Getting along with ex's

United States
April 13, 2008 9:47am CST
Just curious. Next week I have to attend my step-daughter's wedding and my husband's ex-wife will be there. She's not a nice person. It will be uncomfortable for me to be there, but I'm expected since my husband will be giving his daughter away. Any tips for me? I am not a confrontational person. Hopefully it will go well, without any problems at all. I've managed for 4 years to never be in this ex's presence but now it's unavoidable.
3 responses
• United States
17 Apr 08
Girl just make sure that you are the finest thing in there(next to the bride) and be cordial. You don't have to break your neck and kiss &^% or anything but if you happened to bump into each other give a "how you're doing? (daughter's name) looked beautiful.", and leave it at that. If she was a true WOMAN, she would put any hatred behind for the sake of her daughter. Just think, you won't have to see her anymore after that and honeslty at the end of the day it's not about you two it's about the daughter. Let her have her day.
• United States
17 Apr 08
Very good! Just writing about it and seeing everyone's responses has already helped me deal with this unpleasant situation. I'm not a confrontational person and she is. Thank you for your response.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
13 Apr 08
Honestly..your best bet IMO is to just be there for the occasion..so what if the ex is there! You are NOT there to see her, for her, etc etc..you are there to show support and love to your stepdaughter! so do just that...If the ex tries to chat you up, be civil and pleasant..if she for whatever reason tries to stir up trouble....BE CIVIL AND PLEASANT and calmly let her know that "this is not the time nor the place, we're here for a joyous occasion so lets just enjoy it..whatever issues you have with me/my husband will still be around tomorrow/at a later date but I refuse to do this here, now" or something along those lines...and if she STILL tries to cause trouble, have your husband deal with it....
• United States
13 Apr 08
Excellent suggestions. This woman tried to put me into the middle of some stuff about 4 years ago and even involved my daughter. Having my husband deal with any of her issues is a great suggestion.
@sedel1027 (17854)
• United States
13 Apr 08
At our wedding, my MIL and Step-FIL had to get along with my FIL and Step-MIL. I don't think that they had ever been in the room altogether like that in 13 years! Everything went fine, everyone was nice to each other. I suggest you just say hello, the if she wants to chit chat with you, I am sure she will.
• United States
13 Apr 08
At least you had a positive experience. It's true what you say. Just keep the talk to light talking and not involve past stuff.