to forgive is to forget..is that so easy?!

Philippines
May 11, 2008 10:30am CST
They say "to forgive is to forget". But how can you easily forget that very heart-breaking sin that a person did to you?.. Well,I just wanted your comments on this 'cause I had this thing that bothers me a lot for about 5 months already. A boyfriend of mine did a very disappointing thing that at the time I knew it,my world just fall and I don't know what to do. He asked for an apology and a second chance. At first,I just wanted space an time for me to think. But I realized,it's very dull without him. And so I forgive him and gave him a second but last chance 'cause everybody deserves a second chance as they say. I never broke up with him because of that. But now,it just keeps on lingering on my mind. Everytime we argue,I always put that thing on our conversation. I know he is hurt also by bringing it back. What should I do?..
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6 responses
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
29 Aug 10
Forgiveness project one as a god..he is equal to god!Well not our hurt, but the other one who we forgived. Just a simple but tough logic..dont expect anything..you can easily forgive any one for their mistakes.
@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
16 May 08
I know sometimes its hard to forgive and forget when it comes to the heart,but if you love him and he truly loves you,you shouldnt hold it against him,cause you cant judge someone by the past.
@best_jr73 (259)
• Philippines
12 May 08
Hi there trisha I know you really are having a difficult time right now. Just don't worry because God has always a plan for everything, who knows? Maybe He is just testing how strong your faith is so never give up and keep up the good work always. Welcome to my lot by the way, at last you have already started some posts and I am glad. All I can say right now is that I must admit that it is really not that easy to forgive and forget at the same time. I have been through that a lot of time and I ponder what is the appropriate action that is needed to be done. You know I am having nosebleed right now(epistaxis), just kidding my dear friend. Just have trust always on your self and learn to let go of that grudge that has been with you for five months. Have a great time here always and have fun during your stay but don't get addicted to much to it just like I do. ^_^
@p_vadla (1687)
• India
11 May 08
Forgiving is not as easy as it was told to be followed.Forgiving is called the greatest of virtues because it is not that easy to forgive.But still we have to strive towards doing it.
@aiyreen (286)
• Philippines
11 May 08
i think when you forgive someone, you forgive unconditionally... you gave him a second chance right? then give him a second chance. if his mistake continuously haunting you, then forget it... forget him. leave the past behind and move on. give him the chance to prove you that he deserves another chance and forget the past. it really wont help. leave it behind
@sunkissed (4332)
• United States
11 May 08
Well if you are like me you can forgive but you can not ever forget!!but this same thing happened to me.And it really got to the point where this was always on my mind, and I found out I really could did not trust him deep down indide. I suppose that is why I kept bringing this up to him.Because even thought I gave him another chance, things were still not working out right.I hope this is not the case with you, I don't know though?