Are You OCD?

@tessah (6621)
United States
April 10, 2008 10:13am CST
i couldnt decide whether to put this discussion in philosopher, or observer.. but chose this because i think being ocd, to a point, is just heightened senses of awareness.. ie hella observational skills. im terrible.. my philosphy is a place for everything and everything in its place. not that youd know it to look at my house right now. we are in the midst of major home renovations and everything is a mess. which is partly why i begin this discussion.. its driving me to madness!!!! nothing is where it belongs.. my schedule and routine are all wonky... nothing make sense anymore!! ;twitches; how bad are you? do you, like myself.. count things? your steps.. tiles on a ceiling.. windows in a building? the insanity has its merits. when the power goes ~poof~ im the only one that doesnt bumble in the dark nearing killing myself slamming into furniture or walls.. because i already know its 13 steps down and 6 to the left to find the flashlight, that yes, is it its PLACE because *I* put it there! my clothes are organized by color and style in my dresser drawers.. no hunting and yelling of "do you know where my (insert item here) is ???" i swear my husband thinks my ovaries are a dousing rod that can lead me to any lost article hes misplaced. wheres my wallet, wheres my keys.. cant find my security pass for work! wheres my phone!?! dewd.. put everything in the dish i have set on the hutch just for you to keep these things.. and youll never lose them again! organization releives stress.. there are certain logics to my methods of madness. altho i do admit.. that it causes more stress if there is an unexpected variation to my routine that will throw me all off kilter. i attempted to prove him wrong once, that i could do just fine if i changed my routine driven compulsions.. i shower in a certain order. get wet, wash my hair, shave under my arms.. and the list continues until the final rinse off.. i shut the water off.. im done. i can do this without thought, rther on auto pilot, then.. i changed the formula. by the time i was finished i couldnt remember if id washed my hair or not.. i had.. but had forgotten to condition.. so i wound up showering all over again in the right order LOL hes trying to break me of some of these, as he calls them "annoying tendencies". hes started putting his own clothes away.. and has ordered i keep my butt out. it is HIS closet, it is HIS dresser, he shall keep them as HE wishes, and im not allowd to touch... ;twitches again;.. there are times ive pondered getting up at night while hes sleeping.. his shirts are all facing different directions on the hangers.. he has jeans and slacks mixed in with jackets and shirts on the wrong sides of his closet.. its chaos!! but i respect his wishes.. and groan to myself and count my breaths until i manage to fall asleep. so how bad are you? do you know just how many steps it takes to get from yer bedroom to the car in the driveway? 8 to the left.. 13 down.. 9 straight.. 5 down.. 3 to the right
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• United States
11 Apr 08
My first impulse after reading this was, "OMG yer all freaks." After thinking about it for a minute or two and re-reading some of the posts I realized I'm not so un-freakish myself. When making scrambled eggs? I have to have an even number of eggs. Don't mess with my chairs, they are set perfectly for my height, and tendency to lean. This one really bugs the crap out of me... People who will get their hands dirty just because they know they're going to wash them again. Like when you clean off the leftover food on a plate before doing the dishes? Hell no, I will dirty a clean fork to scrape that goop off. I must lay on my side, facing away from the center of the bed or I can't sleep. Do not expect me to sit with my back to the door in a resteraunt. I realized I even have a systematic way of cleaning up after a visit to the rest room. So yes, I'm a guy, and I'm nuttier than the rest of you! (BTW all guys are like this, they just lie to look superior!)
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
10 Apr 08
Well I was fine until I read this! lol Now I'm twitching and counting keys! But yes, I'm OCD too. For years I thought that I was simply following my mother's constant "Pay attention to the details!" dictum that she threw at me every time I moved or opened my mouth. So yes Mr. Freud I blame my mother! lol I don't count tiles or steps or things, but I can navigate in the dark just fine because my senses become hightened and I instinctively know where to go - well last night I was really tired and after I turned out the lights and went to walk out of the living room, my senses must have been already asleep because I miscalculated and walked, literally, into the edge of the door frame knocking things off the table to the right, but managed even in the dark to catch the falling objects and put them back on the table. So this morning I have a major headache and a dent in my door frame.*sigh* So being OCD has it's drawbacks, but it's advantages too. LOL
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
10 Apr 08
"So this morning I have a major headache and a dent in my door frame." but look at the bright side..NOTHING BROKE!
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@tessah (6621)
• United States
10 Apr 08
the Force is strong with this one Obi Wan...
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
10 Apr 08
Yes, my saber light is red, red, red!
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
10 Apr 08
"the insanity has its merits. when the power goes~poof~ im the only one that doesnt bumble in the dark nearing killing myself slamming into furniture or walls" LOL yea true enough..with me its not OCD though its a photographic memory... I'm not OCD but I definately have little quirks that could be considered OCDish by some...Just little habits I have "i swear my husband thinks my ovaries are a dousing rod that can lead me to any lost article hes misplaced" ROFLMFAO omg thats too funny!
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@tessah (6621)
• United States
10 Apr 08
;laughs; what "habits" ? share in this madness with me so im not the only wackjob on the block!
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
10 Apr 08
One really stupid one is my issue with the egg carton...there has to be an even number of eggs and evenly placed in the carton or I go snakey..Can't stand it!! When I get into bed I have to do it just so..the same every night or I can't sleep LOL..Just little weird things...LOL this one my husband and kids think is hilarious....When we go to McBarfys I HAVE TO dress each french fry from end to end with mayo from the packet..evenly placed etc before I'll eat it (they always laugh at me)...Towels MUST be folded properly..i DONT CARE if they end up UNfolded once they're in the linen closet..so long as they get folded properly when they come out of the dryer...The rest of the laundry (like teeshirts) MUST be folded a certain way too... thats all I can think of right now LOL but i know there are others..I'll have to ask my husband when he gets home LOL
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@tessah (6621)
• United States
10 Apr 08
omg i do the bed thing ;laughs; if it has any wrinkles in the blankets or sheets i cant get into it to sleep! same with the way things are folded! dont really care how my french fries are dressed tho.. cept theyve gotta get dipped in mayo first THEN ketchup.. it cant be the reverse or they just dont taste right.. same with sandwiches.. if you eat them upsidedown,they taste completely different.
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• United States
26 Apr 08
But to respond to your question Im slightly OCD where I have to always push chairs in even in public, straighten books at the library and always have to put the books back that my kids threw around the bookstore even though its the book clerks job! I see myself putting things in a neat pile after eating out and my bf bugs me because thats why he tips the waiter but sometimes i cant help it. Im not a clean freak but I have to have things in a certain order in my house and I literally cannot think straight if theres not order in the house---like toys or scraps of paper on the floor, or pillows out of order, my papers have to be in a neat pile or in a folder, stuff like that. I don't see it as a big deal but good feng shui since clutter is unuseful energy and even my bed I have to have in a certain direction depending on how I feel. I dont practice feng shui but do agree with the concept since it does make me feel more productive. My boyfriend thinks Im his personal secretary and its partly my fault because I had to organize everything of his up until we had kis and now its annoying but he knows that I cannot stand a shirt laying on his dresser or on the floor and will pick it or put it away eventually. I would say that being Bipolar affects me more than these habits as with being bipolar you go through the ups and downs, racing thoughts, constant monitoring of meds and the misconceptions.
• United States
26 Apr 08
I think Spirituality does wonders keeping me centered and I just ran into 'Science of Mind' by Ernest Holmes (1926?) which i browsed and looked like it made alot of sense but normally I read Deepak Chopra.
@tessah (6621)
• United States
28 Apr 08
i dont have the luxury of being able to read much unfortunately, the last i was able to read cover to cover was shapeshifting by john perkins. spirituality is a big important part of not just my own life, but those who live in this home as well. you cant read much in a 15-20 minute span of time.. but you can do massively beneficial meditations in that window, and i take advanage of those windows every chance i get.
• United States
26 Apr 08
Sounds tedious but I did just read an article in the magazine New Scientist titled 'The beautiful forgetful mind' about a woman who can remember everything (except things that have no interest to her life) and she says her mind runs like a constant stream of movies everytime she thinks about something it triggers a memory and then another and then another. They have not figured out why she is like this because it was something that she was not born with but woke up one day with but said she doesnt not qualify as having a photographic mind.
@tessah (6621)
• United States
26 Apr 08
my mind works that way, but it always has since i was little, and i dont have the selective memory where i forget things not pertinent, or unseemly to my existance. i just simply remember everything.. back to when i was in diapers still n my crib even. ive often looked for ways to semi lobotomize myself and do a memory wipe.. like clearing a computers harddrive.. to be able to forget things i really dont need to remember. drives my husband bats really.. because i remember conversations word for word, and can quote them back to him when he starts to say "i didnt say that" apart from that and my obscenely intricate attention to details that keeps me organized.. it isnt a gift i really wish was cursed with.
• United States
26 Apr 08
They still do not know so much about how the mind really works and some of the greatest masters had "mental illness" but they just do not understand them i think. I think kids with ADD are gifted, even autism with their pristine memories--i think we have far to come. Although I do not discuss being Bipolar with my bf family and Brittany Spears didnt help I do think being bipolar could be the greatest blessing if you learn how monitor the mood fluctuations. For me it took needing medication but when I wasnt on it I did have VERY productive bouts of insight but couldn't hold onto it long enough because my thoughts would start going a mile a minute so the meds help slow me down and keep on track where I can actually do school again.
@tessah (6621)
• United States
28 Apr 08
not being bipolar, i cant say i personally understand the affliction myself. my brain is just a vast warehouse of information that just sticks there whether i want it to or not.
• United States
11 Apr 08
I am OCOS, Oppessive Complusive...Ooo Shiny! I am slightly OCD, but not as much as other people. Mine is mostly doing things in the same way. I am slowly breaking myself of that habit.
@tessah (6621)
• United States
11 Apr 08
ahh but you must share with the group here. so prey, tell... what are these "things" you must do in a certain way.. and what is that certain way?
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• United States
11 Apr 08
I want my shoes in certain places. I want my comic books and remote controls for my television in certain places. I just want things in certain places, and I feel like if they are not there, then I must have lost them.
@ebsharer (5518)
• United States
10 Apr 08
How funny are you! I was thinking about it all as I was reading it and I think I too have OCD. But not all the time. My house isn't necessary clean with every thing in its place but I do have certain things that have to be in certain places. I have an obsession with my desk at work that every thing has to be right where it should and no where else. Even to the point that I have asked the cleaning people to NOT touch my desk, I will clean it myself. Yes I too am guity of counting ceiling tiles, windows, how many signs did I just pass? My clothing has to be a just right, my daughters clothes are together by sets, my husbands clothes are his own thing I don't touch them he doesn't touch mine. I am also VERY semetrical. Things have to be the same on both sides. When my husband kisses me good bye on the cheek I turn for him to kiss the other. I just feel off balance if I don't get one on each cheek. The book on my book shelves are in order by size because I would hate to see a short book then a tall book then another short book ... that would make me NUTS! Well now that I have assured my self I am a nut I feel better. lol. Anyway have a good day I sure will ... I have lots of ceiling tiles to count...
@tessah (6621)
• United States
10 Apr 08
;stifles laughter; i drive my husband bats with the "that isnt even!!" thing. books, nickknacks, cds.. etc. theyve all got to line up right and be symetrical and facing the RIGHT direction!!
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@ebsharer (5518)
• United States
11 Apr 08
My worst is the video games. They are all the same size but they are all different colors (on the side you see when on the shelf) It makes me nuts because they always just throw them on the shelf. I am always going over and putting all the reds together all the whites and what not. It makes him just as nuts to see them in order as it make me not to.
@yoj118 (329)
• Philippines
11 Apr 08
lol....your story is somewhat the same with my mother..she's really an OCD type...everything in our house should be organized according to how she wants them to be,, a little change will make her freak out..she even has her own system of sweeping the house from start to finish, when she asks me to sweep the floor and she sees i didn't follow her system, she'll get mad and start sweeping the floor again by herself!!! she also wants the master bedroom uncluttered..but whenever we stay there a couple of days with my children, we usually occupy their room, and because my children are so playful..bedsheets will be removed, pillows uncovered, as in very chaotic scene..their granny will just say ""oh my God, what the hell happened with my bedroom!!!"""...she couldn't stand to watch it that way, so she'll ask her grandchildren to play outside while she fix her bedroom... even in the kitchen, she's really so OCD...she wants no dishes unwashed in the sink, it should always be dry, and everytime she's done cooking, she always clean and wipes the entire gas range including the oven..
@tessah (6621)
• United States
11 Apr 08
it does make me grit my teeth when someone else is doing something here not "my" way, but not to the point of going back and doing it all over again, unless of course whatever it is is still dirty and was only halfassedly done. when my husband will do the dishes for me.. he does them in all the wrong order, piles them in the rack all disheveled, and hardly ever empties out the dishpan and sets it to dry, but the dishes are clean, and i didnt have to do them, so i dont say anything anymore. i just get em put away as soon as theyre dry so i dont have to look at them piled up the way they are.
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• Philippines
14 Apr 08
hi tessah, you've got a good topic going on here:) i laugh and smile at some of your discussions and some of the people's discussions here because i feel that sometimes i am the same way too.. i guess i inherited it from my father. although i dont have a major OCD issue i have quirks too. in my bag, my things has to be organized when i walk out the door, i dont mind if they get disorganized going home since im going home. and i can fix it at night for the next day. my pens, pencils, erasers and etc. has to be in a pencil case or a container so i can find it easily. makes sense right? than going through your bag? make-ups in the bag has to have a container as well, so no dirt would fall on your bag. my coins has to be in a coin purse and my bills has to be in a flat wallet. without that coin purse thing attached to it? hahaha. but the thing that gets me going is cleaning. hahaha... especially in my room, whom i happen to be sharing with my older sister, she has her own room but i guess she likes staying in one room. and i, a person who likes to have things in a certain way want it to remain in a certain way. and my sister, being a person who loves to take things and not return them in their proper places blows me out into the roof! she places her clothes that she has tried on that day but decided to wear another and puts the rest on her bed, and some on mine! and it gets me frustrated that her wet towel is on my bed as well (sometimes). she uses products that i have lined up neatly in a row infront of our mirror but puts them on top of the tv! grrrr!!! i placed a container for all necklaces but she puts them on the table. i made a line on top of the mirror for our danggling earrings but when she gets home she takes it off along with the necklace and puts them anywhere! she has a sheet of her yellow pad that needs to be thrown out into the trash but doesnt and puts them on my desk and leaves it there! ugh.. she knows how to open doors, drawers and cabinets but doesnt know exactly how to close them properly! geez! hahaha... and the books! we have a lil bookshelf in the room with books lined up neatly mind you and when she enters she either leaves her keys there, her pens, her make-ups or lip gloss... and aside from that, i really hate dust, i mean who doesnt though right. and i get upset that dust would stick to the top of the book, you know the top of the book where the pages show? and because of that i had to plastic cover the books so it wouldnt have dust in them. hahaha.. and to a point all together with my sister's 'leaving things in the bookshelf' attitude and the dust sticking i had to cover the book shelf all over with plastic so that dust wouldnt get in and she couldnt leave things in there. hahaha and it worked! and she doesnt clean the room so i have to do it. and once i got tired of her not cleaning up after herself that i cleaned the room just on my side just to see if she would clean up. but no! she didnt, it got messier and i hated walking barefoot in my room coz dirt would stick! and i love walking barefooted. i couldnt sleep so that night i had to get up and do some light cleaning b4 the mornings up and started cleaning when my sister was gone. it makes me breathe easier knowing that my room is clean and organized. i dont mind if anywhere else in the house isnt that organized since im not the only 1 living in the house. but the room is another thing...