will u ever tell ur friend or family that u r les?
By littlewhite
@littlewhite (256)
China
April 2, 2008 10:29pm CST
will u ever tell ur friend or family that u r les?
i have told one of my friend and my sister cause they wont combat me.!
3 responses
@Kierstal (142)
• United States
29 May 08
Almost everyone who knows me knows I am a lesbian. My brother found out because he saw me kissing another girl at school; he was surprised, but it didn't bother him. However I think he is the only member of my family that knows. I never told my mother, father, or grandparents - if they found out from someone else, they have never said anything to me about it or given any sign.
But I am comfortable with my sexuality, and so I have no fear telling people that I have a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend. It's who I am, and if someone is going to be my friend, then they must accept that that is a big part of my life that I will never change.
@littlewhite (256)
• China
29 May 08
thanks for your response first,,
"it is who i am", i like this word,,for me,,i think i will tell my parents if should be,,but now it is impossible,,and i believe my parents will carzy if i tell me,,so i am worry about this,,
@Kierstal (142)
• United States
29 May 08
I *still* haven't told my parents. But when/if you do, and if they start taking it badly, you should tell them that nothing about you has changed - you are still the same person you always were, that they are just learning something new about you. You didn't become a lesbian the instant that you tell them :) I think that if they can realize that it isn't a *choice* that they can blame you for making, then you will be fine.
Good luck!!!
@littlewhite (256)
• China
30 May 08
ah,,i suppose u are a good guy,,quite agree with you that just let my parents know that i am still what i am but have no other change,,being a lesbian canot decide by myself i think,,just because the one i like is right a girl too..thanks friend,,,
ps,,if u would like to,,,add my msn,,,le_papillon30@hotmail.com,,,
good luck!
@sameroad (3179)
• United States
23 Sep 08
i have told my friends and my cousins know also some of my other family members might know.. my parents do not and i am not sure about my brothers.
i'm out to pretty much everyone but them.. i'm just not ready to tell them yet.
i know my parents will still love them. they have asked me before if i was gay.
but i said no.. or just played it off because i wasn't ready. i don't know when or if i'll ever be ready either. i don't want to cause them that disappointment.
but i also can't change or help who i am and who i love.
@easybizwidnet (61)
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
I found out that I am a les when I was in grade school. I usually tell my friends that I'm a les. I got my strength maybe because I know there are numbers of lesbians in our school. I tried telling my mom that i do have a girlfriend back in forth yr high school, it seems that it's okay with her, she even let my girlfriend enter our house but when my dad came from abroad, my mom suddenly changed her views on lesbians, she together with my dad became mad at me. But still I fought for who I am. To make the long story short, my current relationship now is 5 yrs & 4 months, my parents knew about it & they finally accepted me. My girlfriends can now eat with my family. My advice is for you to be honest to your loved ones, Because if you won't do that, you are not honest with yourself. If you are not ready yet, that takes time. Wait for the right time to come out of your shell.
