Are you a SAHM or a working mom?

United States
May 19, 2008 1:32pm CST
I am a stay-at-home-MeeMee. My husband and I made the decision 32 years ago when we got married that I would not work outside the home. We agreed we'd sacrifice so I could be at home with our kids. We have three kids and I was able to be at home with them. We really had to sacrifice but God never ceased to awe us. He would send me opportunites to babysit many many other children plus I was church secretary but was able to work at home. I tried selling products from home, etc. Every one of these helped contribute to our household income. Well, now our children are grown and two of them have children of their own and we have three grandchildren and one due in September. I am still blessed to be at home and take care of my grand-children when I am needed. I do work online trying to still bring in a little more money. I realize it is much harder these days for young families bit to have two incomes. My daughter and daughter-in-law both have to work to make ends meet these days. What do you do?
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14 responses
• Regina, Saskatchewan
19 May 08
I divorced for the first time when my kids were very young. I started a business I could work from home, wrote a lot freelance and stayed available to my kids 24/7 for the next 15 years. Now I am many many years older, and facing divorce again. I have began working outside my home when my kids grew up, but for the past year have been unable to work due to back problems. After this divorce I want to leave the country and set up a new life somewhere else - a small bookshop maybe, or design service, I'm not sure yet. I just know that I can't stay at home 24/7 or I'll go mad.
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@Sherry12 (2475)
• United States
20 May 08
I'd love to have a bookshop. That sounds like fun.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
20 May 08
To be surrounded daily by the words of great writers, to be able to dip into that pool of lyrical beauty any time I wanted.................absolute heaven!
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• United States
20 May 08
Spark! You continue to follow your dream! You go and get what you want. We all have the choice to just wish or to do all we can to make it happen. I'll whisper a prayer for you! Thanks for the post and God bless you!
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@eihdra (3116)
• Philippines
20 May 08
I'm also a stay at home mom. The last time I worked full time was 1999. I had to give up working because my pregnancy was delicate. I was 29 at the time. When I gave birth, my son had congenital abnormalities, so, working 9-5 was out of the question. My husband is the only one who has a steady income so, I thought I'd look here in the net..Found many good paying sites and so been doing it for awhile now..
• United States
20 May 08
Oh, bless your heart! How is your son now? You are doing such a special thing staying at home and taking care of you son! What kind of programs do you do online? Check my profile out for my blog to see what all I do.
• United States
20 May 08
Eihdra, I forgot to tell you thanks for the post and God bless you!
@eihdra (3116)
• Philippines
21 May 08
My son's ok now except for a little balancing problems, so, sometimes he still stumbles and fall. But mentally he's fine..Thanks for asking..Will check out your blog..thanks again..
• United States
19 May 08
I'm a sahm as well, and we do have to make extreme sacrifices, but I believe it is worth it for us. We have 5 kids.
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• United States
20 May 08
I always thought it was well worth the sacrifices also. I was able to raise my kids and not have to let some daycare of someone else raise them for me. I am not saying that in a bad way against any that has to work outside the home but I just feel so blessed that I was able to do this. Thanks for the post and God bless you!
• United States
16 Jun 08
I am a SAHM as well of 2 kiddos. I also homeschool them and I have always done both of these. Some days it is very hard but most days are very rewarding. Things are tight with 1 income and I have done sales out of our home the normal SAHM things but right now I don't. We take it a day at a time and strive to be smart with what we do with out money and time. My kiddos are great kids and I feel if because I give them the time. I didn't get that as a kid and it was hard they have it and we all have learned alot from each other.
@jashley1 (746)
• United States
21 May 08
Yes - I am also a stay at home mom and my husband and I, after much prayer, came to the conclusion that it was God's will for me to do so! I have been very blessed to stay at home and although it has been a huge sacrifice regarding finances, the Lord has never ceased to make provision! Thank Jesus! So, I'm very happy to be home and I've found ways to make money from home so it's all working out very well!
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• United States
21 May 08
God will supply you needs. It is well worth the financial sacrifices to be able to get to stay at home with your children. Thanks for the post and God bless you.
@lieanat (1140)
• Malaysia
20 May 08
hi, mamacathie,I am still single. But really blessed to see how God has bless you so much even you are a SAHM (stay-at-home-MeeMee). If i got married, I'll sure work rather than just sitting at home unless I can earn money through online. hahahah.
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• United States
21 May 08
If you want to work after you get married, then you go for it. Thanks for the post and God bless you.
@biggerb (2028)
• India
20 May 08
I am a SAHM.I got married 25 years ago.At that time we girls were not that pushy or outgoing like the younger lot today.I had no regrets about it.Now when my son is grown up and my hubby is always out on his work.I feel I'm sitting idle at home.Maybe if I could work the income would come handy and I too could spend my time in a useful manner.After so many years of sitting at home I dont think I can do a 9-5 job.So I try my hand at making stuff and selling it.I feel good, making money and I am happy that I'm not in the rat race.That's not for me atleast.I'm very content with what Iam today.
• United States
21 May 08
I have been married for 32 years and I agree we, girls, were not as outgoing! I have been contented staying at home then and still am. I am so thankful that I can stay at home and do what my family needs me to do. You are very blessed also. God bless you and thanks for the post.
@nupats (3564)
• India
20 May 08
hi, it is important to give time to ur children atleast in their formative years as they need the emotional security more than anything else. the right moral values need to be imbibed in them frm childhood. i have a three year old but still he needs me so much leaving him in a day care or with a baby sitter would be unfair and i will miss something very precious that is to see him grow and speak new things , new songs, his attempts at dancing and so many new things he does that just makes me laugh and enjoy every moment. i am thankful to God to have given me an opportunity of working from home some odd jobs that gives me my financial independence too...and can be with my baby all day...and see him grow into a good human being. we are more than happy with what we manage we need to look for contentment bcoz there is no end to wants. and when he is older i plan to pick a part time job so that i m back home when he comes frm school. i hope my dream of seeing him touch great heights some day comes true.....and finally when he is settled we intend having our small beachside seafood joint and stay cool..
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• United States
21 May 08
Yes you are so blessed and I am so proud of you. Enjoy your precious one and all those things that make you laugh and brand memories in your mind and heart that you will not ever forget. Yes, those things are worth more than any extra $$ can bring. God bless you and thanks for posting.
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
20 May 08
I'm a SAHM. We are making it for now but once they kids start school which will be 4 years from now I am suppose to go back to work. I am hoping that it will be at the school so I can have off when the kids have off. Right now I do things online to bring in a little extra money. I did try to sell avon but wasn't too successful with that. I am happy that I am getting the chance to spend this time with them even though at times I do wish I could get out and do something to help out more then I do. Thats great that you get to stay home with your grandkids. I wouldn't trust my mom with my kids to stay home with them all the time since she did lose my daughter twice. Thank God someone we knew found her both times. I'm not taking the chance again.
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• United States
20 May 08
I am so sorry about your mom! I'm glad you get to stay at home with your kids. If you were to go back to work and it was at the school that would be ideal! Thanks for the post and God bless you!
@Sherry12 (2475)
• United States
20 May 08
I did both. I had to work when my 2 oldest sons were little. But, I was able to stay home with my youngest ones. Now, with my youngest graduating from high school, I'm not sure what I'll be doing. I'm working on my blog, I will probably get more involved with blogging.
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• United States
20 May 08
Sherry, you have been on both sides of the fence. I know you are a great writer and I hope you get to stay at home and blog and write! Thanks for the post and God bless you!
@paliz81 (35)
• United States
20 May 08
I'm also a stay at home mom with 5 kids. It's not easy, especially with prices going up but when I think about what I would miss I wouldn't trade it. Everyone has talked about the sarcifices they have to make but on the other side of the fence there are a lot harder one to make.
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• United States
20 May 08
I agree completely with you. I feel those working have sacrificed so much more by losing the time with their kids. Way to Go! Paliz! I am so happy for you that you have also been blessed to get to stay at home! God bless you and thanks for the post.
@kylesmiles (1914)
• United States
19 May 08
I am a stay at home/work at home mom and love it. I can stay at home with our son. My husband works full time outside of the home and thankfully loves his job. We are in a new city/state and now live on another coast. It's far from my family but we're making it work. We are a family. :)
• United States
20 May 08
I admire you also for staying at home with your kids. I do know you have to be missing your family but it sounds like you are doing a great job! Thanks for the post and God bless you! What do you do to earn $$ at home?
@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
19 May 08
I am a stay at home mom now, and hope to stay at home at least until all of my kids are in school. So far we just have a 2 year old, but we are trying for another one now, and we may or may not have more after that. Being a stay at home mom does take a lot of sacrifices. I do some work online and bring in around $300-350 per month, so that helps a lot. Some of my husband's friends have a hard time understanding why he can't go out with them every weekend and blow through half his paycheck the way they do. My husband is totally ok with not going out with his friends all the time, though. He agrees that what is best for our family is for me to be at home with my toddler.
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• United States
20 May 08
Yes, that is the best thing. It is such a precious time to watch your children grow and not have someone else to tell you what you have missed because you had to work outside the home and leave your child with someone else. You are also blessed so dearly to have a husband that agrees with that also. I am very interested in what you do to make the $300-$350/month online. I am checking out your profile. If you don't have it in your profile, I'll be pm'ing you. LOL Thanks for the post and God bless you!
@maia0129 (91)
• Philippines
19 May 08
Hi mamacathie! I really admired you for doing such sacrifice for your family. I know it is not easy to just stay at home and take care of the family but I exactly understand how fulfilling it is. I'm sure your children had the best time of their lives especially when they were little kids because their mom was always there for them and now your grandchildren. I salute you for that!
• United States
20 May 08
Awwwwwwwwwwwwww! Maia! You have embarrassed me! I did not start this discussion for any praise on my part! But I do thank you so much for the sweet and kind words! I just feel so blessed that I am allowed to do this. Thanks for you sweet words of praise and God bless you!
• United States
20 May 08
I'm a working mom. I work full-time and my hubby is a stay at home dad ( a combo of health insurance for my oldest son, 1st marriage and a surgery for him were the reasons for his choice) I really wanted my husband to understand what it takes to care for a baby/toddler/young child and he reaaly appreciated the opportunity, since our son was a "gift" that came later in life (he was 41 when our son was born) I do create handmade jewelry as a part-time business, but hubby does much of the computer work for my online business and he also handles many of the the little online businesses that we are involved in. Many of the craft posts on myLot are mine, but some of the making money posts are his, along with all the sports threads that are participated in. So the secret is out...lol...but he's really not a myLot type of guy.
• United States
21 May 08
LOL! You both are so blessed! Money making ideas?? I am very interested. Thanks for the post and God bless you.