Where are all the men?

United States
May 8, 2008 12:09pm CST
Lately I've seen men who cower at their girlfriends/wives. This just drives me crazy! What happened to all the leaders of men? Are they afraid to stand up and be noticed because it might offend women. I'm no misogynist, I just feel that men have been emmasculated and don't want to ruffle any feathers. We need men to be wild and not tammed. Ladies did you tame your man? You don't like him that way do you? Men need to be strong and fight for their rights too. Chime in if you feel you have something to say. If you just blew you top off, pick it up and come back later.
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4 responses
• Philippines
9 May 08
I think your observation is flawed. Yes, there are men who cowered but those are not many. And in their minimal number, we could sight some reasons why they were like that. To say that they're afraid and that's all the reason there is to it is not fair. Real strength is controlled. Fighting for you rights does not always mean that you would always give an opinion on any issue & be willing to debate anyone who believed otherwise, especially your wife. The wives/girlfriends were there to be loved- tenderly. To do that, you have to be like "cowering."
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• United States
9 May 08
Flawed? I see your point about debating the issue. I would never debate with my wife, she is not my adversary, she is my partner. I'm loving and giving to her, I'm tender too. My argument is with those men who are brow beaten and made to feel like a scolded child, they are the ones who don't recover and thus result in men who wouldn't fight for anything they believe in. Cowering means to cringe in fear, I'm not afraid, I just know my place and its to lead my family, not just hope they go in the right direction. I'm raising a strong young man who will have the confidence to lead and encourage others.
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
9 May 08
they r still around...crazy men everywhere as usual...they probably mellowing down in their old age or just busy.
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• United States
9 May 08
But you have seen them, good.
@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
9 May 08
Hello Gitfiddleplayer, My husband is a 'real man'; honest, hard-working, respectful, very intelligent, open to ideas - yet very confident in his own knowledge base. We're not equal partners, instead we are 'yin/yang'. He recognizes my strengths and gets out of the way of the areas of my expertise. And, I gladly recognize his strengths and get out of the way of the areas of expertise. We both believe that that is the way it should be. (Incidentally, he just said that he agrees except that he has "WAY more areas of expertise! Hmmm, I guess we'll have to get out the comparison pad after this discussion!) I tend to agree with your observations about the emasculinization of the male of our species. Though, my observation is that this phenomenon is much more prevalent in municipal areas. Get out of the cities, and there are still many 'real men' to be found. Frankly, the whole concept of 'metrosexuals' is very disturbing to me, and is none other than a female control mechanism. While I would never be described as 'submissive', I also would never accept a man who was so. I deeply value strength, and recognize that every individual's strengths will be unique. To be sure; submissive is so very unattractive, yet manners and a sense of couth is very respectable. Now, here's the kicker; if a man ever tried to dominate me, he would soon remember something that I've shared with every man that I ever dated. That pearl is this: if a man ever hit me, he would never awake from that night's sleep. In the same vein, if I ever attempted to FORCE my spouse to surrender his individuality and strength, I would expect the same. It's all about respect!!!
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• United States
9 May 08
Its too bad that there aren't more women like you. I'm glad that you recognize that a man needs to feel like he is adventurous and also needed. I agree with you on the fact that city boys are just that, they don't have to grow up or grow a pair. They are more interested in thier appearance than anything. I used to be a city boy but I never subscribed to their mantra. Country boys, for lack of a better discription are hard working and women love a rugged man more than one who borrows their moisteriser (sp). My vocal coach always told me, women swoon over the tenors but always go home with the barritones. It is about respect, plain and simple.
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@minnie_98214 (10574)
• United States
8 May 08
Im in the middle on this one. I love my man strong during certain times but at times I want a guy who will love me and pamper me. Ive been lucky my man can stand up for him self and be a strong man but he knows when he needs to just say yes dear and move on. Now I dont always get my way but he knows when to give in.
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• United States
8 May 08
Being in the middle is a good thing. You sound like you understand what a man needs to do and what he supposed to do. Squabbles aside, if he knows that he's a man and can be a warrior for you then he's more likely to feel strong and confident.