What should do to kill loneliness?

@gxnfly (1147)
China
May 21, 2008 4:43am CST
"I feel so alone." Have you ever say the say sentence or something similar to it? It sneaks up on you. You think you're okay. You think you're going to make it. "Then loneliness descends on you like a cloud of nothingness. You can hardly breathe. You are paralyzed. Then you get angry with yourself",just like what's said in an article I 've read. I have a friend who told me once that you can die from loneliness. I think loneliness can make depression so unbearable that dying would be a pleasant solution. So what can you do to kill loneliness instead of it killing yourself?
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28 responses
• Southend-On-Sea, England
21 May 08
I spend a lot of time alone and when I first found myself in this situation, I thought "I'm going to turn this into an advantage"......so I hunted through lots of quotation books, and found the ideal one. It's by Duc De La Rouchefoucauld, and the quotation is..... "When In Solitude, Be A Multitude To Thyself". That was over 20 years ago. Since then I've built up a world for myself whereby I do things that are solitary, and I enjoy them very much (like listening to music, doing things on the internet, reading, all sorts really) that if another person were with me, I'd not be able to participate in these enjoyable things. It's tempting to say that if you feel lonely, get out and meet people, even if it's just going for a walk or looking round the shops, but personally I've found that can make it worse as you have to come home again, and there's always that "lonely in a crowd" feeling which for me can be worse than actually being totally alone. Another phrase I came across once which a friend used to say to people when they asked her if she ever felt lonely after her bad marriage broke up..... her answer always was...... "I'd rather be alone than wish I was". I really hope things improve for you soon.
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
22 May 08
Bravo!!! A wonderful response.
• Southend-On-Sea, England
22 May 08
wow thanks!! :-)
@excellence7 (3477)
• Mauritius
25 May 08
Simply do things that keeps you happy dear, you know, not every activity is applicable, accessible nor pleases everybody, so its you who knows yourself best :)
• United States
24 May 08
Make friends with alone and with yourself. Loneliness is internal not external. You can decide to enjoy who you are and when you do loneliness will pretty much stay away from you. Be friends with who you are. Being comfortable with yourself can make you feel connected to others. I think we all seek at least one person who really knows us and understands who we are but, we don't seem willing to be that one person for ourselves. You are not alone, you have you. If you embrace that you'll be surprised how often that draws others to you.
@excellence7 (3477)
• Mauritius
24 May 08
I think you must have some fun partying with friends, getting in activities, and keep your mind busy with work related things or being in companion of friends or relatives and family.
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
22 May 08
I was really looking forward to responding to this but it seems a bit pointless unless the poster is reading and commenting on the responses. It's a discussion forum you know. You are supposed to discuss things,.
@chubibo (295)
• Philippines
22 May 08
when im lonely or bored, i usually surf the net or play online game. sometimes i will watch movie or just take a sleep. happy posting!
@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
22 May 08
i never actually feel that lonely before until i want to kill myself... i always have friends around me or my hubby to be there for me... so i can say that i am fortunate to be surrounded by people who love me... so i'm sorry if i can't give a good suggestion here... take care and have a nice day...
@dragxgt (119)
• Philippines
22 May 08
Loneliness... youre not alone girls are everywhere man just look and youll find the "heavenly Happiness"... enjoy life you'll never know when will it end. dont be stress
• China
22 May 08
Somethimes I fell so alone without friend and parent concen me .But if I have the feelings .I aways play computer games and do exercise.So i can fell better.
• New Zealand
22 May 08
Hi dear friend,oh how cruel can loneliness be.It rips my heart apart to think of it,yet continuosly i live in its shawdow.Poor are those souls who are lonely in midst of everyone.I am one of them.Today as always i feel so lonely.I have a few things to complete and I am trying my level best to concentrate in getting things done but this loneliness keep getting back at me. Many a times loneliness creeps out of things undone.I mean if you have something on your agenda that you would like to happen and if it does not you feel lonely for you know sometyhing alludes you. Yes loneliness just keeps growing on you.Its better to die than be lonely, for lonliness is equalent to breathing in a souless body!!! Many times i just give in to loneliness and crib and cry the who day.Wish someones comes to share the abundant time in my life.Its sadd we do have work to complete yet the feeling does not permit us to move.
@rirbry (353)
• Malaysia
22 May 08
i do think being alone can make someone become mental, no one can live alone in their life, i was suggesting if you are a shy person you can try making friend in the internet but if you are a social person there is no such thing as loneliness =0
• United States
21 May 08
chandwani gave you a most excellent answer. I often feel alone even in a crowd of people. I have made the internet my home to keep me from being alone. This is only a temporary fix though. It has caused me to gain weight and to be too solitary to go outside and enjoy life again. I hope you seek the help of a good friend or a professional. You are going through a depression dear heart and it can be fixed with medication and/or talk therapy. Exercise is a key also. Now if I can just get my fat fanny away from the computer and take my own advice, and you will listen to me - we will both be doing better. ~Blessed Be ~D
@sun2day (1063)
• Virgin Islands (U.S.)
21 May 08
Call up someone who you know via phone, go out with a friend or friends. If you have someone who you confide in, ask them to go out with you. First you may want to exprees your feeling. Most friends are willing to listen and are would be willing to go to a good movie or something like that. There are many options like watching a humerous movie,but best option up a call a friend. Best wishes
• Canada
21 May 08
you can get a pet , they are very friendly dont kill yourself, seriously dont
• Bulgaria
21 May 08
mmmmmmmmmmmm. loneliness=sadness=depression. anti-loneliness=anti-sadness=anti-depression
• Bulgaria
21 May 08
I invite some friends, I mean a people who I know very well. Some times I go for a walk or in the university library to talk to the librarian. I like to meet some people who I know.
@zeroflashx2 (2491)
• Philippines
21 May 08
Life is short. The world out there has a lot to offer. Go out and discover what you've been missing. There are billions of people to meet, thousands of places to go, but a short time to spare. You have us here at mylot and you already have a tiny glimpse of what life has to offer. Give thanks to everything that you have. You won't feel lonely. :)
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
21 May 08
I try to get involved. If a person has friends they haven't made contact with then they should try to get in touch with them. The important thing is to get out or call people. Church activities can be good for some people. Volunteers are often needed for hospices, nursing homes, animal shelter,etc. Thats a great way to meet some really nice people.
@aigege (45)
• China
21 May 08
Recently I often felt lonely,and I want to talk with friends.But they are busy with their study and part-time job.I choose to write blog and chat with my mum who is always glad to be my listener.
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
21 May 08
DO not think you are alone, why not go out and have fun with your friends? sometimes, it is our choice.. IF you wanted to dwell on your loneliness make sure you can handle it. If not, this will only make you feel more sad. Think of things to make you happy instead, meet new friends, watch movies, dine out with siblings.. Find someone to talk to, laugh or joke with. Being alone is stressful...