Can You believe my 10 year Son

United States
May 8, 2008 11:01am CST
My son is very strong willed and really just a bully not at school but at home he bothers his siblings very bad and even attempts with me, I think that he is so arrogant already actually he was born that way, he is one of those people that come here set in their personality already, I just pray he will someday use his strong will for something positive,so last night we where watching Wife Swap and the mother on there was making the other family scrub the toilet with toothbrushes if they use bad language so this today as my son was getting ready for school it was another battle which is daily and I said to him maybe I will use that ladys idea and make you scrub the toilet with a toothbrush and maybe I will email her to see if she has anyother ideas ( since NOTHING I do to punish him seems to matter to him or help him) and do know what he said to me he said ok can you do it know, I just looked at him and thought where the h... did this kid learn to call bluffs I have not taught him that,, I know by the time I done raising him I am going to be sooooooooo tired,, ANy ideas I will take all except beating him that is worthless to me....
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@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
8 May 08
Is his day very structure? That sound slike what he needs to me. Before he gets home I would write down a schedule: snack, homework, dinner, etc. Then grab a piece of paper. On one side write down what you expect of him, on the other write down punishment that he gets if he doesn't comply. Just make sure you enforce it. If he breaks rule #1 he gets automatic punishment. Use the "SuperNanny" technique: if you punish him and he stops, don't say anything, grab him and put him right back to doing the activity. Eventually he will just give up and do the punishment (may take awhile though) Have you tried implementing a reward system?
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• United States
8 May 08
Thanks his day is very structured and he is the type of kid that acts one way with me and one way with his dad stepdad grandfather or uncle its like he already has no respect for woman and he is not taught that at all...... I will try the paper so he can see what will happen, and no I have not tried the reward system but that might really work because he might respond to positive rather than negative. Thanks again
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• Kottayam, India
11 May 08
best wishes for this good advice from sedel.
• Canada
8 May 08
He sounds like someone I know, and he sounds like one of my husband's kids who is exactly the same way. "Can you do it now?" CALL HIM ON IT, and make him do it, or hand him a toothbrush the moment he gets home from school and make sure he cleans the toilet, etc. Don't let anything this kid does shock you. I am very strong-willed, but I use it to move myself forward, not to put others down or bully, like he seems to do. My husband admires my strong will for the way *I* use it. Your kid would last about five seconds in our house, and we'd scare some sense back into him.
• United States
8 May 08
Wow I wish I was stronger I have worked on it and have gotten stronger thanks to my husband, my other kids its easier because the listen he is just a jerk all the time and no mother should think that way about their child......... Thanks for comment