How do u deal with your boyfriend's ex-girlfriend who's a total flirt?

Philippines
May 4, 2008 10:54am CST
im about to marry my boyfriend of 5 yrs soon.. but he had a son from his previous relationship..so there's always a chance for them to see each other and call regarding their son.. but this Girl , who's a total flirt still giving motives to my boyfriend that she still like him..sending messages in his emails like reminding my boyfriend what they've been doing before, what they have shared before.. i trust my boyfriend but i am just so pissed off by this girl i am so irritated with her pls pls i'd love to hear your views regarding the situation.. thanks guys
4 responses
@jennifer611 (2502)
• United States
4 May 08
If you two are serious, and your getting married, you need to tell him how bad this bothers you and have him speak up and tell her to knock it off, he is with you and that's the way it is. she needs to get the message. if he doesn't want to say anything, then I guess you need to be having a serious talk with him. she shouldn't be disrespecting you that way, but also, he should not allow it. good luck, I hope this all works out for you.
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• United States
4 May 08
I agree.
• United States
4 May 08
I would tell your fiance/boyfriend how you feel and discuss options with him. As it will be impossible for him to avoid her since they have a child together you will need to work things out. Maybe saying that he block her e-mail address and only talks to her in person when you are present, or when they are visiting their son. I had a similar situation and I went to the girl directly and told her that she was no longer in his life and that I was the one he was marrying and that she needed to back off. My situation was different in the fact that he did not have a child with the girl, but I can understand your frustration. In any case it is never okay for her to flirt with him, when you have been with him for 5 years and are marrying him, it is time for her to give up.
• India
20 Oct 08
She is trying to piss you off. She is happy if you are pissed off. Don't react. just stay cool. call her over and discuss things with her if you feel it will solve the problem.
@subha12 (18462)
• India
9 Jun 08
i can understand you dilema. in this case i guess your trust is main thing. also that your Bf should keep your trust. otherwise it i snever easy for you to maintain the relationship.