It's my birthday today but no one seems to care.

@ritchel (890)
Philippines
March 30, 2008 9:59am CST
See??? My world is falling apart. No one seems to care. I am such a loser! I am bombarded with a lot of problems and I am crushing. No money and nothing. How will i spend my day full of worth? (Sighed) Forgive me for those words. But anyways, I should not be so negative instead I should be thankful because I was given another life to spend. I will try to make it to the fullest thought I felt that oppression and unfairness in this world.
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@eden32 (3978)
• United States
30 Mar 08
Sorry you're feeling down, but Happy Birthday anyway. Perhaps you should take this milestone as a time to reflect, to make new goals & plans with your life if you're not satisfied with how it is currently. Best wishes for an improved birthday :)
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@ritchel (890)
• Philippines
11 Apr 08
Hi, thank you very much for your comment. Hehehehehhee..i appreciate your the first one to drop by and leave a message in my post. Thank you very much.
• Canada
30 Mar 08
thats pretty harsh calling yourself a loser and thinking that no body cares about your birthday.. while i dont personally know you, actually i know nothing about you cept that you think of yourself as a loser and that its your birthday... But anways... i really hope that you have a better birthday and things turn around for you and that you dont keep calling yourself a loser! because im sure your not..... So happy birthday! have a great day
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@ritchel (890)
• Philippines
11 Apr 08
Hehehehehhe..like your message especially when you are pretty sure that I am not a loser. I truly appreciate it. hehehehhee...Thank you very much.
@mariah_5 (97)
30 Mar 08
[b][/b] HAPPY BIRTHDAY RITCHEL.Everybody goes through this bad phase in their lives,and there's nothing to be ashamed of, or get upset with.Good days will always follow, bad days.Problems are not really, the one's worrying you, but its your negative attitude which is making them look huge, complex, and unsolvable. Have faith in GOD.And who said no one cares about you,we are all here wishing you the best in your future. I am still singing, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU....HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU...........MANY GREETINGS TO YOU......... ARE YOU LISTENING.
• China
31 Mar 08
happy birthday,you know,my BF forgot my birthday,but i didn't blame him.coz i am positive.
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• United States
31 Mar 08
Happy Birthday! I am sorry your feeling so down I know exactly how you feel as I am feeling the same way in this point of my life. Things will start to look up just hang in there and keep your head up!
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• China
31 Mar 08
Happy birthday ,Ritchel! Now i m in China and give my sincere wishes to you . Wish you hear me .
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@mbcousins (116)
• United States
30 Mar 08
Hey!! wait a minute ritchel, you was supposed to call us and remind us that your birthday was coming up !! Heh!, you must have forgot. Happy birthday. I agree with the mylotter who advised you to get rid of the "shoulds and should'nt haves" That attitude can add in to depression because we do not have the ability to live our lives according to someone else's standards. We do not experience satisfaction by meeting "their" goals. I saw your other post about depression ritchel and I have experienced terrible depression for long periods of time. Very painful. I have been known to try little experiments to try and break the depression, like singing, talking to myself, since I always found myself fighting the depression. I have turned that idea around and would invite the depression to come in and get done with what it wants to do(that has worked on occassion). I have found what works for me and that is talking about the depression with another human being. If I am lucky or have the courage to be honest, talking it out with another human being usually leads to a cathartic reaction(crying) and that, for me, is the best medicine. It relieves all the pressure and sadness and allows my body to be pliable again. I usually have an insight into the depression when that happens also. And then there is the chemical imbalance theory. Serotonin in parts of our brain can keep us out of depression. There are numerous meds for depression, but the newest ones are SSRI's. They enable the brain to selectively inhibit itself from re-uptaking much needed serotonin deposits which allows more serotonin to be available in selected areas. I think I will quit that now......I have heard alot of good things about the newest one Cymbalta. Gives a person energy and lift of the depression quicker than the others. I was on Zoloft for PTSD and depression for over 20 years and then I stopped taking it. I would'nt advise that without a doctor monitoring you. Now, I take Tramadol which is the main ingredient for Ultram. It is a pain medication but it has effects on serotonin and it helps me tremendously. ritchle, you make your birthday a celebration if you can because this world would not be what it is today without you. You effect all of our lives by everything you do. Don't worry, be happy.........PEACE.......Bruce
@ritchel (890)
• Philippines
11 Apr 08
It is nice reading your amazing long comment in my post. I appreciate it especially the fact when you shared about depression and all that stuff. Yeah, it is really true. I am trying to move on gradually because I am still hurting deep inside but at least there is a change. Thank you very much for your comments.
• Philippines
30 Mar 08
Happy birthday Ritchel! I have felt that way before, just few days before my birthday, haven't planned anything, but my husband saved the day. He just gave me a dozen of yellow american roses, a basket full of chocolates and a birthday cake in the early morning of my birthday. It's just the thought that somebody cared for you on your birthday, even if you don't have any preparations to celebrate. Like the saying, "It's the thought that counts". You celebrate your natal day to give thanks to God that you are born in this world a few years from now, if that didn't happen, you weren't be with us here in mylot sharing thoughts and ideas, making friends and letting us greet you a happy birthday.
@ritchel (890)
• Philippines
11 Apr 08
Wow, that was so sweet. I like the what your husband did. Yeah, i agree with you. It is really the thought that counts. More so, be thankful i celebrated another new year of existence in this world and was able to get to know you guys (here in mylot). Thank you very much.
@Roxenne (73)
30 Mar 08
Happy birthday ritchel. I am sorry that you feel down. Try to think a little bit more positive and you will see how better it can get this that should be the best of all your days.
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@ritchel (890)
• Philippines
11 Apr 08
Hi, thank you very much for your comments. I agree with you. I should really be positive instead.
• United States
30 Mar 08
Happy birthday, Ritchel. Suggestion: Take the "shoulds" out of your life and ALLOW yourself to find joy in small corners. Cheers!
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@ritchel (890)
• Philippines
11 Apr 08
Like your comment simple and very nice. Thanks!
@bellelady (264)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
i often feel that also but the only consolation i have tight now is its not my b-day yet.. but i am alone and somewhat lonely in all aspects of life. i've got tons of problems especially money and some personal problems and i don't have someone to share it with. i often feel like giving up but God continues to give me an opportunity to wake up everyday maybe because i have to do something better.. i have to find my self and where i should be.. yeah maybe thats what i should do to lessen the feel of burden and to be a hugelump in the neck.. geez.. its tough these days..
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• Philippines
13 Apr 08
Happy birthday.Every one has her own share of stress and problems to make our life colorful.Have faith and you will have your problems well taken care of
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• Indonesia
11 Apr 08
i dont know you, but i very glad to say happy birthday to you ritchel, may god bless you
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• Philippines
11 Apr 08
Don't Worry about them There are some alternative ways to be happy in your birthday
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@skygal (146)
• Malaysia
11 Apr 08
first of all happy belated BIRTHDAY. i hope you r feelin better now, if you have any worries pls share it here cause there are people out there who is willing to help. chiayo....
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3 Apr 08
A happy life in further time. All the best. All we deserve.
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@MsTickle (24623)
• Australia
2 Apr 08
I'm sorry, but you obviously don't understand how things work. You have whined about your birthday and nearly 100 people have wished you happy and tried to cheer you up. You haven't commented to any one or even said thankyou. I just know you probably won't even read this. That's just pathetic in my book. I know we are supposed to be friendly but what's the point with self absorbed people like you. You don't know how to be friendly because you just care about yourself.
• China
2 Apr 08
absolutely.don't just live in self and overlook others' careness.it's not acceptable.
• China
2 Apr 08
ooooooh,what a shameful thing!sorry to make such mistake:care.not careness.care other's feeling but not just self."if you don't care self,how can others care you?" anyway,happy birthday.
@Shaun72 (15970)
• Palatka, Florida
30 Mar 08
I am so sorry things are bad for you right now. Things will look up keep your head up and keep strong. Bless you and happy Birthday to you :)
@ritchel (890)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
Thanks for your comment. Its true. I really need to be strong. A lot of people are depending on me.
@Shaun72 (15970)
• Palatka, Florida
13 Apr 08
Tour welcome :)
• United States
1 Apr 08
Happy Birthday!
• China
1 Apr 08
First Happy birthday to you!And I want to say that maybe anyone used to celebrate his or her birthday alone.When I was in my college there were friends celebrating birthday for me every year.But after graduation we seprated,working in different cities. No one celebrates for us anymore.At first we all felt so bad,no friends,no cake,no nothing.A few days ago was one of my best friends' birthday. And to my surprise he wanted to be very low-piched. That is not his style! But he told me that he wanted to experience "alone", because not all the time we have people around us. Finally we will be alone. Be alone to face difficulties,be alone to face real life. So maybe this is kind of growing up, this is 25.
@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
31 Mar 08
Sorry if you feel that way... If no money and lots of problems...just don't forget it for a moment. Go to church and pray...celebrate your birthday with HIM and your family even without a party. Be happy and thank Him for life he given unto you. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
31 Mar 08
what i mean is "forget your problems" for a moment not "don't".
30 Mar 08
Happy Birthday and I am sorry you are feeling this way. I can relate to how you are feeling...I'm always left out and feel the same way as my birthday is the day after my Grandma's. Everybody remembers hers but has always seemed to have forgot mine! Renee
@ritchel (890)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
So sad to hear that. What usually do when there are cases like that is celebrate them on one day. To save money also.
@lingli_78 (12860)
• Australia
30 Mar 08
hi ritchel... first of all, i want to wish you a happy and blessed b'day... have fun and enjoy your big day... secondly, i just want you to think positively of yourself... i think it is a bit harsh to call yourself a loser... i don't think you are... but if you keep on thinking that you are, then you are... you are what you think ritchel... your mind play a very important role in shaping your life... so please start to think positively of yourself... finally, i just want to let you know that there are heaps of people here that do care for you... so when you say that nobody cares about you, you are wrong... anyway, take care, God bless you and have a blessed day...
@ritchel (890)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
I like the thing that you said that you are what you think. Hmmnn...i was hit by those words. Thanks..There are definitely a lot of people who cares about me including the people here in mylot.
• United States
30 Mar 08
Happy Birthday! I am sorry to hear that you are so down on yourself. try to think of what you do have and be thankful for that. you are not alone with this feeling i think we all feel like this from time to time you just need to thank your maker for what you have and move on with your live, remember this is all a test to see how strong we are and how well we can deal with our lives.
@ritchel (890)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
Its true. It is just really a test for me. Life is really full of trials. Thank you very much for your comments.