/2 years. He was very abusive; physically,mentally, emotionally, and verbally. I don't think I want to go through that again. Now I am with someone I do love and don't want to get married again, neither does he. He's never been married nor had any kids. We work together and we talk everything through. If you look at statistics you will see that there is more divorce in the world now then there was in the past. It's not only because people are getting married to young. It's also because over the years people change and their partner does not like it. As for alimony and being financially set because you are a woman if you get divorced. I don't believe that is the best way to put it. You have to be married for so many years to even qualify for it. Here where I live they now call it maintenance.