daughter is 15 what should i do

United States
August 18, 2006 11:40am CST
ok my daughter is 15.. and this young man i know is 19 and he wants to date her.. i have known this young man for 7 years.. and he's a good kid.. what should i do?
9 responses
@Snooze (610)
• United States
19 Aug 06
If he's a good kid, he'll wait. If you wanna invite him over for dinner and be part of family outings every once and a while, that's cool. But it needs to be made clear that there's not gonna be any down time with your daughter until she's of age.
@sydra12 (49)
• United States
19 Aug 06
I personally feel that's too big of an age difference. . When she's 20 and he's 24 - completely different story.
@sedel1027 (17854)
• United States
18 Aug 06
Since you have known the guy for so long and you trust him, there is no harm in letting her go out with him.
• Germany
18 Aug 06
IF IT WAS ME I WOULDN'T LET MY DAUGHTER DATE A GUY THAT OLD.I FEEL LIKE THAT SHE IS TOO YOUNG TO DATE AT THAT AGE.
• United States
18 Aug 06
Honestly speaking from experience what really does a 19 have in common with a 15 year old? When I was 15 I was dating a 20 year old. The only thing I saw in him was ohhh drivers license I can go anywhere i wanna go. All he saw in me was young stupid 15 year old that wants to prove to me she is cool and possibly sleep with me. She's 15 still in high school and having fun. He is 19 out of high school etc... Tell him if he is that interested in her wait a few years until she is around 17. Maybe just be friends until then. 15 is too young to be tied down in a relationship. Those are your fun years with your friends.
• United States
18 Aug 06
First of all, the man is 19 years old (legally an adult) and your daughter is 15 (a minor). This relationship is illegal by the statutes. A kiss constitutes statutory rape. Besides, at 19 years old would he want to go to high school dances, football games, etc??? From your daughter's standpoint at 15 she is constantly changing. In love with a guy one day out of love the next. She is still trying to build the picture of the ideal man and in order to do this, she needs to be free to meet a variety of people and determine what she wants and doesn't want in a boyfriend. She also has decisions to make concerning her future such as college or technical school? In state or out of state? not to mention what she wants to do with her life. These decisions can best be made outside of a serious relationship. Your daughter will be 18 in three years. Let this guy know that if he really has strong feelings for your daughter he can wait three years while she discovers who she is as a person and what she wants out of life. If he is a "good kid" as you say he should have no trouble finding a nice girl his own age who has already experienced some of what life has to offer and is a little more certain of herself.
@ssh123 (31100)
• India
18 Aug 06
If they both like each other and if he is already a breadwinner, propose your daughter to him. But then you may have to wait for couple of years to get themselves ready for marriage.
@shuz697 (1046)
• United States
18 Aug 06
let them go you should be happy.. have a seen some of the other things the young girls are doing to their mothers on here.. at least he's close to her age and you say yourself he's a good kid. You've known him for a long time so Id say you really couldn't ask for a better partner for your girl... It really could be worse.. :)..
@asa010 (1129)
• India
18 Aug 06
i wont trust a man if he is known for all life to me....i am not married but a daughter will be very special to me...i wont give in except for the best....you do as u like this is my opinion...will become a on gaurd dad maybe.