is loving much BAD???

Philippines
April 13, 2008 10:38am CST
when i am into relationship, im giving my all... i love lot.. to the point that ders nothing left behind for myself... if my boyfriend hurts me, only a simple sorry can erase evrything even the most painful mistake done.. but if i was d one who commited mistake, 8s hard for him to forgive me.. why is dat so??? is dis fair or not?? is loving him much BAD??? help me pls.. tnx!!
5 responses
@heart143 (1204)
• Philippines
15 Apr 08
To be able to love somebody, you must learn to love yourself first. How can you share the love you have with others when you don't actually have it within yourself. How can others respect you when you don't have enough respect for yourself. Love is a feeling shared by people who are both in love with each other. Most man-woman relationship happen because of love. Love, to be able to grow needs a lot caring and attention from both parties involved. It needs two persons to make love grow but needs only one to make it die. I understand that there are ups and downs in a relationship but to be able to make a relationship work, communication should play an important role. In cases of misunderstanding, you really have to talk it out and sort things properly. You have to let him know and understand how you feel about a certain thing. It is not enough that he apologizes. He should also consider the incidents that led to those things and learn from it. It is not proper that you will always give in to any situation just to make it appear that everything is okay between the two of you. If you'll keep on doing that, you'll lose your identity and eventually lose the respect for yourself. I know that you are still young and may not be so much experienced in this kind of relationship but love is a universal feeling...it knows no age...no boundaries. The key to LOVE is RESPECT...not domination. If it is you who always adjust to the "bad situations"...you have to think it over...think deeply...Is that the kind of love you deserve?
• Philippines
15 Apr 08
wow.. nice comment.. ^_^ uhm, tnx a lot dear..
@cherriemae (3375)
• Philippines
15 Apr 08
for me, loving a person is become bad when come into the point that you dont have love left for your self..i mean, in loving a person, it's better to have an equal feelings for your loved one and for you self because if theres nothing left atleast any respect or love for your self, you will be hurt in the end..i already experienced that over and over and i realized that i become fool again and again..we need to have love and respect for ourselves so that we will not be that hurt when our love ones will go..
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
It's not bad to love but you should know how to balance everything. You should not give your 100% in love but instead keep some for yourself.
• United States
14 Apr 08
I feel the same way when I get into relationships. I am bipolar so I feel everything very strongly anyhow. It's not bad, as long as you are careful not to lose yourself in it. Make sure you are treated fairly, and talk to your guy about the fact that he doesn't forgive you the way you do him. You want to make sure it doesn't turn into an abusive relationship. As long as you both understand the way you feel and work to create the kind of loving relationship you both deserve, I am sure it will all work itself out. Love has a way of doing that.
@edigital (2711)
• United States
13 Apr 08
Loving is not bad but loving someone for relationship is hard work ! If women love more than men in relationship and women suffer much if the love break ! When you want to pluck rose u must remember that there is pain on each leaf and branch of rose tree so do not give much of your wealth if you think love may hurt you - but sure true love never hurt.