People are only angry with those who they love. Do you think so? Why?

China
May 15, 2008 12:23pm CST
Many people say that we will be angry with someone just because it is who that we love. How about your opinion? Do you think so? Is it really that the more we love, the more we will hate?
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
20 May 08
YUp.. Because they are the closest to us and they knows us well enough.. So although they will feel hurt, but they will juts let u vent your frustations.. As compared to strangers, ple will fight back and beat u up for doing so..
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
20 May 08
Yes.. We should and normally will feel regret.. Because we are supposed to love our loved ones and that's y we call them as our loved ones.. BY right, we should not even vent our frustrations at them in the 1st place, no matter how angry we are, we should talk things nicely with them, only than we can really feel their love and care and concern for us, only we can feel that, our anger will subside too..
• China
20 May 08
Hi, Kun! The one we are close to knows us well! However, should we feel regret if we hurt him/ her deeply? Maybe we will after we vent our frustrations. Lynn
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
20 May 08
Hi, I don't think it that way. How could we love a person if we hate that person? I think we get angry to a person because we care about that person.
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• China
20 May 08
Hi, sdas! It is ture that we get angry becos we care about him or her! Perfect! Lynn
@pree_6 (434)
• India
15 May 08
yes..i believe that people get more angry when they like a person so much..when u like someone,its natural to take more rights on them...u move so very close with the person,become affectionate...even for a small silly thing u may get angry...where there is love and affection,there is scope for more anger..i have experienced it in my life..i have had this experience with my parents and friends... when u like a person,moved so very affectionate,be very loyal and suddenly u detach,there will be lot of anger and ill feeling...
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• China
20 May 08
hi, Pree! I also have had such kind of experience with my BF. Altough I hated him so much at the very beginning when we detached, I found that I actually was very happy. It is just like that I get a new life! I really appreciate him. Maybe I did not love hime so much as I thought! IF I did love him, I might hate him now! Lynn:)
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
20 May 08
Hi, I think that we get angry to a person because we care for that person. It is the feeling of love that make us angry.
• China
20 May 08
Thanks, Sdas! Lynn
• China
29 May 08
That's ok, guy. :) Lynn
@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
29 May 08
Right and wrong. Right because most people really get angry to those they love. Because there are people who only get affected only to those they love. Wrong because there are also some who still get annoy and angry to other who they don't love, strangers per se specially if they have done something wrong. So I think it is still depends on the person.
• China
29 May 08
I totally agree with you. Maybe I am too ex parte when I started the discussion. Thank you for your post. Lynn
• India
15 May 08
well it is simple to explain we always feel free to show our feeling toward a person who we feel are closest to us
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• China
20 May 08
hi, thepheonix! YES, you are right! We are easy to expose our emotion to our close friends without any consideration. Lynn:)
• Singapore
26 May 08
Lol, I beg to differ. I think people can be angry with anyone they love or hate or just neutral about. But if you are talking about more unique situations like betrayals, then yes, it hurts and angers more when they are done by people they love. Cheers!
• China
26 May 08
Yes, it really is! Thank you for your response. Lynn
@MsCYPRAH (394)
20 May 08
I think that is true to some extent because the people we love tend to be in the firing line, being closest for the brickbats to be thrown at them. But I think we get angry the most at people who reflect the faults we believe we have within us and do not like. So we project them outwards on to others. For example, we might like to hear some gossip of others, but dislike others gossiping about us too. Hence we would get angry with someone for simply being a gossip while ignoring the fault in ourselves. So, whenever we find fault with anyone and get angry with them for their behaviour it is a sure bet that they are exhibiting something we have in ourselves and are desperately trying to repress.
• China
20 May 08
Hi, MsCyprah! Thanks for ur great opinion! It is really that we always criticize others but we often forget our own faults.Lynn
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@ellie333 (21016)
27 May 08
We are safe to be angry with our loved ones as they will still love us even though we are angry with them for a moment in time. It is unconditional love. I think it would be unhealhy not to get angry sometimes as none of us are perfect and can upset and frustrate people at times without even realising we have done it. Ellie :D
• China
29 May 08
Yes, you are right. Maybe we do not do it on purpose. The one who we love usually can bear our unreasonable manners but others cannot. LOL Thank you for your post. Lynn
@yellows (245)
• Malaysia
15 May 08
Yes I do agree 70 % with that statement that people are only angry with those who they love. 30 % else people will angry with others people that make wrong to them or annoying them. Those who they love, for example, parents will angry with their kids if the kids are too naughty or make something that not sense to them. I think this is good to angry to their kids sometimes so the kids will know what their fault. A lover also sometimes getting agry with a lover because of many thing such as jealous, mad etc. People around that we do not love also make us angry, for example, we will angry to others driver that too rude in the road.
• China
20 May 08
hi, yellows! Good conclusion! We can not wish iron could turn into steel at once. Therefore, we are often angry with those who we love! Of course, they are some people angry just because others do wrong with them. Lynn
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• India
20 May 08
I guess we shout or get angry wit the person we love becos we are in a relationship/ position to express what ever we feel like n not pretend to be someone else.So its definelty true that we tend to get more angry--perhaps its not out of hate or expectations but its just an expression of frustration.
• China
20 May 08
Hey, Walnut! Your right! We hate not because of ill feelings but becos of expressing frustration. Maybe it is a kind of expectation. Lynn
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@excellence7 (3647)
• Mauritius
20 May 08
Its not necessary that we can only be angry at someone whom we love; yet, its very true that when being angry with our close one is justified, as love is not about only ups, but it englobes bad phases as well..
• China
26 May 08
That's true. Thanks excellence7. Lynn