How Would You Brighten A Close Friend's Life..

Faith, it makes me happy to know that I can always be here for you, and that my support is accepted by you. I'll walk hand in hand with you, my dear friend, for as long as it takes. As for texting him... I did that, early this morning, just saying... "Hi - Good Morning! I hope the sun shines warm on you today. Have a great day." It tore at my heartstrings to get the following message back... "Morning - won't see much sun today - inside at work all day and forecast is for rain." So, I tried to phone my sister, to see if she'd take me to his town to get a basket and some flowers.. too wet to pick wild ones.. so that I could put them on his back doorstep, to hopefully, brighten his day. It seems my sister is working day shift this week, because I can't get a reply. I so wanted to do that too. Back to square one!!! Brightest Blessings, my dear friend, and thank you for our heartwarming contribution. xxx

Thank you, my dear, sweet friend. I am texting him every morning. He hasn't answered the last couple, but I'm hoping they will be brightening his days. The weather has been a little better too, so all in all... things are looking a little more promising. I'm feeling a little selfish and guilty that I didn't notice what was going on.. something happened there, and suddenly, because he was bright as a button beforehand. Oh well... time will tell, my friend. Have a great day. xxx

Hi Darkwing! I really do appreciate your friendship. I am lucky to have met you here and your friend is equally blessed to have you near. Don't tire on texting him even if you will find your heart broken somehow from his response. He needs a friend and I am so happy that he has you too. I will be praying for him and hoping that he will somehow find a reason to smile once again at life. Just my thoughts dear. Take care and have a nice day!

It's a bit difficult to try and surprise him with something to eat, because his daughter often pops in and either brings or cooks him a meal. I don't really want to encroach upon his family... not my style. As for getting online, he's been staying off of late, saying he's spending to much time here, so that one's a bit difficult to, and I really have to be careful to give him the upper hand, and the choices, because he's a decision maker. I do appreciate your suggestions but I can't see a way around them. I've already sent a card by e-mail, but in case he doesn't log on, I thought I might take a traditional Beltane/May Day basket of flowers to leave at his door for when he arrives home from work. I have to get the timing just right, and know that I'm going to be accepted before I rush in headlong. Brightest Blessings, and thank you very much for your contribution, my friend. x

lets hope no one pinches them to bad not some way to get them in mail box or if he has a screen door put them in side there ? Hope all goes well hugs

I'd probably take them around to the back door, my friend, as it's screened by the garden and garages. Didn't manage to get over though, as my sister was between two night shifts and I don't drive.

He has to go to work, Sweetheart, and I'm sure he has things arranged for Beltane, with his group of friends. Still, I don't see that a basket of flowers and such on his doorstep or doorhandle will hurt at all. In fact they might well go a way to brighten his spirit, but that's only if nobody around there pinches them! Brightest Blessings my friend and thank you for your contribution. xxx

Hello, my friend. Yes, I need some strength just now. It's difficult to know the root cause of things, but I feel it's possibly close to his mother's birth date. He lost his mother last October, and I had a strange experience at the time. I won't go into details here, but I really think I need to tell him what happened, especially now. Six months has ticked by and I'm still waiting to be able to talk to him. Wanted to do it face to face, but so much has happened to prevent that. Now, I think I might write it down, seal it in an envelope and place it in a basket with some flowers. Then, as is tradition, I'll possibly go hang the basket on his door or place it on his doorstep, in the hope it doesn't get taken, whilst he's not there! I sent an e-card this evening, for Beltane, which was more a spiritual card than the actual Sabbat... I just wrote on it... "May the Sun shine upon you and the rain disappear As your teardrops subside, and your heart fills with light. You have the Sun in your soul, so let it shine through, and surround you with strength and happiness. I'm thinking of you, moreso now perhaps, than at any other Sabbat. Love is the law... and love is the bond... sobeit." I did head it up "Joyous Beltane Special Person", and I'm praying now that it will help him. There was a verse on the card front anyway, which said... "May your spirit be forged hale and strong by the hammer of the God upon the Anvil of Life under the watchful gaze of the Goddess" It made me a bit tearful, but I'm praying that the weather will get better for him and his heart will be lifted, very soon. I hate seeing him like this. xx

Just thought I'd let you know, my friend, I've been talking with him for the past two hours on IM. He seems a lot better now. I'm so pleased he's ok.

I'm glad you've heard from your friend. It's put my mind at ease as you did seem to be stressed about it and felt quite helpless for you! you must feel relieved a little - all you can do is let him know that you are there for him if needed. Blessed Be!

Thank you, my dear friend... yes, a great help. You especially, know how I've been agonising about all this, and I value your suggestions. What you said to me about the Goddess knowing, made perfect sense, and I know my spirits will guide me. Brightest Blessings and thank you for your contribution, my friend. xx

He's back and talking and much brighter my dear friend. I spoke to him on IM last night and we discussed what you'd asked me a while ago? He's inquisitive, to say the least and coming to collect my gifts for our friends who lost the baby, when we will discuss that at more length. I'll let you know the outcome. xxx

Am glad things are back to normal as you know The Goddess heard your pleas for help and has rewarded you-he never went away he probably did thik of you amongst other things Thanks for mentioning what we talked about will wait to hear from ou on that blessed be my friend littleowl

Things are sorted now, my dear friend. We've had a heart-to-heart or two, on IM, and I think he's feeling a little better, although unsure of the future so far as his job is concerned. He hates not being able to work... he has cancer, and works in the tech lab at the hospital. He's not short of money, but he feels secure in the job, should anything happen that he needs urgent care himself, if you see what I mean. He lives alone. His wife left him to go live with a mutual friend, whilst he was in hospital, some seven years ago, having a cancer op, which was somewhat "touch and go", and his girls, both now grown up, live with their partners. One is married, with two boys and the other living with her partner. So, you can see why I worry about him, when I don't hear from him. Besides that, his girls, particularly the younger one, are quite mother orientated, and the younger particularly, doesn't like me being on the scene. She's probably afraid that I might be after his house, or money? That's the way it seems to me anyway. I would never do that! She's been here and we've had a good chat to clear the air, when I told her that he means the World to me and I would always be there by his side. Just the same, I would never encroach on his family life, however much it hurts me to stay away. I have very strong feelings about that. There's a lot of history there! He is going to come over and see me very soon, so that we can chat about some things that came up, which I need to check with him, and to collect the gifts I have for our mutual friends who lost their baby recently. He will be going down to see them soon. I might even ask if I can go with him, and perhaps find a hotel to stay in closeby. That would be nice for me... I'd like to give them a hug too. Thank you for your very solid and sensible advice. For sure, I'm going to suggest a few "quiet" days out, so that we can forget the future and live for today... nothing is ever for sure in the future, but today could be the last day we'll have together! Sombre thoughts, but true, I'm afraid. Brightest Blessings, my dear friend, and have a great day! xxxxx

Awwwwwww, thank you for the positive thoughts my friend. They seem to have worked well because he was online on Friday, Saturday and tonight. He is back to his normal, jovial self and has opened up to me, totally. I couldn't have wished for a better solution really. xxx

What a history - poor chap! How hard it must be trying to get over cancer but then to have your so called 'life partner' disappear on you like that is bad enough but with a mutual friend, dear me what a downer!! I am sure he appreciates your kindness and friendship and I'm glad you got things sorted out with one of the daughters. It is silly to have that hanging over both your heads when it is unnecessary. Life is too hard already without worrying about those sorts of things. I am glad that you are going to have some time together, I feel that he needs the friendship and warmth from you. With this post I am sending some positive thoughts. You are a good friend indeed. :)

I'm not sure whether he's been online lately, but anyhow, I will send him an e-card. I think he's come to know that I send him one every sabbat now, and will probably look for it this evening... in which case, I have to get my finger out! I could put the sentiments in the card, I guess. He doesn't like the element of surprise, so you're right, it's better to contact him impersonally, rather than show up at his house. Maybe in the meantime, though, I will leave a Beltane Basket on his door, as is tradition, and hope that will help some towards cheering him. Brightest Blessings and thank you for your contribution, my dear friend. xxx

That is a lovely idea , I am sure that would brighten anyones day , it's a shame there aren't more people in this world like you pal xxx

Awwwww, you're so sweet, my friend. Thank you for your kind words. xxx

I know him well enough, and I'm still holding his birthday gift from January, because so much has happened to both of us, that we either weren't able to travel, or we weren't in the right frame of mind to meet up. There comes a time in everybody's life where we stop and wonder whether it's all worthwhile, and in which direction we wish to head next. He's very sensitive as am I, but he doesn't like to be seen to be weak. He will often pretend that things are ok, because he is proud in that way. The gift is too large to post, and he will end up having to go collect it from the main post office, which is partly the reason I haven't posted it. That's why I'm thinking of keeping the tradition of laying a Beltane Basket at his door. These baskets are often filled with flowers, and herbs, etc, can be left anonimously, and I'm sure, will brighten his day... at least one day, anyway. If that encourages him to get up and get out with the rest, to enjoy the Beltane celebrations, then it will have done its intended work. With the help of my spirit guides, I feel that might just be the way. So, if I can get over there, that could be the way to go. I'm just not sure at the moment... normally, I can get a smile and lift him out of his depressions, but as I said, things have weighed heavy since last June, and this time is difficult. Brightest Blessings, and thank you for your contribution, my dear friend. x

A wise choice and obviously you know your friend more that I thought and only you what is best.

Well, yeah, I guess, but sometimes I need just a little push in the right direction. I need to time this right and also to hit on the best way to lift his spirits.

Yes, you're right my friend. It does him no good at all sitting at home, moping about the future. We all need today in order to prepare for what the future brings us, and we should live each day to the fullest. He's better now... we've chatted at length, a couple of times on IM, but I really need to see him face to face. There's only so much I can do to reassure him on the internet... it needs something a bit more personal, as you say. I need to walk with him, to hear him laugh and think about only the present. We all are so unsure of what the future will bring, whatever plans we lay down. But, we can be sure that today is here, and it could be the very last time we have together. Thus, we need to grab it and enjoy life. He's going to come over and see me soon, so I'm preparing now, from these responses, the way I'll tackle things, so late or not, your suggestions are very valuable to me. I love the PMA you display in those words, my friend. Brightest Blessings and thank you very much for your solid and positive suggestions. Have a great day! xxx

Positive Mental Attitude, my friend. There were so many positives in your response, you inspired me greatly. Thank you. xxx

Sorry darkwing to bother you but I'm unaware of what PMA is. Can you tell me please?

Yes, precisely why I've given him space for the past month. We've both been through a lot but I'm not one to sit around and do nothing about it... hence my recent journies. It's knowing the juncture at which to offer your help but I'm hoping that Beltane will bring some better weather and cheer him. I sent him a card tonight, worded as in Bizzibod's response, in the hope that it will give him a little lift, and that I will soon be able to talk to him and guide him into the light once again. Whatever I do, I mustn't get my timing wrong! Thank you for your wishes and your contribution my friend. Beltane will not be quite the same, but I have every intention of seeing it through in the best way possible, for if I'm cheerful, I may be able to radiate that to others. Brightest Blessings, my dear friend. xxx

Yes, that's the way I often think. I'd be delighted if somebody did the same for me, but he's not a lover of the surprise element and to get him to agree is another matter. I guess a Beltane basket on his doorstep with flowers and fragrances of Spring, might just do the trick! Worth a try, and it's a tradition which he'll appreciate. Brightest Blessings and thank you for your contribution, my friend.

Ok... my friend, I will try some of that. I'm not sure whether it will work, the mood he's in at the moment, but it's certainly worth a try. I might try to find some jokes to send! Brightest Blessings, and thank you for your contribution. x

Thank you, my friend, for your kind words. The trouble is, there are also issues with his health which may be worrying him at the moment and maybe he's worried about that at the moment. There are lots of things that have happened which affect the both of us, since last June, and I guess they've gotten to him, more than me. Either that, or I made the decision to get up and get out, and remember where I was headed. That, in itself made me feel a little selfish and guilty that I didn't see how low he was, and I was out finding my own strength to carry on. I've already sent him an e-card, the words in which you can read in Bizziebod's response, and I've almost made a decision to leave a basket of flowers on his door or doorstep, as is our tradition, on Beltane/May Day. Brightest Blessings and thank you for your contribution and suggestions. Have a great day! x

Yes, I think you know who it is, Gabs. The difference this time is, I know the heartaches he's been through this past year, as I've been through some of the same. I feel I need to do something, and he's changed quite a bit, so I think I'll be safe as long as I get my timing right, and as long as I don't say the wrong thing. That's why I decided to send him an e-card (see Bizziebod's response) and perhaps to leave a traditional basket of flowers and things on his door, or doorstep. I feel the less I say, the better it is right now as I don't want to make him feel weak or incapable of sorting out his own problems. Brightest Blessings, my friend, and thank you for your contribution. Love and hugs. xxxx

Thank you my friend, and a Joyous Beltane to you, too. That seems like sound advice exept for the fact that he might reject the offer, and I don't know whether I could take that myself, just now. I did think the idea of a traditional basket of flowers and such, might brighten his day, and I could leave them on the door as is customary, without saying anything which might upset him more. It's a kind of offer of comfort and help, so hopefully, he might then open up to me. Then I could try out the walk? I already sent him a card (sentiments can be seen in Bizziebod's response), and I'm hoping that he may have made arrangements to spend time with friends tonight or tomorrow, in Beltane celebration. It might just perk him up to know that I'm thinking of him and to have a little fun with his friends. I sure hope so. Brightest Blessings, my dear friend, and thank you for your contribution. xx

Yes, I'll let you know.... whenever!

I hope so too Darkwing. Do let us know how it turns out. It is sad to think he may be alone on Beltane. Hugs - for both of you.