Need advice on what to do
By Angel3yes
@Angel3yes (455)
United States
April 6, 2008 10:28pm CST
My brother is about six years older than me so I know he's a big boy and all and can make his own decisions but that doesn't mean that I don't still want to help him out when I can. He has been dating this girl off and on for about four years and it seems like every time something better comes along, she takes off. She has a friend that has some money and she wants to live with her all the sudden and then runs back to my brother when things go sour. He takes her back because he loves her. Well, he calls me yesterday and says things aren't so good between them again and she took off on him saying she's staying with a friend agan and she's not sure if she's coming back. Apparently, they talked last night and got along and my brother calls me today and has me go pick out an engagement ring with him. I think he's making a mistake but when he asks my opinion, I can't tell him that because I don't want to be an jerk. What do I do? I don't want to see her use him like this either!
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4 responses
@Angel3yes (455)
• United States
11 Apr 08
The thing is, I think he does know to a certain extent but he doesn't want to see it. I don't know. I don't want to end up pushing him away.
@treastrinity (25)
• United States
7 Apr 08
I think you should take him aside and point our everything that you have stated here. When marriage comes into the picture it only makes problems like that so much worse!! Im sure you don't want to see your brother treated like this for the rest of his life as well. You can also explain to him that if she loved him the way a woman is supposed to love the man she will marry, she wouldn't leave everytime a problem comes up. If you love someone, you stick it out and work out your problems, you dont just run away from every one that comes up.
@Angel3yes (455)
• United States
11 Apr 08
My point exactly, you don't just walk away. If you care about them.. you don't just run. She doesn't even seem to have problems when they aren't getting along.. it's just when something better comes along, period.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
22 Apr 08
Hello dear Angel3yes. I think that you need to tell your brother that she is not treating him nicely, but using him. As you have said, she comes back to your brother when things get sour. I don't think that she is a faithful girlfriend and is worth your brother's love. But I do hope that your brother will find someone better to fulfill himself. Good luck to him and I thank you for your responding to my discussion, Angel.
@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
7 Apr 08
I would talk to my brother and let him know my fears and leave it at that.As you said he's a big boy let him make his own decisions, that way anything happens you wont come out being the bad guy.I always say family is the group of people who keeps picking you up when you fall. Here's a line from a quote i once read, "The eyes of the decieved will soon be unsealed."
