Is it true that friends can be lovers... but...?!?!
By jessa
@jesbellaine (4139)
Philippines
April 4, 2008 10:01am CST
Do you believe in the saying: "Friends can be lovers but lovers can't turn into friends?"
Well on the first phrase "Friends can be lovers"... Hell yeah, that is true. I believe in that because it happened to me... My man is my friend, family and my lover *winkz*. No one can attest to that, aight?
But here is the thing, can lovers be friends? hmmm... well, I would say if there is one is still in love with his/her EX then definitely, they can't be friends because the feeling is not mutual anymore.
On the other hand, if both feelings are gone as well as they didn't have a bad relationship at all but has to come to the saying "we're not meant for each other" thing then I believe they can be GOOD FRIENDS.
After all, not all relationship that ends means that they had a bad breakup or something.. right? :)
So guys, what do you think????
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5 responses
@iluvannaz (11)
• United States
12 Apr 08
I don't know but all of my ex are my friends right now.
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@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
He is a guy, he was an online friend and I invited him here. :)
@UK_Shree (3603)
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15 Jan 09
I definitely think it is possible for friends to be lovers and in fact some of the most stable and long-lasting relationships begin as friendship.
However I do not believe in ex-lovers being friends. I think it is a great concept and I am sure that there will be many people who will disagree with me, but I think that if there was once chemistry between two people, there is always a tiny bit left forever. Even if it's bad chemistry, there will always be complications between ex-lovers that attempt to stay friends
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
Hello There UK_Shree!
I believe you because on my part, me and my ex-boyfriend were not really friends at all. I mean, I don't love him anymore and so is he but there is this thing that I cannot be friends with him because I already lose my trust in him. And you can't be friends with someone who can't trust. We are more of civil to one another when we cross path and that is really fine for me 
Thank you for responding! Really Appreciate it!
Thank you for responding! Really Appreciate it!
@oyenkai (4394)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
I think ex-lovers SHOULDN'T be "good" friends. It risks too much. I don't really care what they feel about each other, I'm more concerned about their current partners. If a man and woman broke up after a good relationship, and they decided to be friends then they should be casual about it and not "best buds" sort of thing because that would make their current partners jealous. They can say "but we're just friends" as much as they want but it's something they would have to sacrifice for a better romantic relationship.
Thanks for the response on my discussion!
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
26 Jan 09
Hi friend,
I have a counter-question for U(sorry)-"Is it possible that a LOVER be a Lover without being a FRIEND?"
According to me it is not possible.Unless U Love a Celebrity....
A Lover can be a true FRIEND, if LOVE is existing.
If Lover is for other interest, then......
=Lahiri,Kolkata.
