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United States
May 5, 2008 11:39am CST
Do you think that parents splitting up has a big effect on children???
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@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
5 May 08
yeah it does it sorta throws the child in a world of confusion sometimes they might blame themselves thats always natural , my parents got divorced about 8 years ago yeah just about right 2000 or 01 i really didnt know how to react , like did i do this , of course my parents themselves didnt know how to handle it they couldnt even tell me straight up i had to eves drop on the conversation ...and of course my parents wanted me to pick sides and it just got ugly from there im 21 now and ive gotten over it wayy long ago cause its pointless for a child to try to get his or her parents back together cause once they make up their minds thats it period ..i also had to grow up quick , im right now being a fahter to my little brother cause my father doesnt come around like only on Christmas if that ...i think that if parents decide to get split up then they should sit down think of what they're doing ..basically have a plan , just dont let only the Judge to write their plan ...just be adults about the situation
@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
7 May 08
exactly right , me im sorta on the defense of relationships like im more of an adult and look into detail , basically im really how do you say defensive ...if i dont see progress in a relationship than i just cut it off right there lets no waist each others time , lets not go in front of our parents or family memebers and place this facade this fakery of our realtionship infront of them to see , theres no need for me or her to date if im not having the same feelings that i once did when i met her , espically if there kids ,like i dont see why people let it go on when theres nothing there ....
• United States
8 May 08
Yea I understand what your saying like why out on a fack smile if really there really isnt one there just come straight out with it Its less pain for everyone if you just come out with it but anyways thats for the comment.
• United States
7 May 08
I agree parents should think of there children most parents dont really concider how the children feel They just asum everythings going to work out but in most cases like your and mine we had to grow up faster than we should have because of younger siblings hoping that they dont think its there fault or anything and now because fo watching my parents split up now I have to feel like I dont want to have kids cause I know realationships dont last forever and I wouldnt want my kid to go throughthe same thing
@nesher (237)
• United States
9 May 08
It has an enormous effect, no matter how small the kids are. Even if splitting is going smooth in civilized way, it is complete ruining of the kids safety World perception. And if it goes with courts, fights, scial services, it is a double disaster.
• United States
9 May 08
Thanks for the imput its nice to hear the different thought I agree that it effects the child no matter how nice the parents are about it I know that when my parents split when I was younger it made me inscure
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
5 May 08
This is one of those that it depends on the family. Every child handles things diffrently and with some it might not effect them much at all and others it can be very problematic. My parents divorced when I was 12 and at that time I felt like my whole world was falling appart. Now that Iam married and with children as well I realise that it was for my best intrest.
• United States
5 May 08
Thanks for your imput and I agree see It impacted me by just knowing that it has changed me as a person and I know that no matter what Happens my parents love me and Them not being together doesnt change anything and thats what I think most children dont know..
• India
5 May 08
hey Tabby........what made you spring up with such a discussion..It would have been better if you would have elaborated a little more before putting forth the question. I hope you understand and do not mistake me.. Now as for your question is concerned... It will surely have a very big impact on their children. This would affect their mental status wherein they are forced to live with a single parent and sometimes there are fights and rifts regarding with whom the child would be.
• United States
5 May 08
Hey well it really was just a radom question just wondering what people thought Like My parent slpit up when I was 8 and I think it changed the way I looked at life the way I looked at growing up because My parents split I grew away from them because I thought I would end up getting hurt just like they did I dont know I was really confused for along time. But yea it was just a readom question to see what the different opion was. But thanks for the imput.
• Philippines
5 May 08
When parents split up, the children are the most affected. Mentally and emotionally. It would really be burdensome for the children to see their parents go their separate ways. Thus, it is important that parents consider what will happen to their children if they decide to split up. In some cases, separation is inevitable. This is why parents should prepare their children for such.
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
5 May 08
I really think it depends on the situation. Of course, it's not easy for any child to have to deal with parents divorcing unless they are babies and don't know what is going on, but if the parent's are fighting all the time and never get along then I think it can be for the better. They still need to feel love from each parent, but just understand that they didn't work out but it wasn't their fault. Now, if they never saw the parents fighting and didn't understand then, then it could effect them in a negative way and that could be bad. My parents divorced when i was only 13 months old and it really was for the best. My father was abusive and cheated on my mother and if they had stayed together I wouldn't be the person I am today. Every case is different though, just really depends on the circumstances. God bless