Have you ever said "I Love you" and not meant it?
By banerowe
@banerowe (75)
Philippines
12 responses
@my_january (967)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
I guess I did. And for the same reason like yours, it was because I was young and is prone to saying things even if I don't mean what I said. Yes those were the days. But now, I love you is one of the words I value in my life. I say it only when I mean it, or else it loses it's value and sincerity. We should only tell it if we really feel telling it and if the person deserves to hear it from us. We should express love the best way we can- words our powerful, so when we say it- it can mean so much more to someone else. 
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@banerowe (75)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
Ohohoho! That actually happened to me too. Obliged! He's right people. Nobody even thought about caring for li'l 'ol us before.. the emotional throes... the pain for lying... haha! Sorry I digress. It may be that I really just did not want to hurt some people then. Oh well. BTW, thanks for the reply man!
@steney (1418)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
Whenever I say "I love you", I really mean it. I can't get misself to act and pretend to say something that I don't feel and mean. I'm very careful with "I love yous." :)
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
26 Mar 08
Hi banerowe, I'm not proud to say that I've confessed the world I Love You a lot of times to different girls at different times, LOL. Those were the days when I was young; around 2-3 years back. I consider myself to be a player last time and that was perhaps due to peer pressure and stuff like that.
But now I'm approaching my 30s in a few years time and I've buck up since. I don't intend to just spread the word like incest anymore, and this time round, I would make it a point to confess it to someone that I really would fall in love. I think that love is subjective and there are people that really utter the word I Love You and meaning every word of it, but in the rarest occasions, but there are also others that say I Love You like me last time and not meaning it one bit.
It's best to say I Love You and meaning it, and I intend to improve on that. Perhaps being a guy, you tend to say things that you don't mean just to take care of the person's feelings. Ok, I'm improving on that ;)
@banerowe (75)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
I guess no one would be proud to have lied to people or actually have played people before (though those lies may have led to... this and that *cough cough chokeee*). It's just fun to remember the past. As well, it is actually useful in its own little way. Because like what you said, you can get to improve on things that you knew were not right. Yup, I guess that's the way we should all go anyway. Maturity sets in and bites us in the butt when we least expect it. :D
@banerowe (75)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
I see. So females do them too to avoid hurting the other party. Oh, but then your second statement is right. Lies will lead to hurting eventually. That's something I learned along the way too. But on the good side, it prompted me to change, so I just take it as one of life's pearls.
@dream2night (624)
• Latvia
26 Mar 08
I never said "I love you " and didn't mean it. But IO say those words very rare. I do love someone, but I show it differently. I have said him "I love you" though:) He answered with the same and said that he never says that, I was the first person he said that. I felt special at that moment. I believe that we need to let to know someone we love them, but we can't use these words that much - that makes them less special.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I bet lots of people would be "coughing" too LOL well maybe not lots haha!
When I saythose words I have always meant it.
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
I think I did when I was younger. But not when I grew older and more matured. I don't find it fair to me as well as the other party for me to say "I love you" without meaning it. Inasmuch as I do not want other telling me they love me without sincerity, I do not want to do that either.
@blush_blush (307)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
Yeah I did not minding what it really is. I actually think that its just a way of showing your affection. Saying I love you was equal to "I like you". When I was a kid. Now, that I can assess what love is really is. I only tell it to the persons who I really love. Sometimes, I have no courage to tell the person that I love him/her. Actions speaks louder than words, I guess.
@banerowe (75)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
Yes. That's how I remembered it was for me too. It was less for love than like as I remember it. With regards to actions speaking louder than words, well, it is quite better to let the person feel your love than just saying it, right? Maybe this is something we develop as we mature. Thanks for the reply. :)
@wnbwnbwnb (426)
• China
26 Mar 08
Actually,I did too.Sometimes you just need to say it to get what you want! quite embarrassing to say so!
@busta1baby (1230)
• United States
22 Apr 08
yeah with one of my ex's he sed it and i couldnt say no i didnt or say nuttin at all
