Can internet relationships work?

United States
April 20, 2008 6:58pm CST
I have a friend who is 18 and she just started offically being with my other friend who is well lets say much older. Now I see nothign wrong with age as my hubby is 11 years older than me....my question is this...can internet relationships really work? I mean one lives in Canada other in Las vegas. I have heard of these kinds of things workling out so i am not sure which to think yes or no. But I am afraid my younger friend maybe on the road to gettting hurt..because I think she is kinda new at relationships to begin with let alone one like this.... Your thoughts please?
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@pooh08 (673)
• Vietnam
21 Apr 08
Why not. I think work on internet is very user-friendly. I can do everything on internet and in reality at the same time. It'll save your time for you.
• United States
21 Apr 08
well work is not what I meant I meant a relathionship not work but thanks
@crackhead (1826)
• India
21 Apr 08
Well some times they work well but i am not sure how far they cant hold on to. Most of the relationships i have seen are cause of the infactuation they develop towards the other and this can never help the relationship grow and stay strong. But let me tell you one thing Trust and Faith are two things which can always keep any kind of relationship alive. As long as they exist between the two nothing can hinder their relationship. At the age of 18 they need some guidance and tough mental support what ever be the result of the act that she does. Weather the relationship stays or breaks the girl have to be strong and live upto it. Thats what life is full of challenges and turns all over the course of ones life time. I wish a heartfull success to your friend and hope every thing goes fine.
• United States
21 Apr 08
thank you and yes I think at 18 she needs guidance and becuase of his age sometimes I wonder if she is more infactuated with him than want to be with him per say great points and alot to think about i will pass this on to her when I feel the time is right
@crackhead (1826)
• India
22 Apr 08
Yeah thats a nice idea and dont delay, cause infactuation is some thing which takes over a person. Well if that is not infactuation and she is mature enough to take decisions on her own then thats great. Wish her all the best.
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@mansha (6301)
• India
21 Apr 08
My neighbours met through internet and got married later on after a few dates.My guess is if the person at the other end is real nice and true it doesn't matter how you meet and where you meet or what your age is the relationship takes two real honest and committed people and nothing else. So it may work if they both really want it to.
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• United States
21 Apr 08
Well I am glad it wokred for them and yes hard work seems to be comonnly heard about this topic.....I wish I knew more so I could figure out because they are both my friends and I hate to see either hurt but I haqve stepped back from them to let them figure things out it seems to me almost liek high school lol
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@mansha (6301)
• India
13 Oct 08
You know starting of love at any age is like that only-same giddy over the clouds feeling and the dilemma of loves me and loves me not. Its really as if we never grew up.
@banunche (259)
• Philippines
21 Apr 08
i think some internet relationships do work because my sister's friend met his husband through the internet..=) they're now happily married.
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• United States
21 Apr 08
Wow another great happy ending...seems like it is a 50/50 shot as to wherther it will work or not..tell your sister I am happy for her.
@banunche (259)
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
sure! =) their love story was even featured!
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@SomeCowgirl (32276)
• United States
21 Apr 08
Whether a relationship based solely on internet communications can or cannot work is solely dependent on those that are engaged in the relations. If one has enough faith,willpower, and love to share then the relationship should work out. Does this friend have your other friend's phone number? Do they write letters to each other (snail mail)? Is the relationship between these two a serious relationship, in terms that they are only seeing each other?
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@SomeCowgirl (32276)
• United States
22 Apr 08
Then I am sure you have nothing to worry about. Just be there for your friend if times get tough. With an online relationship there may be times when one is to busy to speak with the other.. and vice versa.
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• Canada
21 Apr 08
i met my man online yahoo pool when i was 17yrs old. Am 20 now, still with him. I think internet/distant relationship can work out however it depends on the level of commitment the two wish to give each other.If they can travel to see each other,and if they make communication a priority. From my experiences communication is absolutly nessesary!
• United States
22 Apr 08
Congrats and yes communication is KEY! No matter if online or in the real world so to speak...thanks for your story..I was a bit surprised at how many people ahve accually met someoen online and had it work.
• United States
21 Apr 08
well, some times I know people that were dating like that for over two years and then they decided to meet each other and now they are happily married, so yeah I think it may work
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• United States
22 Apr 08
yes I have heard both yes and no on this..i guess it all depneds on the person
• India
21 Apr 08
i think internet relation works . as it depends upon the person ..with whom you want the relation
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• United States
21 Apr 08
It does indeed depend on the person and what the want and with who..so right
@amitpuri (457)
• India
21 Apr 08
Actually if we directly say it will work that is ain't the right thing to say about a relationship.It may or may not work that is the tough question actually it depends on the friends what they think and feel for each other and the main thing is the trust that we put into for someone in the relation as the trust is the supreme thing for the relation and if trust is there and the intensions are really genuine then i think it doesn't matter how far you are from your friend so lastly i can say it simply depend on the two persons in the relationship and the mutual understanding between them.
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• United States
21 Apr 08
Trust is a huge issue...as the one friend is young and I really don't think she has been in a postion liek this before...so it is ahrd to say will it or won't it work..
@carinawu (42)
• China
21 Apr 08
Dear babyangie! first give you a great blessing! I think it is a little unsure,because it relys on some aspect from the two both.
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• United States
21 Apr 08
Thank you and yes I agree I will update if I find out anythgin as of now I am not so sure how things will work out for them
@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
21 Apr 08
Personally I am not that optimistic about this relationship. I've get involved in similar situation before. But it didn't end up well. It's just so intangible. All was full of insecurity. One of my friends was in the same situation at that time. Hers was better. But the man came from far away to meet her which made all things better. That's not a happy ending neither. They broke up for some family reason. All in all, I still believe that it would be far more better for two who are near by each other to cultivate their relationship. Good luck to your friend.
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• United States
21 Apr 08
I see what you mean and I myslef have had issues with that when i wasn't with my husband...if they were closer I couyld see things working out dipite the age diffferance but I donno
@razcal2267 (15577)
• United States
21 Apr 08
An internet relationship has to be one of the oddest things I have heard of I know many that have found love online, myself included, but none have had just an online relationship. I am hoping that you meant they "found love" online and because of the distance can not be together regularly and not that they are just having an online thing. If it is a real relationship then yes it can work but it both have to put in more of an effort.
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• United States
21 Apr 08
Lol well I was unsure how to really word it because I myself have never been threw anyhtign like this...just asking for my friends ya know...I am glad you found love though...
@minnie_98214 (10575)
• United States
21 Apr 08
Chances are it wont work out but I wouldnt be the one to tell her this. Let the relationship be and just be there for your friend when she needs you.
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• United States
21 Apr 08
Yea I agree I have deided to stand back a bit as other things have popped up between me and her so I will be here for her if she needs me and I think I will leave it at that..because even if I voice my opionon you know people don't always listen they liek to find out for themselves
@signum (547)
• Australia
21 Apr 08
You cannot tell if an internet relationship is going to work or not until you've met the person face to face and spent some time getting to know them without the computer in the way. Having said that though, I met my bf on the net on a heavy metal music forum, and we've been living together for nearly three happy years now. True love won't let distance get in the way. Your friend needs to be cautious though, and suss him out good and proper. :-)
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• United States
21 Apr 08
lol I will pass that along to her ;) and I am glad things are workign out for you..it is good to read all these stories no matter how they turned out
• United States
21 Apr 08
I think they can work, but they take more effort than traditional relationships, and are more likely to fail because there's so much you can lie about or omit if you've never met face-to-face, plus the distance makes things difficult. Actually, I think all long-distance relationships are harder to keep going. It's possible, but you have to be very dedicated to making it work.
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• United States
21 Apr 08
yes! I agree with you 100% and I have seen it said here many times. I mean I have alot of friends online but lately have begin to seee that many of them are just fake or liars...so just think if I was dating them lol...geez real life is hard enough
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@sisco100 (2347)
• United States
21 Apr 08
they can but there hard to keep unless u see the person. i know tht i couldnt do it i need to date in person and over the net. i'm not really into dating my computer.
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• United States
21 Apr 08
lol funny but true...I myslef couldn't either but I am married going threw problems but still amrried and I have alot of guy friends but none that really made me want to move my whole life to be with them..
• China
21 Apr 08
I am not sure it can work, distance will be the biggest problem. Through the internet, it is difficult to know the person exactly ,really hard.
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• United States
21 Apr 08
yes I have seen distance be a problem for many and then add the internet as well...I guess time will tell so to speak.
@athinapie (1152)
• Philippines
21 Apr 08
i know a few people who started having relationships online and then after a few years, they were already married. i also know some whose relationships didn't work out because they couldn't stand the thought of only "being in love" in the internet. they wanted to be with somebody whom they could hug and kiss in reality and not virtually. so i guess it really depends on the people involved in the relationship.
• United States
21 Apr 08
yepo in the end that is all that matters how the people in the relathionship works or don't work things out each person is different
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
21 Apr 08
I actually met my husband online but he lived only about 4 miles from me so we didn't have the distance thing to worry about. I think the distance may be a problem whether meeting online on otherwise. Traveling back and forth is just too expensive nowadays.
• United States
21 Apr 08
wow well glad to hear that..and yes the distance is a problem for many I guess only time will tell.
@busta1baby (1239)
• United States
21 Apr 08
yes at first it might work but to me if u dnt see each other how is it a relationship is all u do is tlk on the net???
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• United States
21 Apr 08
yes great point..I would have amajor problem wiht that as well I mean what if you met and didn't feel that same connection you did while talking online or on cam