Do you trust your relatives OR friends???

May 3, 2008 3:35am CST
I do love few of my cousins and younger nieces..but then,,i dont have a special liking towards many of my relatives..I always used to think about it and i dont have any great reason for that,but then i feel they may be very good as friends but not as relatives..For me,in any case of emergency i have very few trusted friends who will never leave me and are always ready to help me out if i ever need one..but then,i cant trust my relatives that much..I trust my friends much more than i trust my relatives.That may sound cold,but thats the plain hardest truth..What is ur experience folks..
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@vipulchawla (2220)
• India
3 May 08
I have always been a kind of a person since my childhood that i would being in a group. I always felt like being lost in the group. Either be it relatives or a group of friends. And now i have been away from my familyl for around 7 years. so i compltely stay by myself. I have some relatives over here, my cousin and my sister-in-law but i dont think that trust ever links me to them. I have never faced any incident where I would have need to think upon whethere i need to trust them or not.. About friends.. Well you would find it strange but really i dont ever trust anyone of them. Acually i feel happy being in myself and i dont rely on any of my friends for any of my work. I belive that its better not to expec anything from anyone so that when worse things come ur way you wont get hurt much..
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3 May 08
Nice to know that..But u know what...i have experienced certain situations in life,where there would be absolute need for someone to help..like,am away from my home country and i love my in laws more than my parents..Infact am more of a son to them..and once when my FIL had a sudden pain and there were none to help them to take to hospital which is a little far away,it was my friend who went and helped them at wee hours..I had to call up relatives,who just plainly said will go and see them in the morning..How rude!!thank god my friend helped me and if it was late the situation would have gone horrible it seems..
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• India
3 May 08
But dont u think its the other way round here. My parents are there in a joint family. i am the only person to live by myself. U r talking about natural accidents that may happen to anyone.. But i was talking about general issues. I didnt mean to mix them up..
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• India
3 May 08
Well, what I say might sound colder. I trust only one human being in the world, that is my mother. I am afraid I am unable to trust any other human being in the world, be it friend or relative. Among genders, I would trust women more than men. Among living beings, I would trust animals more. The only other person, that is, other than my mother whom I trust is myself. I can rely on my own word, at least! Cheers and happy mylotting.
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3 May 08
Lol thats weird though!! But if u have a life partner,i guess u may trust him/her much more!!!
@jesbellaine (4157)
• Philippines
3 May 08
Yes, I do trust my relatives even my friends. Actually, I can really count on my friends especially in bad times. I have true friends who is always there for me and accepts me for what I am. The best thing is that when I am wrong, they would really tell me the truth... and make me understand things... I love them so much!
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
3 May 08
It depends on what you mean by trust, trust in what way, in terms of lying or telling the truth, in terms of supporting you and encouraging you, in terms of helping you if you need money or you are in in trouble? I trust my relatives not to hurt me in any way, some will be more willing to help me than others, that is life. I trust my friends as well or I would not have them as friends it is simply as that.
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@sophialin (2678)
• China
3 May 08
In my opinion,it's rather up to how close you are not the status whether that person is your relative or friend.i do have many relatives and friends,while i don't have the same emotion with everyone.i do treat them differently. i don't trust all of them just like you and i think it's normal.some of my clse relatives are also my friends.
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@whiteheron (4223)
• United States
4 May 08
I trust my relatives and my friends... My sisters and brothers are very dear to me and they are trustworthy, especially my sisters. I have about five close friends and they are trustworthy... Yet I might rely on these people differently depending on their personalities and their natural abilities and tendencies... You do not share all with all people...There are certain things that will be better said to friends and certain things that will better be said to family members... Sometimes I am surprised that my sisters are also my closest friends.
@licong (33)
• China
4 May 08
The people always changing through the life time,maybe a friend who was very close to you don't trust you any more,that's can be the truth.But I think that if you pay your real heart in building your friendship,you can be paied sooner or later,try to believe your friends and make them know it!
4 May 08
I trust both of them. My relatives are those warm-hearted and simple-minded, who would help you during your grown-up. As for my friends, i trust deeply in those who are my intimate friends. And i choose to or not to trust those who are not that intimate.
• United States
4 May 08
My relatives are way more understanding of me. Basically, they get me. All of the people I've known outside of my family are kind of iffy. I always feel like I'm an outcast around people other than my family. So, my trust level is very high with my relatives.
@skydancer (1986)
• United States
3 May 08
I was reading Ronald Reagan's autobiography not too long ago, in which he made a very interesting point: that there are two types of people in this world, those who will trust a person until that person gives them a reason not to, and those who - while they will give anyone a chance - see trust as something that should be earned, in which case it is necessary to "prove yourself" in order to be fully trusted by this type. I am definitely a natural skeptic and tend to question people's motives at first, and therefore tend to be of the second type. Even so, I could count the people I can trust with my life on one hand and the list would not even be long enough to fill up that hand. I think that is probably true for most people - and there is nothing harsh about that. It is often said that your truest friends are so rare and difficult to come by that you are not going to have many relations solely based on such trust over the course of your life. Some people will live their whole life and never have a relationship like that. That doesn't mean I do not love my family and friend who are not on my "most trusted" list. It simply means that different people in my life play different roles, and that some of these people I will like for some things and not for others. Some I don't think will ever understand me well enough on a personal level for me to give them complete and utter trust in every aspect of my life, but I can always trust them with the specific roles in my life that I believe they are there for. Some are simply friends who I'll never share deep thoughts with, but will just hang out and have fun with for what it's worth. Others go a bit deeper, and some even deeper still.