Why 3 kids better than 2?

@sanell (2114)
United States
March 28, 2008 1:21am CST
Okay so honestly I had always thought maybe I would have at least 3 kids or at least that is how many I wanted when I was younger. However when I was pregnant with my second child, I just knew that I was done after her. Now who knows where I will sit in a few years but honestly I can say that I am looking forward to no more diapers, no more breast feeding, full night of sleeping when they are both in school for full time. Is that wrong? I take my youngest to a toddler preschool to start getting her ready to go to school in about a year. Well all the moms are about ready to either get pregnant with number three or at least discuss having a third child. I am thinking, okay you guys are CRAZY. So one of the teachers has both of her kids in school, one is in Kindergarten and the other is in full time preschool. She wants to go back to school and her husband is begging to start getting ready to try to get pregnant again. She is thinking she is wants to wait until Next Spring....Okay she is my age, I am 36 and by next spring I will be 37 why would you want to be pg at 37? I do not know, I guess for me being pregnant at that age just makes me so tired and I am already tired. Am I wrong? I know there are lots of people out there who are much older than me and still having kids or thinking of becoming pregnant. Heck I have friends who got married at 41, had their first at 42 and their second at around 44. so I am not saying that is a bad thing. My older sister will be 39, and she is pregnant (About due) to have her third child. She has a 9 and a 6 year old. She is completely starting over again. It was not planned but I guess she did want to have a third child, she figured she would either have one or she would adopt. I think she was thinking that after having her second (This is what she told me) she wanted to try to get pregnant again within that year of him being born. She had her first and waited until she was 2 to even get pregnant with the second one. Then after she had her son, she was chopping at the bit to get pregnant when he was just 8 months old. She said when he hit two and he was still breastfeeding she figured she needed to wait it out and she was getting really tired with all the running around she was doing with the two of them. At that point she was pretty ready to just call it a day and say We have two and it is fine. well, here she is and she is going to have number 3. I am excited for her but at the same time I am just like OH man she will be tired. Is it bad that I think this way?
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I am 37 and I want another baby No luck here so far. I only have one son who is 5 and in Kindergarten and have been longing for another one for a few years now - just hasn't happened yet. I suppose it just differs for every family. I come from a family of 7 including by parents and my twin sister has 4 kids while my 3 brothers have 3 and 2 each. I have always wanted to have 2 or 3 or even one boy and one girl but don't think that is going to happen anytime soon though but if it does YAY, if not, then that is ok too. I don't think your wrong to feel that you don't want anymore. It may seem crazy to you but normal for others :)
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@sanell (2114)
• United States
30 Mar 08
I can understand wanting to have a second child for sure. I was worried I would only have one, and that would have been fine, but I was glad I had my second when I did. I am just now 36 and sometimes I think it would be fun to have a 3rd child, as does my husband but we just really can not afford it and we both are not Longing to have a third child. I could see later on when my youngest is hitting 4 and I think I will miss having a cute baby. I just am not sure so we will see how things go.
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