Scared to take the plunge.....
By qtfrog99
@qtfrog99 (279)
United States
May 8, 2008 6:52pm CST
Ok so I am going to admit it, 3 years ago when my fiance proposed to me I was so excited all that ran through my mind was our beautiful wedding. I have put off planning it and put off planning it for 3 years now, and he is starting to question whether or not I really want to marry him. I do want to be with him for the rest of my life, but I am scared to actually marry him. Maybe cause the actual married part is solid and if we are just together there is more space. I don't know if this is normal or if this is telling me that he is not the one. I love him with all my heart, we get along really well, I just think I am scared and need to just do it!!! Has anyone else had these feelings and what did you do to overcome them?
3 responses
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
9 May 08
I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. I felt that way for a couple months. Then I realized that what it really is, you're afraid of marriage stereotypes. Things that you think you "should" do when you're married that you don't do now. Things that you think you should change about yourself or your relationship because "your married now". And honestly, it's just not true. You do not need to change anything and nothing should change. Your relationship works for you the way it is, not the way "they say" it should be.
@lovespecialangel (3632)
• United States
9 May 08
Sounds to me like you have the case of cold feet. It's normal to be scared or worried about getting married. Marriage is, for the most part, a solid binding of two people. And it takes more to get out of a marriage than it does to just break up with someone. If you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him, go for it. But if you think you need more time then wait. Either way, maybe you should sit down and talk to him about this. You'll probably learn that he has the same feelings.
@sunkistroses401 (281)
• United States
8 May 08
a little off subject but i did send that site to your inbox... that discussion got deleted without me even mentioning the site so yeah lol :) just thought id let u know
