Why do we give flowers to your lover?

@prasanta (1947)
India
May 14, 2008 2:32pm CST
It often occurs to me -- why do we give flowers to our lovers? Plucking a flower means giving pains to the flower plant, as the plants are also living beings. Then to show love for someone, we become the cause of pain for someone else, why so?
5 responses
@mmiller26 (1932)
• Canada
15 May 08
Plants don't have nerves and as such are unable to experience pain. If they did, I'd likely feel guilty every time I ate a salad. Flowers are given as a symbol of affection, but honestly, I don't really appreciate it. I'd rather my husband do something nice for me because he's thinking of me than just buy some flowers and hand them to me. And I really don't appreciate flowers being given for holidays or anniversaries. Giving flowers "just because" is nice, but "because it's a holiday and I have to" just doesn't feel good.
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@prasanta (1947)
• India
16 May 08
You are very practical, it seems!
@mmiller26 (1932)
• Canada
16 May 08
Practical is one way of putting it, I guess. I don't need him to give me things in order to show his affection for me. Doing something nice for me to make everything I have to do easier, or a small gesture that shows he's thinking of me means far more than shelling out a few bucks for a trinket or some flowers. And I'm a naturally suspicious person. If my husband started bringing home a dozen roses or a diamond necklace or something, my first thought would be "okay, he screwed up. What did he do that he's about to ask forgiveness for?" lol. I hate the idea of giving someone something just because you have to. Like Valentine's Day. It's a completely made-up holiday to make couples shell out cash for stupid items that nobody needs and to make single people feel inadequate and lonely. My husband and I don't get each other anything for Valentine's Day because I refuse to give my money to retailers looking for an easy sale. I do lots of nice things for him during the year, and vice versa. We know how we feel about each other and demonstrate it.
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@prasanta (1947)
• India
23 May 08
Once again I say, you both are very practical. Every gift is purpose oriented in this world. Not that others do not understand that. But, people do lots of things without thinking. If a girl accepts flower from a boy, the boy feels he has been accepted by the girl. Occasionally, the vice versa is true too. But these all are useless. If the understanding does not occur spontaneously, what’s the use? If the relation is based on this, then the wife is not a wife – I will say, she turns into a Bill-Kiss Begum. Correct?
• India
26 Aug 08
hie i m student of film animation i m doing my final project of animation on this topic "don't pluck flowers" i was searching some info about what people think about flowers so i came across this discussion. i would i like to add one more point people mostly give flower to patients as saying get well soon but at that time flowers are getting die & but still they are doing their work. sad ...!!
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@prasanta (1947)
• India
3 Dec 08
I appreciate your observation. A food for thought. All the best carry on...
• India
18 May 08
"why do we give flowers to your lover?"......... even i cant tell the exact answer but let me try.... in this whole world we find only flowers very beautiful and for us even our lovers are the most beautiful thing in the world, we give pain to the flower plants cause we can do anything to see our lovers happiness.. and if plucking a flower gives yout lover happiness and gives u the chance of expressing your love for him or her then why not go ahead and do it...........
@prasanta (1947)
• India
23 May 08
I feel, it's a good attempt to explain the behaviour. But I am afraid,it is based on a weak assumption. In any case, thanks for your interest.
@djedtek (232)
• United States
16 May 08
i think its mostly for gesture but as you go further along it become meaningful. as far as the plucking of the flower goes, its more of a romance theme than anything else (unless your play the he/she loves me loves me not)
@prasanta (1947)
• India
16 May 08
God knows!
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
14 May 08
A symbol of friendship and love...
@prasanta (1947)
• India
16 May 08
But, why a symbol is necessary to prove a truth? If your lover cannot feel your emotions, why to keep such a lover?