be friend or be lover

@vera0571 (167)
China
April 5, 2008 12:59am CST
i'd like to know you guys' opinion.if you find you fell in love with one friend of yours,would you told him or her that you loved him or her. if yes, do you think it will affect your friendship?
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7 responses
@chazsgirl (256)
• United States
5 Apr 08
I have had 2 friends where it was turning to the going out stage but we decided to keep things the way they were because we were afraid of losing the friendship! well needless to say 1 became a lover after a while and there is no friendship there over the fat that they couldn't become what they wanted to, a boyfriend, and the other one who was my best-friend didn't like choice in guys(my husband) and decided to part and not look back! Tough descision, but if I could I would go for the gold and see hwere we land!
@vera0571 (167)
• China
5 Apr 08
mmm,thank you for sharing with me!
• United States
5 Apr 08
you are very welcome, we are all here to help!
6 Apr 08
i experienced the same situation. we were friends for almost 2 years or more.one day i told her i was in love with her.she said that she was no interested and it did not affect our frndship in any way and we are friends even today.it all depends on the frnd's psychology.
@vera0571 (167)
• China
6 Apr 08
oh, you are luck,wish you a long long friendship with your friend.
@zsxdcf (50)
• China
6 Apr 08
I will told her.the worst situation is that our friendship is over.but I still have chance to start a sweet love trip.
@vera0571 (167)
• China
6 Apr 08
different people have different opinion.thank you for your view.
@p_vadla (1687)
• India
5 Apr 08
In the normal course it should not affect friendship.Once you decide what is needed for you, stick to it. If it works out both ways its fine otherwise forget the second option safely.
@vera0571 (167)
• China
5 Apr 08
oh ,thank you for your response.
@sisco100 (2345)
• United States
5 Apr 08
it depends how long we've been friends, so of my friends tht are girls i would love to date cuz we get along so well, but i wonder if it would work out and wht if i didnt could we still be friends after. even thought i care and love them alot i dont think tht i could trade my friendship for a relationship tht could end the friendship. love makes u do crazy things tht sometimes has a bad reaction on a friendship. i would still tell them how i felt but i would try to date them. relationships come and go but friends can last u a life time, and thts wht i rather have a life time of friendship then a short relationship.
@vera0571 (167)
• China
5 Apr 08
thank you.i like a long long friendship than love.
@chiyosan (30204)
• Philippines
5 Apr 08
if he is a friend, i will not have the courage to tell him i like him or i love him. i am not sure about what the outcome will be. besides i believe that ladies dont make the first move and it cant be love if it is felt from a distance and i might just be confused as to what this feeling is.
@vera0571 (167)
• China
5 Apr 08
yean,i agree with you!
• China
5 Apr 08
if you fall in love her/him,pls speak you love loundly
@vera0571 (167)
• China
5 Apr 08
yeah,but it really need courage!