Do you suffer from "selective deafness"?

@Emiese (994)
Sweden
May 13, 2008 12:23pm CST
My boyfriend always tell me that I suffer from selective deafness, mainly that I do hear everything that is going on except for when he says something. I do not quite agree, because I think the only time I do not hear him is when he has a bad timing in saying something, eg. when I am reading or writing something, or watching an exciting movie. I normally get very caught up in what I am doing, and then I do not hear what is going on around me. Does any of you have that problem, does your partner accuse you of sufferring from selective deafness towards them, or perhaps you think that your partner is really good at selecting to ignore what you are saying? Have you had such a problem and worked it out, how did you do that?
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 May 08
My husband starts going on about finances or about the entire plot of some movie that he saw and I didn't and I definitely tune him out. Bad timing too - if he starts talking when I'm reading or something, I don't know how he thinks that I'm hearing him. But if we are actually having a conversation as opposed to him coming up to me and just yapping a me out of thin air, I make an effort to pay attention...
@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
13 May 08
It is like that though, isn't it? Doesn't always your partner manage to choose the worst of times to try to discuss things, or assuming you will listen. I have tried numerous times to tell my boyfriend that he cannot assume that I just sits readily and waits for him to say something. If I'm in the middle of something, he might just have to wait, or at least call my name to get my attention. But still it is always, supposedly, my fault that I do not listen to him.. :)
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 May 08
I try to enforce no serious talking after 10 PM in bed, but that one just keeps falling on deaf ears. And he wonders why I'm sleep deprived. :-)
@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
16 May 08
Haha! Yeah, I wonder why! :)
@rockvixen (894)
• United States
13 May 08
I really don't know. I mean I have trouble hearing but at the same time, I can hear some things. It could be, but I'm not sure. When in college I was ok hearing. You know what? Maybe I do, I may have to take note of that next time. If I do have that, then I'm really going to have to start listening better.
@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
13 May 08
Haha, yeah, now you got a name for it. Maybe you can fool someone, if they complain at you not listening. "Sorry, I suffer from selective deafness". Do you think that person will think about what you actually said? I think I have to try that myself just to see how people respond!