Can you love your hubby's kids?

@airi75 (50)
Malaysia
March 29, 2008 8:18pm CST
Can you give a real love for your hubby's kid like you love your own kids? I don't have kids yet but I have to face this reality, would you help & give me suggestion how to face it?
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@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
7 Apr 08
I most definitely love my husband's first daughter who is not mine. I haven't even met her because his ex wife is keeping her away from him and has kept him away from her for 9 years. He pays his child support and wants his daughter so bad. When we got married I took everything as my own, including his daughter. When you love someone you love everything about them, good or bad. Him having another daughter just adds more another child to the three that we have, two of which aren't his but he loves them as his own as well. I want more than anything to have a relationship with this little girl and it kills me to see how hurt he is that he can't see her. he's wanted to have her for so long, but the mother is really messed up and we can't even find her at this point. Hopefully one day though we will have the laughter of four wonderful children, instead of the three we have now. that is my prayer anyways. God bless
@airi75 (50)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 08
I have quite similar situation with you, that now my husband's kids is staying with their mom. It's very difficult for me to bring them out. My husband also never allow me to bring them myself without him, so I feel frustrated, how can I love them if I can spend my time with them, and the ex wife is very uncooperative on this matter, She looks very hates me & talk to me like Im a jurk. Anyway, I always pray for the best, all for my husband, me & the kids, even for the ex wife to become more friendly with me & husband. Thanks so much for sharing with me....I really appreciate it
• United States
11 Apr 08
yeah that's always hard. i totally know where you are coming from. I'll be praying for you to that things will work out. good luck and God bless. Thanks for the BR as well. it will all work out in the end somehow, it always does. if you ever need to talk i'm here. God bless you and your family
• United States
30 Mar 08
Well if you really love your hubby than you should love everything about your hubby including loving the fact that he is a dad already. I know it must be tough on you and there's no real advice to give on kids because they are all different. But give the kids a shot just because you love your hubby. Kids tend to grow on you anyway! I'm sure you'll be fine just take it one day out of a time and start off slow by just being the kids friend.
@airi75 (50)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 08
I'll try it. Thanks a lot for sharing gavsmomjamie...
@halcyon1 (23)
• United States
15 Apr 08
it seems to me that your hubby and his ex are using their kid as a pawn. not cool! be sure that you don't blame the kid for this rift your man is creating! also, don't allow either of them to treat you poorly in front of the child or otherwise! distance from the ex may be best until she grows up!
@jstaubin (423)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I know that this is a tough situation but if you just let go of asny reservations you may have it becomes much easier. You can not force yourself to love someon but if you take a step back and try to open your heart you may find that it is not that hard to love a child no matter whoes kid it is.