How to deal with the Cheating Partner

@djmarion (4898)
Philippines
April 23, 2008 9:05am CST
Infidelity, is a very sensitive issue, many families are being broken because of these cheating problem. Dealing with infidelity was never easy though; a cheating partner is often discreet with his activities and very sensitive in suspicions coming from the other half. They usually clean any trace of their dirty activities before leaving the scene. On the other hand the cheated partner is often poignant and emotionally unstable; suspecting your partner might be cheating you and finding it was true is like discovering a bomb ready to blast straight on your face. Finding the truth maybe hard, but the possibility can't be denied, if you suspect your partner is having a "malicious activities" unknown to you, then its time to uncover the truth.Suspicions are just suspicions unless proven with evidence. If you want to find out the truth, then you need to play your cards. First use your intuition, your instinct can show you the signs of his cheating. You can do that by discretely smelling his coat for a trace of perfume unfamiliar to you or for a lipstick mark on the collar of his polo shirt. Search his belongings; being his partner, you were familiar to all his things and where he uses it. If you found anything new and suspicious like a spare mobile phone which you never know existed or a credit card bill from a famous ladies apparel which he never gave to you, then you can start investigating from them. Once you gather enough evidence, a harder challenge begins and that is whether or not to bring the topic up. Dealing with him could jeopardize your relationship more and you might probably thinking about your kids. Indeed, if confronting him is your next step, then you need to plan carefully how to do it.Find a place that is both safe and discrete from the public's eyes and most importantly away from your children. Confront him on his least expected moment and do it calmly. Oftentimes a man reveals his emotions when caught surprised. This is the best time to observe any indication of regret for what he did. Show him all your evidences and look him straight to the eye. Dealing with unfaithfulness was never easy; your whole world will certainly tremble and your spirit will surely collapse. Needless to say you might regret your effort in finding out the truth, but reality remains: your partner is having an affair with someone else. If the confrontation ends up with the two of you apart take it with dignity and keep your rationality intact. Ever had an experience with infidelity that you can share? how do you deal with it?
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@kacq007 (141)
• Poland
23 Apr 08
The best way of "test" your partner is to spending as much as possible time with him . I haven't this kind of experience hopefully yet, but even I see a person and just talk . During the talk you can find out that this person is worth your attention or not.
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@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
25 Apr 08
sometimes merely talking is not enough to determine if he is sincere or not.
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@kacq007 (141)
• Poland
25 Apr 08
omg so go spy him lol :P ok i am kidding ,but IT's really visible when another person is CHEATING ! Very quickly u can hear about it from ur friends or observe it from his behavior.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
23 Apr 08
Well, back before I got Married I actually experienced this a time or two with Men I was dating. Had one who openly admitted it when I came back from visiting my Mom that he and one girl I knew had been together the whole time I was gone. I was not a Very Happy camper indeed, and blamed the girl and him, and broke up with him on the spot. I just hope by now since this has been like almost 13 yrs. ago he has grown up and taken responsibility for himself instead of no caring who you hurt and when.
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@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
3 May 08
i had the same experience as yours and it is really very painful to be cheated.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
8 May 08
I have no personal experience that i can share nor a friend's experience but I heared a lot from news or watched on TV about this issue. It's really heartbreaking and painful! and I can't stop blaming the third party all the time for being in the scene!I guess, in a relationship, open-communication should always be there and being busy in one's work should never be an excuse for compromising one's obligation to each other! If this is the case, one is giving a way for the partner to spend time to a friend and things will follow especially if the heart and mind and body needs is lonely!
@carinio98 (2929)
• Philippines
12 May 08
well if your partner cheat on you. then you have to cheat too. if she/he is very honest with you. you have to be honest too... that was the life goes on.
@tintinn (277)
9 May 08
I will leave him.....I have learned that a cheater is always be a cheater.....they will never changed....
@Pitgull (1522)
• United States
8 May 08
I'm not going through a huge ordeal about this ever again. I am with a man that wants to be with me. Men don't have to cheat. People need to stand up for themselves and stop dealing with this abuse. People need to stop wasting their time on the wrong people....people you already know will use you.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
24 Apr 08
i think coping up witrh a cheating partner i sreally very tough. i have no personal experience a ssuch. but i have seen many chaets. actually itys really hard to know the complex human psychology. may be you must be tactisful to get he hint what is wrong.