marry or break up

China
March 27, 2008 3:35am CST
One girl wrote to me , the letter is as follow: I just graduated from college and work as a scretary in the sourth of China, a big city, but my boy friend who lives in a remote city where is not developed, so i suggest that we can earn money here, when we get enough enough money and i get more experience, then we can go back to the city he lives. but he refused and asked me to marry him right now,otherwise we break up. I know he wants to keep me around him, but i want to have more chance to improve myself, i am young, i want to experience more. But i love him, do i have to give up everything to marry him, just to be his life and stay with him in a peaceful life? Please help me. Dana My reply is : Dana, I think you should take your future life in consideration, if you give up to go back to him, will you be happy? If there is something unhappy happened, you will regret. And for this man, he needed a quiet life, maybe what you want is a new and exciting life. so maybe break up is a good choice for you.
5 responses
aowaow
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
27 Mar 08
She mentioned one word that makes her hard to leave him. I think the case is not as simple as it seems, and they boy sounds ease in breaking her up if not get married. So, break up is the choice. And be open hearted, let bygone is bygone.
dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
27 Mar 08
Your friend's future career is more important than that boy. She should go for her career, she would hopefully find other boy friends, if she settles down well in her life. All the best to your friend.
subha12
@subha12 (18441)
• India
27 Mar 08
i think you are right. one must first settle well in career. it is what provides our loving. love is good, but in empty stomach nothing will happen. at the same time money may not be all. but her Bf is doing unusual demands.
lishiwei
@lishiwei (1550)
• China
27 Mar 08
Yes,I agree with you.I also think break up is a better way.If he really love her,he shouldn't limited her.He should give her the chance to develop herself so that she can have a happy and exciting life as she want.
popocan
@popocan (222)
• Hong Kong
27 Mar 08
Yes, they should get parted. I don't think they really suit each other. There's so much going on in life, they're just too young to make commitment. One has the passion for making life progess and the other don't. They can't make good couple.