Do you get that feeling that your life is in standby?

@lorelai (1558)
May 17, 2008 1:47pm CST
Sometimes I feel that everybody is living there lives except me. I decided to go back to university about a year ago and now when think about my friends I see that I am left behind. Most of them work, and some of them get really good money so they can travel and see the world go out and do whatever they like. By contrast, I have to study I have to put aside every cent to pay the university fees and rent and I can't really afford to go out with them or travel with them because I don't have the money but also because I have to study and I don't have that much time between the lessons and studing at home for the exams. That really brings me down sometimes. What about you? Do you feel your life is in stand by? Whay?
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• Philippines
17 May 08
hey lorelai, yes i know exactly what you mean. that is what im feeling now. and im hating the fact that im in this situation. i feel like im the person left behind and everyone else is moving on up and doing a whole lot of things that they want to do. its frustrating sometimes, but i just have to take it with a grain of salt. i feel down about it but i realize that its sort of my fault and i have no one else to blame but me. and i just have to keep doing what im doing until im finished with it so that i can start a new chapter in my life. and that would make me stop myself from becoming more and more down about the situation.. i just have to make something out of it. i just cant wait to do that. i hope you would snap out of it soon. i know and feel that we can do so much better when we get to finish this :) cheers!
@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
22 May 08
I know what you mean, I feel the same, I know I am the one to blame for this feeling but I just can't help myself although I try. I want'a new chapter too because if I continue this way I will stay even more behinde and other people will just continue their lives so I would feel worst every day.
• United States
21 May 08
As a pre-med student, I have this feeling a lot. Knowing I will be in school for at least five more years makes it difficult to really start my life. I don't feel I can get married, buy a house, or travel right now. However, I know that I want to be a doctor and my love of medicine keeps me going. You have to love what you're studying, and then, the sacrifices aren't so bad. Also, many people who make lots of money right out of school end up not liking their jobs and even going back to school for a different career. The important thing to do when you are young is to figure out what you really love and want to do for the rest of your life. Everything else will come in time.
@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
22 May 08
Thanks for your respond I agree with you. My sister studies medicine so she has to study a lot and she know that she is going to need a lot of money to finish the studies so she can't afford trips or things like that. But when you two become doctors I am quite sure you'll be able to keep up with things you couldn't do while you were students.
@doctorul (1063)
• Romania
17 May 08
O yes!
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@dartman2 (124)
• Canada
17 May 08
I think we all must have these feelings from time-to-time, lorelai. Occasionally I wonder if I retired too soon to be able to afford those things and activities that we want for the future. They will come in time but in addition, the decision that I made has changed my life in so many positive ways, that having more money, beyond necessities, is far less important. I can only see your choice to return to school as a positive one, as it is you that you are interested in developing and growing. The struggle is knowing that this is important to you, in spite of the frivolity afforded by others. In the end, I am sure you will know that the changes brought about in you by remaining a student (we should always be student-like in our thinking, always willing to learn) are far more significant in your life than taking a job now and spending some money for fun.
@p_vadla (1687)
• India
23 May 08
I'm trying to be busy these days so that I am free of some wasteful thoughts to some extent.Who asked you to be lagging ? It is only our comparison with others that is making us down.Its our feeling towards ourselves.We are not kind to our selves.Setting aside some time for making money while learning can also help.Every one has their own problems.Why waste time thinking about it.Nobody is going to come to our rescue how much pitiably we think about ourselves.Anyway, good luck for ACTION!