I still love my ex. Should I leave my girlfriend for my ex?

Philippines
May 13, 2008 1:07am CST
When I woke up this morning, the first thing that came into my mind was I have to pay my internet connection. It was my first billing for my internet connection. My ex girlfriend is working at the office where I am going to pay my bill. Undeniably, I was so excited to see her again. I took a good shower, brush my hair, and splash myself with cologne. I went out of the apartment very excited and smiling. When I arrived at the office I started to tremble. But when I checked out the cashier area, she was not there. I don't know how I felt at that time. It's like am relieved because she was not there because I stopped trembling. I also feel sad because she was not there and I will not se her. Then I heard someone said, "Everybody's out for lunch. They will bback in a minute." My blood starts to rush again as if my heart is going to burst. After five minutes of waiting, she arrived. I did not looked at her because I was really so shy and conscious. One of the costumer service person came to me and get my bill and my money then shehand it to my ex girlfriend. I said to myself, "She's going to call me if she's done encoding everything."After three minutes of waiting, she called the guard, hand my receipt withoutsaying anything, went out or the door behind her and slammed it. It was so unethical. She shouldn't have done it bacause Iamher costumer. She should treat her job professionally. She should not mix her personal life with her work. I was so embarrassed because normally the cashier would call the costumer's name after they encode the payment and hand the receipt to the costumer. She's still mad at me and I feel really bad. I never wanted to leave her but I have to protect her that's why I did it. I have this girlfriend for eight years. She cheated on my and we broke up. I met the girl. We became good friends. We both fell in love with each other. We are really both connected and we really love to be together all the time. We have no differences. We talk about things that we both like. We have the same like in many things and we never fight. My girlfriend found out that I am with her. She told me that if I am not going to stop my relationship with the girl, she's going to tell the boss of the girl to fire her. The boss of the girl is my girlfriend's aunt. sadly, I have to let her go. I called her and explained to her everything. She said it was really hard for her to take everything because she cannot even talk to anyone about what's happening to her. Until now I really feel guilty but I can't just let my girlfriend ruin her job. But I really love hwr. And it makes me cry everytime I remember her. I want her to forgive me but I think it is next to impossible. I know that she loved me that's why she is really bitter right now. Because if she doesn't, she will not feel bad about our separation. I know I am an as* because I went back to my girlfriend when I broke up with her. I just can't leave alone. My girlfriend promised me that she will never cheat. I love them both. I don't know how to trust my girlfriend because she cheated on me. I don't know if my ex girlfriend will still love me because I hurt her and she's still amd at me. I don't know what to do. I really feel so sad.:0(
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21 responses
@ashryl (85)
• Philippines
13 May 08
If you're not happy with you're current girlfriend then you should not stay in a relationship with her. You will be just hurting yourself and the person you really love. You should not worry about your ex getting fired even if her boss is your girlfriend's Aunt unless they own the company. An employee cannot be fired without proper and legal grounds. Your girlfriend just said that to blackmail you and win you back. That attitude in itself should make you think twice if you should continue your relationship with her. She's a cheater trying to manipulate you without consideration to you and other people's feelings. Any girl with that attitude is not worthy.
• Philippines
13 May 08
This comment really made me cry. Shayks I am actually into tears now. Her aunt owns the company. Yeah, she's not worth it. You made me think even more deeply. I think I should go back to my ex. Win or lose, I am going back to my ex.
@ashryl (85)
• Philippines
13 May 08
I'm sure your ex-girlfriend can find another job. Maybe a more rewarding one. But before you make a decision, you should talk to her first and let her understand the possible consequences of you getting back together. If both of you are willing to sacrifice and take risks then there's no reason for you to hold back your feelings.
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• United States
13 May 08
Well. you have to decide which one you live more... If i were in this situation i would keep my girlfriend because my ex might not want me back.
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@pearl1003 (671)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
well, i think u, ur girlfriend, and ur ex-gf have a small world after all... are u still with ur gf now? its been 3 months since your post. I wish u'r happy with whoever u are right now. I want to let u know that u are not alone. There are a lot of people out there experiencing the same thing. I think u hav a complicated love life, for a fact that u are both girls ryt? But as long as you are capable of loving, why not? the problem is, ur gf cheated on u, u broke up with ur ex bcoz of ur gf who cheated on u... hmmmm.... i think u love your gf more than ur ex coz u chose her thats why u are together now ryt? but i see ur stil in love with the other one... move on girl! you made a choice already so just forget ur ex. Unless, u really can keep her out of your mind... i think ur mind wants your gf now, but ur heart is screaming for ur ex gf.... which are u going to listen to? your heart or mind?
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
*** unless you really CAN'T keep her out of your mind... sorry, i mistyped that part.
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
Oh my... You are really pretty! Hehehehehe ... I think I have to forget both of them because you are there ... So charming! Haha! Yes, you're right. It was really complicated for me. I am single now and loving it. I am just so grateful that I have friends who love me so much and did not turn their back on me when I need them the most. I hope to be friends with you for real. Cheers!
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
ooopppssss.... I mean "TURN THEIR BACKS."
@wisconsin26 (3861)
• United States
13 May 08
It seems to me that you two aren't made for each other anyway.. I mean think about it, it's obvious you two aren't happy she cheated on you and you cheated on her... Right? You found someone that makes you happy and well I'm sure she has too but sounds to me she came back to you... You need to follow your heart and your feelings one this one if she isn't making you happy your current girlfriend than you need to move on, life is to short not to be... I hope you find what your looking for and you do find happiness in your life...
• Philippines
13 May 08
Thanks for the advice. I think you're right. I am sticking to the wrong person. We're not meant to be. I am just scared to be alone that's why it is really hard for me to let go of my current girlfriend. I just hope that someone will take me away from her. I feel so miserable. I hate to be so romantic and in love. whaaaaaaa!!! :0(
@tigertang (1750)
• Singapore
13 May 08
Before you rush back to your ex, why did she become an ex. I mean, is it over something you can get over? If it is, I think it's probably best to go for it since she's the one that you feel most strongly about. However, if the reason for the break-up was more serious, I think you need to assess if you are really in-love with the ex or you are just fed-up with the current girl. Whatever the reason, a bit of analysis and giving it time will probably come in useful in your choice.
• Philippines
21 May 08
thank you for your advice. As what I have told in my story, we broke up because my present girlfriend who cheated on my broke us up. I just don't know if my ex will still accept me or will reject me. I am not ready right now to be regected so I decided to be alone for a moment. I need a peace of mind. And right now I think that I am not emotionally stabled so I really need to fix myself. :0(
@Insung001 (740)
• Philippines
23 May 08
Whoa! I've just started a topic quite similar (but different) to your situation bro. It's about choice we've got to make.. check it out. Be with the one you love, or the one who loves you? :)
• Philippines
23 May 08
That's nice. I will check it out later and see what makes your posting similar to mine. Hehe... Anyway, happy mylotting and keep on posting! :0)
• Philippines
23 May 08
Similar in the sense that it's a love triangle situation. But I think it's different since you're saying you love BOTH of them. Yes, check it out,I'm excited to know your choice. :)
@ryshawneo (405)
• Philippines
13 May 08
For me, it's unfair for your girlfriend. What you are doing is cheating. You should tell her how you really feel, and ask for break-up if you love your ex more than you love her. If you are still confused, ask for a time-off just for clearing your mind who do you really love! Honestly, I don't believe you can love two people at the same time. I believe that's why God gave us only one heart. To love only one person (at a time!). The best way, is to ask yourself who, and should do what's the best for everyone.. :)
• Philippines
13 May 08
Maybe my girlfriend is in karma coz she cheated on me. I did not cheated on her. I can't blame myself for loving my ex. I am really sorry for my ex, for leaving her but I am not sorry for my girlfriend for still loving my ex.
• Philippines
14 May 08
Sorry.. i commented first without reading the whole story.. :) i agree with you.. you should ask for a break-up.. that's my opinion.. you deserve to be happy.. :)
@aowaow (1517)
• Indonesia
13 May 08
*** Your current girlfriend really loves you. *** You're trapped in the middle of triangle which you created by your own. You can't hold the compassion to your ex, "I took a good shower, brush my hair, and splash myself with cologne," luckily your current girlfriend is not your wife. If she is, you're in big trouble. Do you ever think your current girlfriend's feeling, who does really love you, when you ask for separation because you love your ex? Suppose you are your current girlfriend, how is your feeling? Past love agenda must be closed, no matter how bad the separation is. Eight years is a long time. But if you cannot let go off the memory, then you're not ready for any relationships, including with your ex. She really loves you, don't you realize it? If not, she won't tell you that she'll fire her, or maybe she'll break you up as soon as she found it out. Many man dreams of a woman who loves him, a woman who can always give her man greater chances like you had, you're really a lucky man to have such a lovely woman besides you. Be a man. Face it. Your future is with your current girlfriend.
• Philippines
13 May 08
I amso sorry. I forgot to mention. She cheated on me every year in our relationship. But she can't let go of me because she knows that I truly love her. She wants me to be with her because I love her and not because she loves me. That's how I feel. Sorry, I forgot to mention that.
@aowaow (1517)
• Indonesia
13 May 08
Alright. You better cool down yourself for several days before make any decision that you will regret it for your lifetime. Seek your best friends or whoever you can trust and be talked with. Don't do anything in the meantime, decide it later when you feel better in the future. I hope you don't decide it earlier...
• New Zealand
13 May 08
Hey it depends on which one you love the most.
• Philippines
13 May 08
I don't know. I both love them. This is crazy! I am such an as*. :0(
• New Zealand
13 May 08
Well it would come down to if at all you loved the most
14 May 08
You need to be with the one who "holds your heart". Being with someone that you don't really love is unfair to yourself and to them. Take some time for yourself and figure out which of them is "the one". Just keep in mind that you really hurt the one girl last time, and she may end up breaking your heart this time!
• Philippines
16 May 08
Actually, I thought about that my ex might hurt me if we will be together gain. It's scary because I love her and if she hurts me I will be devastated. I want to go back to her but there's no guarantee that she will still love me like before. I'm beginning to have a phobia in having another relationship.
@ayrin03 (318)
• Philippines
13 May 08
maybe you better think it many times who you do more..then choose.that's it. but remember its different mercy and love
• Philippines
21 May 08
I love my ex most but I am just afraid to try to take her back again. I don't want to be rejected by hear. My heart really bleeds for her.
@tryxiness (4549)
• Philippines
13 May 08
The thing is you have to be honest to her and most importantly to yourself. Isn't it that you're cheating to yourself when your heart still loves your ex and your current girlfriend is a security blanket of sort?
• Philippines
13 May 08
I don't know. I have learned to love them both. It's not my fault if I am making my current girlfriend as my security blanket. She cheated on me and I broke up with her that's why I met my ex girlfriend. Then she broke us up, threatening me to ruin my ex girlfriend's carrer if we will not stop.
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
14 May 11
i think you are being unfair to your current girlfriend. you should probably try to break it up with her first while you sort your feelings out. you are not sure who you love more and yet you say you love them both.. i would think you might want to have them both, the other more but the other as a fall back. be fair and make sure you are not to hurt anyone else with your confused feelings...
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
7 Apr 11
Hi. 00BleedingShadow00. I think that you should just leave both women alone. One is acting shady towards you. The other girl that is your current girlfriend has cheated on you. And you have cheated on one of these girls here. It is really confusing. I just think that you should move on and be a better man to the next woman that you get involved with into a relationship. The girl that you have cheated with is this the same girl that is acting shady towards you? I think that you should just leave all of them alone and start fresh with someone else. It just seems like no matter what you do, and what happens, you will never really have both of these girls. Their hearts are in two different places right now.
• Nigeria
28 Mar 11
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@flowerhorn (1011)
• Malaysia
22 May 08
She did it once,what guarantee can see give that she will never cheat again? I know in this thing guy normally trust their heart rather than their brain. If you really want to try again, test the water gradually.Don't rush into the relationship quickly.But how about your current girlfriend?You dun love her as much as your ex,right? So now you got to make a choice,current or ex.Either way,you should not have relationship with both at the same time.You just have to think properly .The first one is not always the best but I guess in relationship we do follow our heart even though we know the dreaded outcome.
@gloreymay (882)
• Philippines
21 May 08
If you love both then it depends on whom you want to be with or whom you're happy the most.
@mayka123 (10052)
• India
21 May 08
Hey! first of all decide whether you want both these girls to be your girlfriends or just friends. You can love both but then one has to be more special than the other. You cannot keep both happy as one will not like the other and friendship is not about telling lies to each other. You have to leave one and you have to decide who is better for you and whom you like more
• Canada
14 May 08
My husband has been divorced a couple of times before, and as he says "here are reasons why we got married, and there are reasons why we got divorced." He would never dream o going back to an ex, because there is a reason why that person is an ex. If you are happy with your girlriend stick with her.
@sanell (2114)
• United States
13 May 08
This is a really tough situation. I think it is wrong that your first girlfriend had threatened to get your second girlfriend fired because she was the one that cheated on you in the first place. And not only that but perhaps you should try to talk with the other girlfriend the now ex girlfriend. I do not blame her for giving your receipt to the guard because she wants to keep her distance, and if you still have feelings for her, you need to make a choice. In the long run YES you could end up having No girlfriend at all but again you need to choose and go with your heart. GOod luck
• India
13 May 08
I think you should live with your present gf coz she was with you when you needed someone but your ex was not with you then.So now the decision is yours.