lesbian...

China
April 1, 2008 10:33pm CST
well,,i canot sure if i am lesbian or not.????? these days..it seems i have fall in love to a girl...actually not a girl but a woman..she is older than me about servarl yeas.. we met each other throught the internet..we are in the same city.. everyday i wanna call her and have something talk to her..but i dont know what she is think about ...she wont refuse my call...but when i ask she to go out for a dinner she always say no. ps: i am a girl too. hope friends here can give me some advice.. thanks a lot.
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• United States
2 Apr 08
It seems pretty clear to me that you know you are attracted to women. But just for the sake of argument have you ever been in love with a boy? Have you ever had any kind of feelings for one? Everyone who talks to someone on the internet is nervous about meeting. Im actually in a similar situation. I've been talking to a guy for a while now, and we both like eachother. He's all for meeting, but I'm nervous about it, and not sure. I like him, but there are just SO many things I worry about, and it's not just about him, so of it is about me. Maybe when you think you feel comfortable doing it, you could ask her if there is a reason she doesn't want to meet you. Talk to her about it. Even if her answer is something you don't want to hear, at least you'll know. Good luck! Let us know how it goes
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• China
2 Apr 08
um,,acutally no,,never been in love with a boy. it seems girls will attract me easier than boys,, when i ask her to go out, sometimes she said she is busy,sometimes she said she have back home, yesterday i even wanna go to the place she back work but finaly i didnot cause i called her yesterday afternoon lead my poor luck,that was,my leader asked me if i have nothing to do with the job but have a call to sb.! lily, u said u know a guy almost like another u, i agree, sometimes we will meet someone who have never been met but , maybe we have a strange feeling that both the right guy and we ourself have meet each other before or even for a long time! well,, i 'll come here to share the going things, thanks guy. ps: just back for lunch. ^_^
• China
2 Apr 08
today she (just call her summer) is out of city for business. i ask her if she will have supper with me when she be back.. still dont know her answer..
• United States
3 Apr 08
I understand it's probably frustrating that you can't get a straight reason from her. I think you should just say "hey, why don't you want to meet me? Please just give me a straight answer." Or something like that lol. I wish I wasn't so worried about meeting him. He's a nice guy! I like him. But there's just a laundry list of reasons (mostly all about me, not him) of why I don't want to just yet. But I do hope I get the courage sometime =P
@rockvixen (895)
• United States
2 Apr 08
If you're in love with a woman, you are a lesbian. There is nothing wrong with that at all. Maybe she dosen't feel comfortable with you enough yet to meet. Perhaps call and talk about anything, get to know her that way, and perhaps in the future you could meet. Another thing could be that she is already in a relationship, but you won't know unless you talk. Don't be shy. Just see what happens. Good luck to you.
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• China
2 Apr 08
yep,,i know now lesbian love or guys love dont matter to wrong..but i am still worry about something.. she have said i am not her style if we have a chat face to face..it gave me a message that she dont like me..but..why she hear my call and talk to me even at night..?? i canot know what she is thinking about..even dont know how to know her more... last weeken i was in a coffershop with my friend..i think of she then sent a message her..she asked me if i am alone..i said..if i am alone would she come? she said maybe yep maybe no..finaly she wouldnot come... ps..i am a shy guy...
@Gesusdid (1683)
• United States
2 Apr 08
seems to me that she probaly knows that your kinda into her but shes just being kinda to your calls and talking to you just for the cause you know ..i think i would back up a bit , sorta putting the pressure on her
• China
2 Apr 08
putting the pressure on her?? what;s that mean? um,,once my oicq mark is a sentence about a girl who is pretty and good,,and,,she ask me who is this girl? she wanna her..!!!! and this made me down!!