what's your opinion with guys having relationship with the same gender?

April 17, 2008 11:36am CST
i have been a victim of this sad reality..i have a bf for almost five years now and just lately did i know that he had been living with a gay in his pad because i never go to his place unless if it is his house in the province where his family is..they kept this from me for almost 4 years now..very painful indeed..all the while i thought the relationship we had was so great and a model to others yet my world suddenly dropped when i knew all the truth..what hurts more was everybody knows it except of course me..i was so ashamed with what they did..i'm so hurt till now..they parted ways coz he chose me over him yet i'm still not feeling very contented coz till now i'm still so paranoid about them..so sick of thinking how they had been so dishonest to me.. i absolutely understand that gays shall i say have feelings too and they want to stay in a relationship with guys they love so well but hope they will also respect them especially if the guy is into a relationship..it's so hurting on our side because we get involved in many rumors when all we thought was that everything went so well..hope they'll be more considerate..it's just so painful..very painful indeed..
1 response
• United States
17 Apr 08
So it sounds like your male partner cheated on you with another male and you have hostile feelings toward gay men now because of it? If so, you have to let go of your prejudice. Cheating might not be right in most people's eyes, but that has nothing to do with homosexuality. You certainly can't blame all gay for your partner's cheating. That's your partner's fault, not anyone else's. If you feel you can't trust him anymore, you might want to think about whether you should still be in a relationship with him.