after disagreement or conflict, who takes the initiative to talk first?

Usually we both just start talking at the same time. I am extremely stubborn and even if I am wrong in the first place I am usually that upset that I will not speak for ages. I just totally ignore him and carry on with whatever I am doing and pretend that he is not in the room.

It's both of us. Well Really him mostly, but we both try to talk to each other at the same time. We try to stop fighting and... just talk it out.

Well, I think it depends. lol 2 days ago we got into it because he said something that I mistook to mean something else. It was the way he said it that made me think that. I appologized because my daughter made me realize that I was wrong and he didn't mean it the way I took it. So I came in the room and appologized. Now he didn't accept it because he felt I had to be punished like I punish him with the silent treatment. lol The next morning our sofa bed broke and he was feeling sick and it got worse after the bed broke and so he had no choice but to talk to me. I told him again that I was sorry I shouldn't have said what I did and that was it. We started to talk.

It's the same in my relationship. Sometimes it's me who take the initiative. Sometimes it is my partner to mend the bridges. Sometimes I shut up completely and wait for her to make the first step.

I haven't a partner at the moment but in the past I have only ever taken the initiative to talk first once I have thought it through and if I realise I was in the wrong. If I still feel they are in the wrong it is down to them to talk about it first. If however it was over something really trivial life is too short so I would probably calm down then just start talking again about other stuff not related to the incident that caused the upset in the first place. Its all about compromise really in any relationship eh! Ellie :D

It's almost always the Boyfriend. He could sense that I'm silently mad or annoyed from when I'm just being quiet. Usually, I need time for myself when I do get angry and I just go somewhere he's not. I stew for a little bit, Boyfriend would come in and try to be cute, I still ignore him and then after a while, I would go over to him and we'd make up. We don't go to bed with unresolved issues or angry at each other.

Not me thats for sure I will hold a grudge for a long time.

It varies for us too. Alot of times we snap at each other b/c we're tired or stressed. We get over it and move on and just pick up talking where we left off. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

That depends on the situation and who is responsible for that conflict. Most of the times i will take the initiative as girls are sensitive .

Hi dear well i think mostly times are males so i would say most of time its me infect i dont like tension or bad mood in home i want every one at home smiling and cheering i dont like frowned faces so i initiate the talk i dont mind in doing it

hello, i feel in every relationship it doesnt matter who initiates the talking first. often a good relationship knows when they have to approach one another. based on my experienced, i will approach him first if i know i caused it or if i have issues that i need to addressed that very moment. my husband knows me more than i know myself and i am very bless that if there is something wrong we just both sit down and talk about it. it is not who will do the first move coz often the problem stays awhile, also if that is the case you can tell that either one is being revengeful or not matured enough to face the problem. NOt that i am saying your perspective is wrong, i am just talking about my own relationship (since that is your question) i have realized that life is much better if we communicate be it a simple or big problem coz it helps us understand each other better and we both grow up learning the same lesson. takecare!

the first move is with us boys. coz we all know girls have there own pride.

My my experience with past relationships, I would say it totally depended on the conflict! It would take me quite a while to calm down after the arguement, and then I would always go over where the row had started, and then try and be as honest as I could be with myself as to whether it was my fault or not! If it was, then I would make my apologies and then try to discuss what had been said in the row to clear the air and move on. If, however, I knew I wasn't in the wrong then I would sit tight and wait patiently for my apology! :)

Honestly I cant stand anyone being mad at me especially my husband, and I dont like to stay mad very long either so I am usually the one who takes the first step in discussing the problem at hand, the problem I seem to have is that he doesnt always open up so then I feel like a pest when Im constantly trying to pry and figure out what the deal is. So yeah Im generally the talker.

On a general note, he is the one to talk first after an arguement. I am normally too mad to say anything and have learned it's best not to talk when I can't say something nice.

Usually it is my partner because I am the one that is irritated not him, but if it something I feel I was at fault for then it will be me to step up and make up.

Honestly, I am not really paying attention. Or maybe we both initiate depends on the need. Example, after the arguement, there will be a long silence, then hubby will remember something out of the topic and he wants to ask about it he would initiate the conversation. And that is the same with me. We don't really take it seriously maybe that is why we don't have any problem make the initial conversation.

it depends. if i'm the one who does something bad then i usually be the first one to approach him and he's the one who does then definitely he would do the first move to talk to me

To me it depends who was rong. If i am rong i'll be the one taking the initiavite to talk but if he is rong i don't give up till he admitts it . I am quite a pugnacious person and i kind of like disagreements or conflicts but with people that have something to say and well founded perceptions. I am always opened to new ideeas and i love to attempt in changing other peoples opinions even if i dont succed( that happens most of the time).

Most of time , my girlfriend takes the initiative to talk. She is very care of me ,she always fear to lose me ."Do you still love me?" "Tell me you do not leave me for ever!" At first , I often boring for this. Now I know she loves me very much. She is a very kind girl.I decide to look after her well.Do not let her weeping again. Baby, I love you !