Are you a good listener?

United States
April 1, 2008 4:45pm CST
Are you a good listener or do you just think you are? A good listener never gives advice are they just there to only listen? I think they are there to provide support for the person and keep what they learn to themselves. What do you think?
7 responses
• United States
1 Apr 08
I honestly try very hard to be a good listner but i do throw in my advice/opinions too
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• United States
2 Apr 08
Do you feel that giving your opinion sometimes gets you into trouble. I know people usually don't like to hear when they are making a wrong decision. However when you know someone is going down the wrong path I think you need to say something.
@tessah (6638)
• United States
1 Apr 08
i dont think a good listener just sits there, humors, and says nothing. giving advice and input is part of listening. but yes, whats said should be kept in confidence and not used for gossip fodder.
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• United States
2 Apr 08
I completely agree with you, a good listener is one who listens and gives input to the conversation also.. It helps the person who you are listening to realize that you are really listening and not just pretending to listen while tuning them out.. I believe I am a good listener, but also a good advice giver, with it always made known, that "you don't have to take my advice" but if I were you, "I would do, such and such".. Never push your thoughts on someone else, but they will know that you are hearing what they have to say and it helps them to be able just to vent and get rid of some of their frustrations.. But you have to be careful who you listen to, some people like the attention they get from always having problems and always fussing about their problems.. If it is real, it never hurts to listen and maybe you will have just the right piece of advice to help solve their problems..
• United States
13 Apr 08
A good listener is someone who cares about people. Gives them someone to sound off to and not have to worry about it being repeated to other people.
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@msedie (7)
• United States
1 Apr 08
I think I'm a good listener. I don't know why, but all my friends and associates always come to me,when they have a problem. The only problem I have with that is they always want to know what I would do in their situation. I always respone by telling them I'm not them and we are different people. I have to remind them, that what is right for me may not be right for them. Most of the time people want some one to listen, but they also want you to tell them that they are right, because they've already have made up their mind. I've learned that people usually, have their decision made, they just want someone to listen. And act like you understand their reasons for their decision. But you're right, you have to listen,what is simple to you, could be horrable for someone else.
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@mic_tcs (264)
• Malaysia
1 Apr 08
I think I'm a good listener. I like to hear out my friends trouble and if can, help them to solve it. But if I act as a listener only, I'll listen to whatever they say. It'll help them to reduce stress as well. Besides, I don't like to see my friends living a moody life with no one to listen to their problems.
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@Tom728 (176)
• United States
12 Oct 09
A good listener knows when the person is really talking and when they are ranting for no reason. A good listener knows the point of view that the person who is talking is coming from.
28 Apr 08
if im honest i dont think i am such a good listener, in serious situations i am, but any other time i tend to talk and talk and talk lol, i am a very good talker pmsl! but when needs be i can be a good listener to any1 and recognise situations where i need to be.