I think she has truly lost it!
By infobyaj36
@infobyaj36 (907)
United States
April 23, 2008 1:57pm CST
For all the sons and daughters out there that have had to deal with their parent or parents in the work place, this is for you.
My mother who I love dearly is almost 70 year young and has resorted to being a teen again. She yells for no reason other than to be heard, she throws temper tantrams at the list bit of irritation. She says rude or uncalled for statements and does not feel she did anything wrong.
You need to understand I totally idolized my mother, I always looked at her a strong independent woman who could take on the world. She started her own business and made it a great success and I have been working for her the past 5 years. Well I should say I have been doing her business for her because she doesn't have much time for anything but fun anymore.
Has anyone else out there experienced a transition where you are no longer the child but the parent? Have you worked for them. How do I deal with this new phase in her life?
Feeling frastated!!!
2 responses
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
I have never gone through that with my parents. They are in their 50's and in their 60's they have always been young at heart and love to come party with us as well. I have found that it is my grandmothers who are the ones that are acting out. Saying mean and hateful statements since causing me not to go see them. I don't know how they figure that they are not hurting anyone or if they are making themselves feel better. I would suggest you talk with your mom and ask her why she is being like this. This will most likely turn into a fight as well as you stated she doesn't think she is doing anything wrong. But I think it should be brought to her attention. Good luck.
@infobyaj36 (907)
• United States
23 Apr 08
Thanks I have tried talking with her and your right it turns into an ugly fight she always thinks I am being mean to her and attacking her no matter how I state things.
Thanks
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
23 Apr 08
I guess the only thing left to do is let her have her moments. Sorry to hear things won't change for awhile.
@sherrylwatts (326)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I would guess, based on her age and what you're saying, that she is showing some of the early symptoms of Alzheimer's disease. We are dealing with this with my MIL and it can be very difficult and frustrating, but its not her fault. Changes in temper, persecution complex, a tendency to say inappropriate things are all symptoms, and arguing with her will not help. I would ask your family doctor to check her out - sometimes in the early stages B-12 shots seem to help. Good luck to you!
@infobyaj36 (907)
• United States
23 Apr 08
Thank you so much for your concern and input. The big problem is that I cannot feel sympathy for her because of a disease, the doctor has found no reason to believe that she has any sign of Alzheimers or Dementia. He behavior appears to be pure selfishness and a feeling of earning being that way.
Thanks again
