working for same money

United States
April 15, 2008 10:35am CST
I have a question for anyone who wants to reply. I worked for family for 12 years. I was making 7.10 an hour for the last 6 years. I asked my step dad if i could have a raise well that was two years ago. well nothing ever happened. FIrst off i had four children to raise and i worked there so if i was needed to go home for any reason i could. Now they are older. but anyways, i never got a raise he kept haveing excuses and finally my mom started getting involved with the business more. There was five of us working there and all was family but two. I asked her one day if i could get a raise and she said she would see what she could do. well on the day i got my 50 cent raise i was happy. Not what i was wanting but was better than none at all. Next day my step dad met me at the door and told me to put my cell phone in the car. I said no. well he told me to clock out and he would give me unemployment. which i did do because he then went on and said why did you go behind my back and ask for a raise. I said cause you never did anything for the last two years. well needless to say, i dont work for my family any more. was i wrong to have done that ask for a raise or should i have just been happy with what i had? would u work for that amount for 12 years and do everything and get no respect???
3 responses
@babykeka80 (2084)
• United States
15 Apr 08
That is pathetic. There is no way that I would work for anyone doing anything for 6yrs for that kind of money. He was using you as he probably is the rest of the family that works for him. Was he helping you in other ways on the side? If you dont mind me asking?
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• United States
15 Apr 08
No. I had given the last 12 years to them cause of my mom.I really never thought bout it til my bf left me and left me with all the bills. then i knew it hurt alot cause i wasnt able to pay them bills. No my step dad did nothing for me other than say this once, If it wasnt for me you wouldnt get the taxes back at the end of the year. well if it wasnt for him i wouldnt get them if he had of paid me more. I just hope that someday he will see what he lost. I was dedicated to my mom and her hubbys store. oh well live and learn
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
15 Apr 08
I would never work 12 years for the same wage. After asking twice, I would have started to look for a new job.
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• United States
15 Apr 08
I don't think you did anything wrong by asking your mother for a raise. I can see his point of view, because you did ask someone else about getting you a raise after discussing it with him, but that doesn't mean that you went behind his back intentionally. You asked your mother who you assumed would either run it by him, or would give you the raise herself because he wasn't doing it, and you felt you deserved it. You had already talked to him about it, and since he said no, you went to another managerial figure. If he has a problem about you getting a raise, it seems like his issue should be with her as well instead of just with you, since she's the one that made the change. True, in his eyes you shouldn't have gone to her at all, but since you did, he should be asking her why did -she- go behind his back and give you a raise. As long as it isn't hurting family relations now that you aren't still working for them, I wouldn't worry about it to much, though. Family's more important than the money. :D
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