How to become a good listener?

Yes it is not so easy to be a good listener. You need to be patience and also you should maintain the secret that is told to you.

Being patient is a must!

Just listen! Being empathetic with the other automatically makes us listen to them..this is how i feel.

being a good listener must also be a good adviser and must not jump to conclusions easily and sometimes if that happens on you, you should also base it in your own experience

Though sometimes listening can be hard and frustrating to do, its best just to remain quiet. I'm a quiet person most of the time, and this fact alone fools people to thinking that I am a good listener. I can't quite remember who said it, but I quote from him anyway: "I gave up on being a great conversationalist a long time ago. Now I'm just silent and people branded me a great listener".

I agree that being a good listener is not always easy. I was talking with my sister last night, and we were sharing about people/acquaintances we know who will jump into the middle of a sentence when we are speaking. I know sometimes I have this tendency as well. Sometimes people use what others say as a jumping off point to get their idea across. True listening is giving love and attention. When we listen we are giving the speaker our energy; I think that is why some people have a tough time waiting and truly listening. Others words and ideas can roll around us; giving the speaker our focused attention is a wonderful thing to do. It validates their experience and their view of the world. I do believe I would have trouble giving this kind of attention to someone who was ranting in a crazy, raging fashion. But most people are trying to share their everyday experiences, and listening is a wonderful way to show true caring.