Is loneliness easier to deal with than getting hurt
By cautionhot01
@cautionhot01 (418)
Philippines
May 20, 2008 10:55pm CST
What would you prefer.. lonely because no one is there for you..
Or getting hurt because someone dumped you..
13 responses
@Gmdem13 (156)
• United States
29 May 08
I am a very emotional person, although i have only been dumped once, it hurt every time i lost someone. Although it hurt so much, i think i would rather be dumped and go through the pain knowing that somewhere, they still care the slightest, or even that they once did than being lonely and not knowing that anyone cared. i think knowing is more important than having.
@Gmdem13 (156)
• United States
29 May 08
I try. My feeling is that if i feel im old enough and mature enough to start in a relationship, i have to be able to take the troubles and consequences. i have been in many different relatinships, abusive, and puppy love, and i've learned that no matter how long you look, it might take a while before you find someone that actually cares about you. for you. i found him 7 months ago. and i am happy. as for being dumped, if it so happened that we dont last, and he breaks up with me. id rather go through the pain knowing that hes always going to care on some level, someone loved me for me at some point, and i still have all of the memories.
@cautionhot01 (418)
• Philippines
29 May 08
You are such a brave person even though you know that you will get to hurt in the process you still want to go through it all because you want to experience being loved even once. I think you're the person that gives your all when falling in love. That's only my opinion based on your response.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
21 May 08
I guess it is, because being by being alone and lonely, you get to find what your true purpose is and seek for something that you'd enjoy doing. I can't stand being hurt, broken-hearted or emotionally lost because my mind is not working at all. I always feel uneasy, always wary and emotionally unstable.
@cautionhot01 (418)
• Philippines
21 May 08
Wouldn't you want to experience the feeling of love by someone even it was just a certain of time?
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
21 May 08
Yes, but let's just say that I've been into that same situation you're pertaining to right now. But if in-case the other party doesn't feel the same way about you, then you'll only hurt yourself more. It's better if you'd just focus your attention on SOMETHING else (not someone), just to keep yourself busy and to divert your emotion..
@neha211985 (780)
• India
29 May 08
I like to live lonely then geting dumped but I think without hurt no one will know what love means.
@cautionhot01 (418)
• Philippines
30 May 08
I think so too. You'll appreciate love more when you have experienced being hurt. Living a lonely life is like playing it safe.
@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
21 May 08
These are two bad situation anyone does not want to be. Being dumped by someone also makes you feel lonely even you have friends you could count on specially if you have loved so much that person who dumped you.
I have been hurt and dumped by someone and I was also been lonely both were so depressing situation. IF I was given a chance to choose between being hurt and being lonely I'll choose to be lonely.
Loneliness can just be a state of mind where we think there's is no one to be there for us but if you just look around you there's a lot of people who wanted to be with you and share their time with you. Unlike being hurt and dumped you will also feel emptiness and unuseful any anybody. Besides no one really can be so lonely in the world if he just have a personal relationship with god who's been there always.
@excellence7 (3647)
• Mauritius
21 May 08
Being lonely, doesn't necessarily suggest that one needs to be sorrowful, thereby I would opt for being lonely, rather than being dumped..
@jyoti_medha (567)
• Mauritius
21 May 08
I agree with you kevin because one can feel lonely even between thousands of people because one of the reason maybe that he does not like the environment. But being dumped by some1 is really very sorrowful.
@Sweettatas01 (443)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I actually would rather get dumped... basically because its something that I learn from... something that makes me stronger and become who I will be in the future.
I cannot stand to be lonely... I rather have a shoulder to cry on momentarily than to be lonely.
@benx22 (87)
• Philippines
31 May 08
being in both situations would be a challenge for me on how i could manage my emotions. but if to choose, i'd rather feel lonely than hurt. i'd rather feel loneliness because that would make me feel that i miss someone and that somebody misses me. when someone senses my loneliness, he/she would give all the comfort that i long.
but when i am hurt, i don't know what to do. i am a person who tend to hide the pain from others. i don't want to show them my weakness.
@luckycat (220)
• Bolivia
31 May 08
BOth can hurt.right? Sometimes i want to be alone.I can clear up my mind alone.But sometimes i hope someone is there for me when i need help.So i think it's very hard to say which one i prefer.Maybe getting hurt is better.because at least i was not alone at that time.
@lovenluck (1068)
• India
29 May 08
Lonliness is better i guess. When you get into a relationship you put in all you have in the relationship. You put in your faith ,your trust and every feeling into it and When someone breaches it it hurt and hurts real bad. So it's better stay alone, live in a world were there is no one else to hurt with you and play with your emotions.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
21 May 08
YES. Loneliness is much easier to deal with than getting hurt. Loneliness is a fact that you have noone with you right now. And sooner or later you'll have that someone too. Being dumped is a sad fact that you are not good enough to that person. Which further means that you did not reach the qualifications they are looking for. But remember, we can not please everybody, so don't be sad, it's normal, we're humans and we're not perfect. Smile! Take care =)
@excellence7 (3647)
• Mauritius
24 May 08
I think yes...loneliness is better in some way..I have ben betrayed in love..since then I don't trust anyone easily,.
@Albert1989 (372)
• Malaysia
1 Aug 10
Being lonely from a broken heart is never easy to deal with. In fact, it can be a very difficult thing to handle all together. When your heart is broken, you probably feel sad, frustrated and just plain miserable.
Well, i know you and feel your pain.
Just try to think ways and seek advices to overcome loneliness and move on with your life^^
