Upset wives and cold dinners

I wish I was like them (Rahel Ray or Bobby Flay), but I only cook what I know and what I can. I think the only difference is, your hubby has someone to do things easier for him. He's lucky and so you are, in some ways or another..

You may never know, raijin. My youngest sister, before she got married can't even fry a decent egg. But when she met her husband and he's a little hard to please when it comes to food, she taught herself and now, she's a very good cook. Life has many surprises. Maybe someday when I watch the Food Network Channel, I'll see you there, having your food demo show. But I admire guys like you. Who knows how to cook and doesn't depend on anyone to feed them. I've noticed my almost 5 year old son is always curious when I'm cooking. He even tries to get the spatula so he can do the mixing. But I only let him come near when I'm not frying anything. Is this a sure sign that he'll grow up, knows how to cook?

Hi raijin. Long time, no hear!Your future wife will be so lucky. Usually, it's the women who does the cooking and the men waits for his food. But like you, I have a brother-in-law who knows how to cook, too. He shares the responsibility of preparing the food when it's his day-off. And his cooking is just wonderful. Well, my husband knows the basics. He fries eggs, he fries fish, and he fries chickens. Oh, did I mention that he will fry everything there is to fry!So, obviously, it's up to me to cook a more decent meal. I'm not a great cook, actually. I can't line up myself with Rachel Ray or Bobby Flay. But I do know a lot more than just frying everything. You're like my husband when it comes to cold food. Sometimes when he's already very hungry and I need to re-heat the food, he won't wait anymore. He'll eat it cold and that's fine with him. And you're the same, too when it comes to choosing the bed or the food. Like you, when he's very tired from work, all he wants to do is to lie down and immediately go to sleep. Even when there's a warm, good food waiting for him.

Are you married?My husband is the one who has a little difficulty trying to convey his true feelings. And sometimes I wish I have the magical powers to pinpoint what he really feels. And sometimes he tells me that I'm too passionate for my own good!

I'm not yet married but soon. Anyway, my psychologist friend explained the physiological effect between a man and woman. When one is positive, the other is negative. I think this is true with most relationships.

I'm happy for you.. and goodluck, too. I just have to say that marriage will give you lots of surprises. The good and the bad. Your friend is right. My husband and I are exact opposites. I'm always the optimist and the one who smiles a lot. Well, before we got married. Now, I still have lots of reason to smile and laugh, and lots of reason to frown upon. But as they say, opposites attract. And the chemistry is just great!

that was not my cas he was never home when I fixed dinner but if it had of happened I surpose I wouldnt heat it up

But when the two of you had some argument... and it's almost dinner time. Do you still even bother making his food warm or he can eat it cold?

I do envy couples who makes it a point in sharing household responsibilities. And that includes the cooking part. You know, muscare, I admire your wife for drinking that coffee without blinking an eye!For coffee drinkers like us, who likes their coffee with milk and sugar, I bet it was an extra challenge for her to drink it up without making any reaction. And when all things have been said and carefully explained, the good part comes in. That is being able to laugh about what happened.

I think it was definitely a challenge for my wife, and there I was, watching her smugly, not knowing she was enjoying her coffee even less than I'd intended her to, LOL! We still find it funny even now, after all those years.

Thank you so much for your nice comment.

Thank you a great deal for the best response, my dear jcj friend.

Hello william. Nice to hear from you again.That's so sweet of you. I bet that when you try to make your wife smile again, the next meal you're going to get will be extra special.

Hello kabayan.Hmmm...I checked your profile and where you come from. Are you one of my former classmates?Or you're thinking I belong to one specific social site? The last part of your comment was so sweet, ayessa. Well, your husband is the exact opposite of my husband when it comes to saying the words, "I'm sorry". Usually when we have our arguments, we try to avoid each other's paths inside the house. A silent war starts until the next day and sometimes it stretches to a couple of days more. Then after those silent war days, it's as if nothing has happened. He starts talking to me. Oh, and that is his way of saying he's sorry and he surrenders! I understand the part of trying to eat with your "enemy" just right in front of you at the dinner table. Makes it hard to swallow. hehehe. But as you have mentioned, your arguments doesn't last that so long that it may create more problems, resentment and hostility in the end.

Oops, sorry that's not me. The only social site I joined was owned by Margie Holmes. hehehe. And the avatar I used was the lead actress in the movie "Memoirs of a Geisha". I just found out yesterday, that there's another member who's also using the exact animated avatar that I'm using. -Sighing- My husband had a little counseling in our church before we got married. And it was also advised that any arguments should be seated right before the couple close their eyes and go to sleep at night. Hey, we did that as long as we could. But you're absolutely right. There are just some arguments that can't be resolved in one day. It needs some time.

Do you belong to any social site in our country? Coz I do and I saw the same avatar that you are using at that site. I remember during the seminar on marriage counselling it was said that any arguments or misunderstanding between couples should be resolved within that say or before the day it about to end. We've been practicing that but it is really hard specially if you are not satisfied with the explanation or the apology that your husband said.

My husband does eat a cold meal when I've no time to warm it and he's already hungry. And he doesn't care if it's cold. As long as it fills up his stomach.

You still can cook, cd, and eat that. But to have your little revenge, you can put that wonderful dish you made and put it in a storage, transparent box and if it's possible, have it chained and locked!!!Hmmm.... I wonder how your husband will react when he sees that box on top of your dinner table?And not to mention, he's also very, very hungry.

My husband only goes to bed without any dinner when he's very tired from a 24-hour hospital duty. And his need for sleep overcomes his need for food. Sometimes I do ask him if he appreciates all that I do for him. And he tells me that he does. He just doesn't say it everyday. But he can see my efforts and that he's silently thankful. But you know what, there was a time that I was still angry at him but I knew that I can't let him go to bed hungry. So, I made his dinner but ohhh.... I wanted to put lots of pepper in it!!! And want to see his reaction as he eats it... But that's a nasty thing to do... So, I just imagine myself doing it!