Are you still mesmerized by your husband?

United States
April 26, 2008 4:13pm CST
Or wife? I have been with my man for almost 5 years. In the beginning of our relationship I could just look at him for hours. I loved to look at him, for no reason at all, but that it filled me with all kinds of wonderful emotions. I think this is a wonderful feeling that I never want to loose. I just caught myself in a trance. He's out working on his truck, getting dirty and frustrated. And I was just lost in him. It feels good. Am I weird, or do you find yourself doing this too?
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• United States
27 Apr 08
Sometimes I am yes. I have moments when I feel like the luckiest girl alive. I was a stupid 17 year old when I met and married my husband. I was so certain I was truly, madly and deeply in love with him, the truth is I was 22 when that was fact. I remember the exact moment when I knew he was going to be the only man in my life. Now 29 years later I get waves of satisfaction and joy that I was lucky enough to stumble into my life. Through no fault of my own I hit the jackpot and I am amazed when I consider the odds.
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• United States
27 Apr 08
29 years and you still get all tingly? Why do you think it took you years to really "know" you had found him? Was thee some epiphany that took place, or was it just through witnessing others' realtionships? I understand completely when you say "through no faul of myown" I feel the same way. If it was all hanging on me and my abilities I would have lost him along time ago. But by the grace of God we have grown stronger through all the rough and tough spots, and more deeply in love and entranced with each other. My original question was if you still get mesmerized by your husband. But now I ask, do you still catch him in a trance with you?
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• United States
26 Apr 08
Oh heck yes! I will find myself staring @ my hubby while he's sleeping.. getting all those mooshy gooshy feelings just watching him sleep.. then he ruins it by waking up, and catches me staring n calls me creepy.. lol So, no.. you're not weird.. I still stare and get lost in the fact that I'm a lucky woman! PS we've been married a lil over 2 years, but my mom still gets that way about my dad.. they just had their 25th anniversary last Aug.. When you know you love the man.. you can't help the MOOSHY!!
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• United States
26 Apr 08
That's awesome, and super awesome for your parents! I sure hope I stll feel this way in 20 years. And you are so right, that true love can't supress the MOOSHIness!
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@sacmom (14315)
• United States
27 Apr 08
Oh yes, most definitely! Just today I caught myself staring at my husband while he was working on his motorcycle. Even after being together 16 years I still find him oh so sexy!
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• United States
27 Apr 08
Mmmmmmm....the motorcycle. There's definitely something sexy about that. I love it when my man puts on his helmet..hehe, he doesn't even haave to get on the bike:)
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@sacmom (14315)
• United States
1 May 08
Ooh, I hear ya! I feel the same way when my husband puts his helmet on. Talk about sexy!
• United States
27 Apr 08
I do it all the time when i watch my sleeping or just sitting and watching a movie I will just stare at her thinking how happy she makes me and how I am the luckiest man alive. We can be talking about plans that we want to accomplish together and I will just melt as I look into her eyes and listen as we talk about everything and how we are going to do it together.For me that is the most magical word there is (together). I get so passionate and romantic when we talk about the future together. For some reason that is how I see myself with her together from here on after.
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• United States
27 Apr 08
after reading my post i saw a oops!!! i meant to say when i watch my wife sleeping LOL... Sorry
• United States
27 Apr 08
Thank you for sharing a man's perspective. It's awesome you can share you mooshy feelings so openly. How long have you been together?
@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
30 Apr 08
My husband and I are still mesmerized by each other too. If we weren't we would have had a much harder time getting through this past year. It was a rough one. We have been together for 6 years. He wrote me a letter saying much of what you did in your discussion two nights ago (minus the 'truck' parts..lol). You are right, it is a good feeling.
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• United States
30 Apr 08
How nice :) It would be a real treat to get a love note, my man doesn't write much. But every once in a while he'll get me a card that speaks for him. Or I'll catch him just staring at me...that feels so good too.
• Canada
27 Apr 08
I feel I have the most amazing husband. It is a second marriage for both of us. When I started dating again, I figured I would play the field. Make sure I would find someone who filled my criteria. I had dated my future husband a few times and I was going on a date with someone else. He thought the date was going well, all I could think about was this one amazing guy I had dated a few times and fireworks were flaring all over the place. That is when I knew he was the one for me. I couldn't wait to see him again and I love being with him to this day. We still act like we are newlyweds even after 8 years and I plan to have it that way for the rest of our lives. I am so incredibly lucky!
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• United States
27 Apr 08
Thank you for sharing Cathy. The beginning of our romance was similar. I was playing the feild after leaving my husband. I had been "seeing" three guys, but the other two just didn't have what the te one had. Everytime I was with them, all I could think about was what this guy was doing, who he was with, and how I enjoyed being with him.
@tessah (6621)
• United States
27 Apr 08
9 years and counting... and i still catch myself gawking at him sometimes and being a sap. or the urgent need to just touch him while he sleeping.. play with his hair, trace his jaw.. etc. usually i manage to not wake him up, but when i do, and he gets all weirded out by me.. i add a bit of comic humor to it and stuff my finger into his nose or something ;laughs;
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• United States
27 Apr 08
Beautiful, thanks for sharing. I do the little humorus things too. Tickle his nose, grab his chin roll, whatever. Then he'll lick my eyebrow or something.
• Regina, Saskatchewan
27 Apr 08
With my first husband I could. But then, I was young and blinded by love. By the time I really saw him without rose coloured glasses on, he turned out to be quite different looking. I remember getting new glasses and looking at him through them for the fist time and out of my mouth popped "WOW! So that's what you look like! Yikes!". He didn't speak to me for days. LOL
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• United States
27 Apr 08
I didn't expect a response from you spark, thansk for sharing. I know it isn't always a fairytale. But you will get yours!!! Blessings
@Bijou1 (160)
• Australia
26 Apr 08
i used to feel like that. i think i am kind of stuck in a rut after 6 years. i think the stress doesnt help. We are working our way back to that though. trying to bring the spark back
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• United States
26 Apr 08
I'm srry to hear of your rut. But at least you are working on rekindling the flames. Stress is hard, but I don't think we should allow it to ruin our relationships. Love conquers all, you get through this!
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@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
2 May 08
but of course BIG TIME! i love the feeling that for after almost five years i still have that butterflies on my tummy and i i cant help but be mesmerized looking at him. he do the same though and sometimes even more. i like it that when he go out sometimes and call me or send me a sms saying how much he misses me and we do that too even if we are together 24/7 (he works at home) it is just nice that even the time had pass by we still feel the love and hope it stay that way for the rest of our lives. it is always nice to be feel in love and most to be love in return. i wish your love for each other will stay that way. takecare and keep the love alive
• United States
16 May 08
Oh, most definitely, the love has to stay alive. Thanks for sharing yours.
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
16 May 08
yup ALWAYS is the must word LOL. btw, love your pictures it is such a pretty frog... takecare!
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
1 May 08
Nothing wrong with that at all! I do it when we are in good moods. lol Not fighting or arguing about stuff. I love it when he is fixing something and getting all into it! What a turn on! You are so lucky you can do that all the time, I don't, but you are really lucky
• United States
1 May 08
Thanks, I kinda feel lucky too. Even when we are at odds, I love to look at him. Even when he's done something that makes me mad, I feel the tingles and butterflies inside. This helps me to look past the hard times, cuz I know just how good we've got it.
@magrylouyu (1632)
• United States
21 May 08
My husband does this to me quite often. He will just stare at me. There have been times where I've been passed out, and just woke up to him just staring at me. I do the same thing to him. I find myself just staring at him for hours for no reason at all except the fact I love him. We have been together 8 years and I still am mesmerized by him.
• United States
16 May 08
Its great that you are still able to feel this way for him. For my answer here is some math for you, Im 28 now ive been friends with my husband since I was 12, in a relationship with him since 16 and married to him when I was 18. Most days we go on about our lives and its like we are friends, partners and not much thought given to the lust factor but yes there are some days that I look at him and I get that flutter in my chest where I start to think wow this man is incredible and hes all mine, I think that those moments are what make everything else worth it and they show me how lucky i am and prove that I made the right decision in marrying him
@walijo2008 (4648)
• United States
15 May 08
Oh yes, I still look at my hubby the way I did when we first got together. We've been married for 5 yrs now, and I still feel the same way about him as I did then. Our computer is in the living room, and whenever he gets home in the evenings he likes to get on it and chat with his buddies, and I'll sit there on the couch and just look at him and watch him, he'll usually look at me and say what? I just tell him "nothing, I'm just looking at you". Or I like to watch him when he's out mowing the yard, I just think how lucky I am to have a good man, and I'm happy to be where I'm am, and happy being with him. I always tease him about his female customers, he's a mechanic, he's always so nice to them, he always says,"yeah, I have so many women that want me", he says he appreciates that I think he's so sexy, that he has all kinds of women chasing after him, I just laugh...and tell him I think he is sexy, to me he is, and he's all mine...so I know what you mean when you said..you were lost in him...and no your not weird, if you are, then I am too....lol.
@magikrose (5424)
• United States
30 Apr 08
I agree with you there are times that I do the same thing. Some times I get lost in his eyes beause they turned this gorgus shade of blue and I just cant help but get lost. The times I stare at him the most is when he is playing with the kids. I find he is the most attractive then.