the decent way to break up?

May 5, 2008 12:41pm CST
what do u think is the most decent way to break up without demeaning your partner's self esteem and without hurting their ego?
4 responses
• India
27 May 09
HI anweshadas, breakup is breakup and it is going to break ones heart whenever it occurs. Their is no easy way but one can try by telling partner innocently with clear wording that we cannott continue this relationship for such and such reasons and can be in touch as good friend for whole life. Than it depends on him how he understand his partner and how he react.
• United States
22 Jul 08
A break up always hurts. No matter how "decent" they are about it, the other will feel rejected. Rejection definitely hurts. Break ups cause most people to question themselves. "What did I do?", "What's wrong with me?"; "I must have done something."; "What can I change to get them to stay?". It's always a blow to the self-esteem, self-confidence and ego.
14 May 08
Well talking about it properly, and giving them chance to put their input in etc. By somewhere private, so they're not embarassed and can be alone if they want. And to avoid hurting them, you just have to make sure exacty what your saying is true. None of this cheesy 'it's not you, it's me' milarky, that just makes them feel like it's a joke to you.
• Pakistan
5 May 08
If you want a decent break up then just talk to your partner. You can tell him/her clearly that you don't want to have any relation with him/her. I think he/she will understand. By this way you can be good friends forever. And you will not have any hard memories. Thanks