Why Do You Love Me?

United States
April 17, 2008 1:16pm CST
Has anyone ever been asked this question or asked someone else this question? I have been put on the spot before and I didnt like it. I had no clue how to respond. Do you think you should have to explain why you love someone? I feel its just a given dont question it. So how do you respond to something like this?
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42 responses
• United States
18 Apr 08
for me,if you really love someone,you don't need to ask why,you could feel if you are loving him/her or not. but this is just my opinion
• Canada
18 Apr 08
I do agree with you but I also thing some people have deep routed issue that can make them very insecure about themselves. So they can't help but sometimes ask the question; why do you love me? What is it about me that makes you love me? They just need to know because they don't feel so good about themselves and can't understand why anyone would love them. So they need that affirmation. It would be nice if we all had a great self esteem and didnt' need such affirmation but many people do.
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@XnatenE (38)
• United States
17 Apr 08
ive been asked that too.. i cant come up of a good answer... i know how frustrating it is..and i also felt guilty about it.. i just know that i love him so much and i cant quantify or put that in words..
• United States
17 Apr 08
Its just hard when put on the spot.
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
I think that is not bad at all. Maybe you just love almost everything about him that's why you find it hard to enumerate all and you do not know where to start. Maybe you just love him beyond any reasons. You love him, because you love him, period! Right? ^_^
• United States
18 Apr 08
You got it I just love him because I do.
@diansinta (7544)
• Indonesia
18 Apr 08
Lets make a creative answer for that question that make the person who ask wonder back! example; Because you like to ....park at the wrong side of the road? naaah, I don't have a clue. maybe; because you are a dummy, dummy! LOL
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• United States
18 Apr 08
I still like the 1st respondse I got......"I love you because you dont ask me stupid questions"
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@diansinta (7544)
• Indonesia
19 Apr 08
KYAAAHAHAHA!!! I do agree with that respond!! I like it BRAVO
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
18 Apr 08
I have not tried asking my husband on this but I remember I asked why me? hehehe! and he said, I found me in you! what a sweet reply!Anyway, for me, there's nothing wrong if we will be asked or we will raise the question to someone we love! It has been said, there's a reason for everything, so ultimately, we have several reasons for loving the person and for choosing him/her among the rest! Cheers!
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• United States
18 Apr 08
Thanks for sharing.
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
18 Apr 08
The only person to ever ask me this is my husband. He used to ask me a lot when our relationship was newer and he seemed to need more positive re-enforcement. He hasn't asked me in a really long time though. When he did ask me; I would just answer him. There are a lot of things that I love about him so it was not difficult for me to answer.
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• United States
18 Apr 08
But the question is why not what you love. I think its a hard one to answer lol.
• United States
18 Apr 08
I guess I just thought that the things that I love about him are a good part of why I am in love with him you know? Phew! After all of this, I am glad he doesn't ask anymore! LOL
@ms_missy (23)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
one of those stick questions i may say.hehe.. i think if you love someone, you need not have reason/s. let say what if you love this certain person because he's this, he's that, etc.. then, what if he's not that anymore? would you think you won't love him anymore? nope, ryt? coz if you love someone, you need not have reasons.. you just do..
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• United States
19 Apr 08
that is so true thanks.
@Darkwing (21583)
18 Apr 08
No, I don't think you should have to explain why you love somebody. They're just on an ego trip if you ask me! I haven't actually been asked the question why, but I have been asked, "Which side of me do you like... my light side, or my dark?" I just replied that I loved him for the whole person he was inside. He didn't have another word to say, my friend. Brightest Blessings.
• United States
18 Apr 08
Lucky for you youre answer was enough.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
18 Apr 08
I usually tell them some reason I love them, like you are a wonderful father. Or you have a good heart. They are asking becuase they want you to tell them something good about them. They wanna know that you really do care.
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• United States
18 Apr 08
But isnt showing your love good enough.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
18 Apr 08
Dear friend, I have never asked and faced this question, But I hope to be loved and to love others is another valuable gift of God. May be I never whats to hurt someone who loves me. I would like to loved by others at all means. Hence I may not ask any why do you love me if that love is from heart.
• United States
18 Apr 08
You shouldnt need to ask if its love you will know it.
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
Hmmm.. I asked that to my boyfriend. We were watching a movie at home then suddenly, I just asked him that question. He didn't reply for a moment then just looked at me then said "lots of reasons but you are the only person satisfy and completes me without doing anything at all"... whoaaa.... My heart leaps with happiness! Yeepee! hehhe
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• United States
18 Apr 08
Thats nice.
@rowanc (43)
18 Apr 08
Tell them what you feel... if you don't really love them, but you are just saying you do, they have a right to know, in my opinion.
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• United States
18 Apr 08
Everybody is intitled to an opinion. Me I want my man to just feel it I dont want to have to remind him lol.
18 Apr 08
My boyfriend's asked 'why are you with me?' in a confused manner a few times. WHich makes me laugh a little. He wouldn't ask me why I loved him though because he's not sure that I do... and I suppose he's right. Though it makes me uncomfortable sometimes the fact that he asks why I am with him, as though he doesn't deserve me - his confidence is too low, poor thing.
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• United States
18 Apr 08
Thats unfortunate. Well do you love him lol? You dont have to answer that im just being silly. My hubby always says he doesnt know why im with him but hes just being silly as he thinks im hot.
• United States
18 Apr 08
I kept asking my husband why he loves me. He said, it does not have to be ask about. But still, I want to know. So, he told me that he loves me because I am Me. Maybe this means, you have to know what you are. What you are capable of, what you want, what you like and what you do to make other people happy and much much more. You just have to discover yourself.
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• United States
18 Apr 08
You have to love yourself before others can love you. If you cant answer the question yourself look harder its there.
• United States
18 Apr 08
I hate this question. It is almost impossible to put love into words. Yes you can list things about the person that you love but does that mean that if someone else with those qualities showed up you would love them? This question is just a way for people to show that they are afraid of losing you. I don't know that there is a truly perfect way to answer it. It seems every answer doesn't quite satisfy the other person.
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• United States
18 Apr 08
No answer is ever enough.
@MGjhaud (23252)
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
Yes, I still remember who aske me this hehehe.. my first ex-boyfriend. That was a long time ago and we like to talk a lot in a day and sometimes we ask each other with this kind of question. Maybe before it was a little hard for me to answer but if I'm asked now, it would be easier. And you don' wanna know it. hehehe..
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• United States
18 Apr 08
Thanks for sharing lol.
@skyblue (1299)
• India
18 Apr 08
I have a girl friend and i loved her very much.There is no reason that why i loved her.But i want to spent some time with her in a day.I want to talk her every day.
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• United States
18 Apr 08
Sometimes love is just love no explanation needed.
• India
18 Apr 08
i do not think yo need to explain to any one why you love someone. it is a feeling from within. th day you can describe it in words it is not true love. there is no words or actions that can describe why you love someone.
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• United States
18 Apr 08
So true thanks.
• India
18 Apr 08
well... yes this indeed is a very tricky question and does not have any sense as well because there is definately no definite reason why a person loves anyone because there may be a lot of reasons behind it and it is quite difficult to answer all those.well if I were in your place I would have not commented anything on it.
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• United States
18 Apr 08
Yeah back when this happened I tried the whole I just do didnt go over very well. If you are looking for a specific answer tell me and ill say it lol. My hubby now would never ask that thankfully.
• China
18 Apr 08
Sometimes I will ask my boyfriend whether he loves me or not, I don't know why. Actually I know he loves me so much, but I still can't help asking this kind of silly question.Maybe this shows that I am not confident or I just want to have the reassurance.Then, after he answers "yes", I will feel happy.In the bottom of everyone's heart,he is lonely and he is afraid of losing something, so he want to confirm it again and again. Therefore, I think it's a common feeling and it proves that one loves another.
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• United States
18 Apr 08
Thats an easy question its either yes or no but why do you love me that can be tricky to answer.
@Remando (175)
18 Apr 08
I think be honest. I have been asked this question and replied honestly, saying quotes such as 'you're kind, sweet, you get me'..etc...but I have been really disappointed when I have asked the question back and the guy as said 'uh, because you're you..' It's a cop out!!
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• United States
18 Apr 08
Well you gotta understand guys just arent romantic lol.