Would you date a co-worker????

United States
March 29, 2008 10:32am CST
So I am on this temp job that at this time I am not sure when it will end due to the fact that the person I am replacing is on leave for a family situation. I have been there a week and half (yesterday). There is this guy that keeps coming by my desk and talking to me. Now he is definitely hot. So thurs he stopped by with a bunch of menus and said that he was lonely at lunch time because his partner in crime was out of town. So then yesterday I asked him if he was ok on thurs during lunch or was he really lonely. He said he was lonely and then asked me what I did on thurs for lunch I told him that I had brought my lunch and eat alone. He asked me what I was doing today for lunch and if I had brought something. I told him I did know what I was going to do for lunch and no I didnt bring anything (but to tell you the truth I did bring something but I was hoping for the chance to go to lunch with him.) He asked if I would like to goto lunch with him and of course I said yes. We went out and to this dive place (good food though) and he insisted on paying for my lunch. We sat there and talked for a while and I found out that he is 29 (I am 35) we decided to leave and when we got to his car he opened my door. (OH MY GOD I HAVENT HAD SOMEONE DO THAT IN A LONG TIME.) We headed back to work and got there a little bit early about 15 mins and we decided to stay in the car for that time and talk (and yes all we did was talk). He asked me for my email address so that we could communicate while we were at work and when I got back to my desk I gave him that and my phone number. So he emailed me right away thanking me for lunch (how sweet). Then I was having a 15min break soon and I asked him if wanted to walk outside for that time. We were walking around the building and talking and then he KISSED me. Dont get me wrong it was a GREAT kiss. But was it too soon? I really wanted more and so did he because we were walking back and he pulled me over and kissed me again. The man works two jobs and he was to call me last night after his second job (as a waiter but he was scheduled to get off at 10 but if you have ever worked in the food industry you know that its not always at the time you think you are to finish) so I waited up for his call as much as I could and I fell asleep. He never called last night. And I dont know if he will. But I have dated two other people at different jobs (one was awesome, and the other was not so good.) I was just wondering what others think about dating in the work place. Should you do it or not?
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
30 Mar 08
As a rule I would say no. However if you are just temping and won't be there permanently I don't think it's quite the same situation. At my current job (which I am leaving) I had (stress had) two women fighting for my affections. My former boss, who quit and another girl who I was interested in. She and I talked, and texted, went out to eat a few times and got close but never physical becuase I wouldn't let it. She was contantly trying to get me to kiss her and more, but I wouldn't just because it would be wrong to do this at work. We made a few dates, me thinking hey she's worth it, I can find a new job...but she stood me up everytime. She had time to go out with friends, or others, but never me. Unless we're at work, then she wanted me all over her. I basically told her to go away, a few times.. before she finally did. Now thankfully she doesn't text me anymore, and I get mostly dirty looks when we run into each other. I can tell you this, I dread going into work, I dread having to see her, or run into her. When I do, like today... it ruined my dad. It just makes me sad, frustrated and angry. I am so glad I will be gone soon and will never have to see her again. There is my cautionary tale, however here's one that was a bit better... Long ago at another job I met a girl, we liked each other we dated, moved into together and had a relationship for about 5 years. She left and moved to take care of her sick mother and that was the last I ever saw her. That was a good relationship that I was sorry to see end. Of course it was *okay* for us to date, no company policies against it. We continued to work together while living together until we both found different jobs a year or two later.
• United States
30 Mar 08
Ok so now it makes sense why you wanted to leave that company so badly. I am sorry that it turned out so badly. I was dating off and on this guy from my last job. He was an idiot. When we broke it off we were in different parts of the company and never saw each other at work. Thank you for your advice. And I am glad you are getting out of that bad situation.
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
31 Mar 08
Yeah well, she's back again. First telling me to 'f off' via text as she runs around with her ex-boyfriend, then texts me later apologizing and going on about how much she needs to talk to me. Two more weeks, just two more weeks...
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
29 Mar 08
wow I say go for it. You don't know if your going to stay there anyway and if you guys break up you can always quit. Thanks for the great story it felt as if I was there with you lol. He probably didn't call b/c he thought it would be too late for you and you may have been asleep. I think since its something that is just getting started its not bad to date and work together but if it was something like you guys were getting married or something like that it would be a different story. As much as I love my husband I need a break from him every now and then lol. Please let me know more about your office romance its like one of those hot romance novels lol.
• United States
29 Mar 08
Thank you for letting me talk about it. I feel weird telling my friends about it right now so I need someone to talk to about it. And why not the whole group of myloters? I want to go for it but the age thing is a little wierd for me. I have dated younger guys before but only a year or two younger. He is 6 years younger than me and is that ok?
• United States
31 Mar 08
Sure why not age is just a number. If hes a good guy it shouldn't matter at all. Who has to know his age? How are things going now that its a new week? Thanks for adding me to your friend list.
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
30 Mar 08
In terms of your question when applied to my own life, no I'd not do that. There's so much that can go wrong, plus some people lose their jobs or get criminal charges over it (via false accusations). It can get cumbersome. In your own case, you should do what you think is right. Be careful though, because if the situation deteriorates and you fall out, your relationship will never be the same. Being at the same workplace maybe awkward too.
• United States
1 Apr 08
You bring up a good point. I think because I am not a permanent employee my situation is a little bit different.
• Australia
30 Mar 08
I think you should go with your heart. You are the only one who knows exactly what is right you just have to look inside yourself for the answer and then accept it whatever it maybe. generally though if i was inlove or very attracted to someone i would act on it. I dont think too many mr. rights come along and if i meet someone i really like then i think i would date them co-worker or not. Honestly it is alot better than trying to find love at your local club or pub. As long as things stay strictly professional at work, then i see no problems at all.
• United States
30 Mar 08
That is very true you should ALWAYS go with your heart. And you are right about the work place verses club or pub.
• United States
29 Mar 08
i think i would pass on that one.. it seems to wild and crazy.
• United States
29 Mar 08
This situation or a co-worker in general?